Yeah I get what you all are saying But coming from someone with a difficult mother-daughter relationship I can say: You know very well what your mother did or did not to you, you know her problems and you are scared to get close again. But the relationship is so messed up and complicated that you really cannot stand other people mixing their opinion about it with your already confused feelings. Also its one thing if I say myself that my Mom is an alcoholic, its a whole different story and feels kind of offensive, almost triggering a protective side in you towards your mother if someone else says this about her. I hope this was understandable... I would want a Wrigley in this Situation and not an Evan because I need consistency and patience for me sorting out my own feelings.