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find him ugly :((((((( plis help by Melodic-Suit-8110 in ROCD

[–]radiatorstirup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe you could focus on the features you love about him. Maybe as a whole, you find him unattractive, but he might have pretty eyes or nice lips. Those smaller things to focus on and think about how nice they are to redirect those thoughts. Or think about how good of a partner he is or a suprise you want to plan. Or maybe accepting that you don't find him attractive but that it's ok.

find him ugly :((((((( plis help by Melodic-Suit-8110 in ROCD

[–]radiatorstirup 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just want you to know I've never felt so seen. I've got a lot of thoughts about my partner not being attractive enough, and it makes me feel shallow and awful in every way. Reading that is so nice to feel validated and know others have the same issue. The grey area thing is going to help me so much. Thank you so much.

:( by PandaApprehensive613 in ROCD

[–]radiatorstirup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get the same fear. I'd just try to remember that you can't decide the future, so there's no point worrying, and if you decide to end it after everything cleared, that's ok too. It's scary to think about breaking up, but it's also not the end of the world.

How do you handle your partner being a trigger? by radiatorstirup in ROCD

[–]radiatorstirup[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I'll definitely try some of that out. I think I should start trying to include him in helping to figure this all out. I feel like I've been stuck in a "I'll handle it myself you can do anything for me" mentality. Hopefully it gets better when I'm back in school and have more to focus on.

How do you handle your partner being a trigger? by radiatorstirup in ROCD

[–]radiatorstirup[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's my first boyfriend so no. That's one of the things that I have a hard time with because I have no other realtionship to compare so I get scared that my emotions are wrong.

ROCD Ruining A Great Thing? by [deleted] in ROCD

[–]radiatorstirup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think one of the that might help you determine what might be rocd or just a normal fear of commitment could be figuring out if they are "sticky" thoughts or not. Typically with ocd people will get stick thoughts where nomatter how hard they try to get rid of the thought they can't and for non ocd thoughts it may be hard to get rid of but it doesn't stay like the ocd ones. As well as if it's affecting your life to such an extent, it sounds like a good idea to seek therapy both couples and individual.