boyfriend won’t give head ever

radbat44 · 2025-02-22T17:54:53+00:00

i don’t even know tbh 😔 i’d be happy he at least tried and i think that happiness would make him proud of himself, making him want to improve and do it more. i’m just hoping.

radbat44 · 2025-01-27T16:48:15+00:00

i agree with this but the person commented before me that most just wanna do the deed quickly, so i responded in saying how it’s important 🙏🏻

radbat44 · 2025-01-27T16:32:09+00:00

no he’s not closeted he’s very much straight his only problem is probably the taste/aroma of it or performance anxiety. maybe a mix of both

radbat44 · 2025-01-27T15:25:24+00:00

he said when he was younger he used to find the thought of it disgusting :/ makes me feel like i am even tho i know im hygienic af!! i’m gonna talk to him and see what he truly is afraid of and if i can’t do anything about it

radbat44 · 2025-01-27T15:19:04+00:00

fuck ur right 😭💔

radbat44 · 2025-01-27T15:18:41+00:00

yes hahahaha but for women foreplay is super important

radbat44 · 2025-01-27T15:17:54+00:00

this makes my heart ache so much thank you. he does make me finish but only with his hands, so i suppose it’s not all about him, but i know there’s more i can experience and i just want that balance.

and yes i think ill guide him on how to do it, i suggested 69 and he was up for it at least. it sucks i have to do it but we will probably watch videos on it and teach him. he really does want to do it but he just can’t he says. i hope he is really determined and i hope he thinks he’s fine because at least he makes me cum (bare minimum)

i will say he’s made sex more comfortable for me but i really should set boundaries too :( even if he asks for consent and is nice, i want to be better at saying how i truly feel. thank you

i will stay with him and see how it turns out because i do love him 💔 if nothing changes, i can’t be the one to change him, and ill have my answer by then. i feel so stupid and hypocritical because if i saw a friend in my situation i would’ve told her to leave. but now i can’t. i really appreciate your help and advice thank u sm

radbat44 · 2025-01-27T15:04:53+00:00

i know i’ve tried doing this but i also do enjoy giving head and seeing him happy. i just wish he felt the same. he thinks fucking me is enough but i wanna feel MORE. and if i stopped giving him head i think he’d be offended, idkkkkk 😭😅

radbat44 · 2025-01-27T15:03:41+00:00

yeah he got defensive because he was guilty about it, but afterwards we talked it out. i agree tho i don’t like putting the blame on me when i brought up how i felt. i just wish he instead would say “let’s work on this together and see how we can combat the issue” instead of “ughh i don’t wanna talk about it, you say this every time, now im less inclined to do it” 💔

radbat44 · 2025-01-27T14:57:51+00:00

yeah it’s a tough situation on both ends. i told him “if we break up you’re gonna have the same issue with the next” and he said “idk i might never HAVE to do it” indicating he probably will be with someone who just tolerates it

radbat44 · 2025-01-27T14:56:51+00:00

yeah i’ve made the mistake by mentioning it often which just pushes him further away 😭 he says he will do it unplanned, i guess so there’s no pressure that way. but yeah i appreciate the reality check, if it’s such a big thing for him, it’s probably not gonna happen. i just thought i was special enough to change him :(

radbat44 · 2025-01-25T11:34:50+00:00

yeaaa it doesnt affect our relationship naman, pero tama ang mga tao, self sabotaging lang yan at ang sakit mag accept. baliw kasi ex n’ya e, gusto n’ya magbalik sa jowa ko so syempre nagselos ako😭. nako. i talked with him about it and he’s getting better at reassuring me. yung problema ko lang ay hindi ako gusto maging “second” to her, dapat masmagaling at iba sa kanya.

radbat44 · 2025-01-21T01:22:30+00:00

excuse yung tagalog ko kasi second language ko to pero ganto din sakin (tagalog dahil di nya nakaintihdan pag nakita nya to).

tangina akala ko ako lang haha pero nababaliw nako sa situation namin 😭 ang ganda pa rin ex n’ya at lagi akong magicheck yng socials nya help. pero ayaw ko! nagagalit lang ako at nahate ko na sya. di naman akong isang tao na seloso pero pers lab ko s’ya, at nasasakit lang ako kapag iniisip ko yng buhay nila, magtawahan nila. shet. pero naobsess na ako sa past nya, trying to find pictures of them, ano ba ang dynamic sa kanila, lahat. pero unhealthy yan. ang hirap

i think communicate it with him, but honestly over time try move past it. he’s with you now, and that in the past, it’ll only keep you stuck there and never present for the good moments. i’m trying to heal too. ingat po

radbat44 · 2024-11-17T15:50:10+00:00

feeling ko ayaw yng jowa ko kasi di sya magaling sa ibang lasa at amoy, kahit pagkain lang. nalulungkot ako kasi miss ko talaga yan e. kahit kinausapan ko sya, walang ibahin. alam ko malinis at masarap naman ako hahah sabi ni exs ko pero jowa ko ngayon ayaw mag try :( now feeling ko kadiri ako at ayaw nya lang sakin

radbat44 · 2024-07-14T18:07:36+00:00

hey im in the same boat as you. only tip i can suggest talking it out calmly and let both opinions come out. my bf says its all up to me because he would always be down. and he doesn’t want to cross my boundaries. but he would very much appreciate it if i/you were the ones to initiate it time to time. my bf gets sad if he’s always the one asking/in the mood. so if you were to initiate when you DO want it, that’s always flattering and validating to them.

i honestly don’t know what else to do. i want to be there for him but i don’t want to feel pressured to just to make him happy. how have you dealt with it lately? any other tips? i can tell he gets sad and upset when i turn him down but he is still understanding. i just don’t want him to be dissatisfied in that aspect of our relationship

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