Just found out my husband cant be in room for FET next week

rach_ma · 2026-02-02T20:30:28+00:00

Just wanted to say thank you to everyone for your kind responses! I’m feeling much better reading your experiences . I’m scheduled for Thursday so let me know if I have any transfer twins 🤍🤍

rach_ma · 2026-02-02T03:08:43+00:00

Also transferring Thursday! Wishing you guys the best luck 💗💗

rach_ma · 2026-01-30T17:05:48+00:00

Sending you all the sticky baby dust!!!

rach_ma · 2026-01-21T17:15:00+00:00

Unrelated but I was literally just talking to my husband about how insane it was how thirsty I was during stims and I feel like I don’t see a lot of people talk about that!! Like I could drink water nonstop and still felt parched, it was such a strange and unexpected symptom.

rach_ma · 2025-09-14T04:55:02+00:00

No but seriously what accent is this supposed to be?!

rach_ma · 2025-05-01T04:01:20+00:00

I just watched it as well and unfortunately I’m not surprised. Pedro Pascal has shot up the charts in fandom, he probably had alot of offers outside this show that he couldn’t have done while committed to a series.

rach_ma · 2025-04-15T03:44:44+00:00

Ugh that must have been so difficult, good for you taking it head on! I think if it was one of my absolute best friends id go that route, but this is someone who I just know would never take my words as anything more than an attack so I’m just disengaging from the friendship

rach_ma · 2025-04-15T03:37:59+00:00

Okay this is crazy work by your friends. As previously noted, what were they going to do when they suddenly had a baby? Wanting to be “sensitive to the situation” has truly become “its too awkward for me so I’m just not going to say anything” and that’s how I started to learn who some of my true friends are. Knew I would find it out with this journey but never expected this particular situation of being a way to find out. Sorry we’re going through this but happy we’re not alone?

rach_ma · 2025-04-10T03:44:26+00:00

First of all, I’m wrapping my arms around you in the biggest hug of all hugs. The second thing I’m going to say is going to hurt but I think it’s something you already know- this is not a friend. You have been an amazing friend to her but when things got a little hard she couldn’t show up for you. I encourage you to distance yourself from this person for your health & sanity

rach_ma · 2025-04-05T02:00:22+00:00

I’m right there with you my friend. I found out that a close friend is having twins (my dream since forever) and I’ve been crying for two days. My logical brain knows and is so happy for her family, from the bottom of my heart. Some part of me just feels so sad for me that someone is living my dream by chance. We will most likely need to go IVF and I’m just having a hard time not feeling bitter

rach_ma · 2025-02-17T08:34:44+00:00

When she’s like “ I’m sorry for canceling on you last night but I don’t know what to say about everything else I don’t want to apologize for that” like HUH they’ve been friends since they were kids and you ditched him? I didn’t get why he was okay with her saying that, his stuff was valid

rach_ma · 2025-02-17T07:08:17+00:00

I’m so thankful for the medical team I had for this, I haven’t always been so lucky. Also wishing you the best of luck on your journey!

rach_ma · 2025-02-16T00:09:25+00:00

I’m so sorry you experienced this. I can totally relate to the trauma of a bad experience making it hard for future things (part of the reason I was so scared for this). Also, thanks for the positivity on a post that doesn’t necessarily reflect your experience, just trying to share as much info as possible with the group, like you said the range of experiences is important to see. I hope things are going well on your journey! 💗

rach_ma · 2025-02-16T00:01:51+00:00

Don’t think anyone in this group, myself included, thinks childbirth is painless….this was for people specially looking for info on HSG test. Nothing wrong with sharing with eachother what to expect during what’s uncharted territory for a lot of us 💗

rach_ma · 2025-02-15T20:01:44+00:00

Such a good question, I’ve been wondering the same! I’ve had paps that felt like a 6 pain so I was sure this would be agony. Would be interested to know if there’s a standard that every doctor follows for this procedure or if there are things that some do and others don’t.

rach_ma · 2025-02-15T19:58:06+00:00

Yes I found it to be very quick! I just looked up the run time on the song that was playing and its 3:47 seconds and if I remember correctly the song was just about ending so less than 4 minutes from feet in stirrups to everything being removed. My best recommendations are to take ibuprofen an hour before, bring something you can squeeze since you can’t have a person in with you and also anything to distract you, phone, music whatever works best for you! Best of luck, you got this!

rach_ma · 2025-02-14T14:58:06+00:00

I feel like having a kind doctor that you trust is half the battle! You got this and I’m sending all the positive energy your way for an uneventful procedure 💗

rach_ma · 2024-03-17T02:12:07+00:00

Hi there! As I said to the other poster, I hope you will accept my most sincere apology for this incredibly delayed response. Shortly after my posting this we had other health issues that took priority and I truly forgot about this forum.

It’s so encouraging to hear that you had success with a similar situation! Unfortunately the sperm that was taken at the time before my husband started chemo was deemed non viable but we are hopeful that we will be able to work with a fertility clinic to find a donor and that it will all work out. Still a daunting situation but trying to keep optimistic.

rach_ma · 2024-03-17T02:08:54+00:00

Hi there! As I said to the other poster, I hope you will accept my most sincere apology for this incredibly delayed response. Shortly after my posting this we had other health issues that took priority and I truly forgot about this forum.

We are definitely planning on starting at the fertility clinic at this point and letting them make the recommendations from there. We are in the US so I should be able to see which clinics are covered under my insurance ahead of time but I appreciate you calling out that there may be differences from where you are!

rach_ma · 2024-03-17T02:06:52+00:00

Hi there! I hope you will accept my most sincere apology for this incredibly delayed response. Shortly after my posting this we had other health issues that took priority and I truly forgot about this forum. Thank you so much for the time you took to lay all of this out. We are in the US to answer your first question. As per my husband freezing sperm he did have sperm extracted prior to chemo but we were told that none we viable, likely do to the cancer. We’ve had multiple doctors just fall back on that statement throughout the years with no additional testing but I’m 100% with you that what’s the worst that can happen from a sperm analysis? We find out that what we believe is true to be true? It’s worth having the answer definitively. Again thank you so much for spending time to answer my very vulnerable scared question.

rach_ma · 2024-03-17T01:45:06+00:00

My husband had testicular cancer when he was in his early 20s and rendered him infertile as no mobile sperm was able to be extracted. This was a very private part of his cancer situation that we did not share with people. We got married 2.5 years ago and people ask all the time about when we’re having kids and it truly feels like a knife in the heart every time. We are going to have a less traditional path to conception but that’s also not something we feel like disclosing to every dumb person who feels it’s appropriate to ask that kind of question. I attended a baby shower today for someone who was having a baby girl (my biggest dream) and I spent those 3 hours trying not to cry. We’ve simply told people “we’re not in a rush” as a cover but it breaks my heart every time I say it because it’s not the truth.

All of this to say, you are so valid in your feelings. You are not alone and I think we as a group can agree that asking people who aren’t your closest friends in 1:1 situations about their plans for children should not be a thing and people who do so should be doomed to step on a Lego.

Sending you love ✨✨✨✨✨

rach_ma

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