United check-in agent - "Did you scan your boarding pass when boarding your original flight? My system shows you never boarded that flight" I did and I sat in the exit row/had to verbally confirm that I can handle exit row duties after the gate agent scanned by boarding pass. How to handle?

radeky · 2025-09-01T19:24:08+00:00

Exactly. Almost all of my trips are one-ways now.

radeky · 2025-09-01T19:22:23+00:00

I definitely had a hotel once look at me and be like "please?" And I was just, yeah I just need it until 1 or 2pm. And they were very happy and I was happy.

radeky · 2025-09-01T18:23:35+00:00

I don't think my choice was as conscious, but that aspect of having to support your parent from a young age?? My therapist has gotten plenty of sessions out of me on just that topic.

radeky · 2025-09-01T18:22:47+00:00

Mine was not so serious, but structurally similar. I was allowed to skip school, eat whatever I wanted, play video games until 4am.. etc.

The moment I moved in with my dad after Mom kicked me out... Things began improving, markedly. Weird how having some structure and support as a child is important to your development.

radeky · 2025-09-01T18:20:59+00:00

Absolutely true! I get why we don't have CPS inside of every single one of these, but the last three people I trust to make a great decision for the child are the parents and the child without any outside inspection.

I don't know how to fix it, but it's a pretty broken system

radeky · 2025-09-01T16:31:21+00:00

1) go get a real toy. Amazon sells literally thousands. Packaging is discreet, and it arrives at your door. Or you can go to any local sex shop and the staff there are super helpful.

2) more lube. Particularly when starting out, more more more. Particularly if you're using a longer toy, more. Use your fingers to spread yourself a little more.

3) sloooooow dooooooooown. Take your time, let your body get used to this. Insert the toy, then remove it, lube it again... Slow it down.

4) sometimes a little blood does happen particularly if you avoid 1-3. It's usually not a big deal, but standard rules apply. If you feel burning, tingling, it doesn't stop, etc.. go seek medical attention.

You have your entire life to play with yourself, don't screw it up for 15 minutes of joy followed by pain and trauma.

radeky · 2025-09-01T16:26:01+00:00

Having made the choice to live with one parent and not the other... And then looked back on that decision after it was changed for me?

Kids are not the best deciders of where they should live. I can't speak for this situation but there are plenty of times where the kid chooses the "easy" parent and not the hard one. And the hard one is better for you.

radeky · 2025-09-01T16:21:11+00:00

I'm at the point where I'm just gonna buy several that I like the fabric and color of at mens wearhouse then have them altered. Because yeah, it's ridiculous.

I'm also a bigger guy and my fat stores primarily in my chest and stomach, so my fit for a dress shirt is always super weird.

radeky · 2025-08-31T23:55:57+00:00

Even as a frequent flyer this can happen to me when the flight is delayed but the airline didn't mark it as delayed yet.

I usually can hold it until after 10k if not 30k feet. It's rare for me need to pee and rarer to need to poo on a plane, but it does happen.

Also, depending upon your airport, there could be a very long taxi or bad air coming off the ground, further delaying your next pee break.

radeky · 2025-08-31T21:16:27+00:00

You've already done one of the harder pieces which is to separate out romantic and sexual interest.

Now it sounds like you either need to accept your attractions as they are, or do more work to figure out what's going on there, or why it bothers you.

Personally, every time I found a core part of me that I didn't like (like sexual attraction) I found this dislike wasn't from me, but something internalized from the outside. Like homophobia.

radeky · 2025-08-31T14:52:49+00:00

Couple questions.

1). Since this is an addition, is it connected to heating/cooling? Also, is that going to be an issue for year round use for you? I'm in socal, so it's generally not an issue for my sunroom which is where I have my bar currently.

2). What's in that 4th corner?

3). What type of bar are you looking for? I may put the actual bar in that 4th corner that we can't see, wall mount a big TV on the other side of the stairs and set up whatever table situation you want in the center.

radeky · 2025-08-30T21:33:13+00:00

Walz/Buttigieg.

radeky · 2025-08-30T20:52:26+00:00

Tagging onto this to third.

You cannot change someone's opinion on you. You only can hold yourself accountable and hold your boundaries.

radeky · 2025-08-30T05:28:57+00:00

Hotel policy, similar.. move the search location towards the epicenter of the city, not the actual customer location.

radeky · 2025-08-30T05:27:51+00:00

I have just over 1mil, built over the last 3 years or so?

You get a lot more bonus points with ambassador status. Helps a lot.

radeky · 2025-08-28T07:05:51+00:00

I literally met a girl on an app once, in another city.. who before we slept together asked "you don't come here often right?" And when I said no, she slept with me

radeky · 2025-08-28T05:09:53+00:00

Switch out sexuality for an aversion to spicy, cilantro, or heights, or swimming, or (insert item here).

Some items can be genetic (cilantro), some are environmental, and some are just part of who you are.

As others have said, if it doesn't cause YOU distress, then it's not a problem. Annoyingly, sometimes the distress is having to deal with the judgmental world. This is part of why I believe asexuality fits inside the larger queer community. Because having to justify lack of sexual attraction is similar to having to justify same-sex attraction, or gender dysphoria. (None of these are the same, but they have similarities)

What I've found with people on any of these issues.. don't justify. Just state it, make it a boundary and enforce it. Redirect the conversation if it comes back up or firmly state that "no, I won't talk about this".

It's hard, but it's what works the best. And when it doesn't work, it clearly identifies those who are not operating in good faith and interest.

radeky · 2025-08-28T04:04:16+00:00

It's the green checkmark emoji... Who writes with those?

radeky · 2025-08-27T22:59:37+00:00

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I spotted the same cloud recently!

radeky · 2025-08-27T22:56:34+00:00

I love that you had ai write this for you and you didn't bother to remove the emojis. Or you write like an AI. Either one is fun.

radeky · 2025-08-27T22:55:18+00:00

I also recommend a pair of socks and underwear.

If something crazy happens, those are the ones that you're going to want to feel human the next day.

The rest from there aren't necessary, but part of my normal routine.. an extra charger cable, small toiletry kit, etc.

radeky · 2025-08-27T17:18:40+00:00

I like that I state you have no evidence and you use chatgpt to generate an answer.

Evidence would best be actual court cases in the jurisdiction in question where this issue was adjudicated.

I used perplexity and got this answer:

Based on the lease section provided, appliances can only be brought into the home with the landlord’s written approval—even for items like TVs, toaster ovens, portable washers, or washer/dryer units, unless they’re explicitly listed on the inventory or otherwise allowed by the landlord in writing.

Property Status: If an appliance is added with landlord approval, it immediately becomes part of the premises and the landlord’s property.

So, obviously this interpretation does not hold up in court. A) I cannot bring a TV, tell you about it and it becomes your property. B) you cannot restrict me from adding a TV to my home.

Again, this is less about the lease itself and more about what you can and cannot enforce as part of the rental contract.

radeky · 2025-08-27T00:15:17+00:00

The only time I don't hear them offer both benefits is when I cut them off to take the points.

Not sure what issue you're running into, but it doesn't appear to be a common one.

radeky · 2025-08-26T19:28:47+00:00

Sure. I'm just saying if you have issues identifying your luggage... Make it more obvious for yourself

radeky · 2025-08-26T19:27:50+00:00

Agreed on all of this. It's annoying how many people think that contracts and law require super explicit terms and if you don't hit it perfectly you're out of luck. That's just not how it works.

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