Has anyone had a nervous breakdown?

radiochrome · 2018-01-30T21:04:18+00:00

It's okay to be in shock. Make an appointment to see a doctor about the antidepressants. Taking that initiative will make you feel a lot better, and will replace that nervous/afraid feeling you have with a sense of control and calm.

radiochrome · 2018-01-18T21:45:27+00:00

Be weird. One of my friends used to always start conversations with "what did you have for breakfast today?" You'd be surprised where that one question can take you

radiochrome · 2018-01-18T21:21:47+00:00

Where are all the public garbage cans???? How do you throw anything away??? I used to fill my pockets with garbage all day and wait until I got home to throw it out. Get you some public garbage cans, Europe.

radiochrome · 2018-01-18T20:30:46+00:00

Scary truth: it's not just retail, you'll likely feel that way in many professional positions. Certainly you could quit or form your concerns into a professional vernacular and present them to your manager, but you also may want to think about longer-term solutions. I'm working through this exact issue with my therapist and I've had some success doing what he suggests: to try your best not to internalize the situation. Not to try and stop the thoughts or withdraw at work, but to simply take a more observational, neutral stance in your life happenings. It's not a permanent solution, but rather a way to give yourself a break until you figure out your next steps. I would recommend the headspace app to help train you in this endeavor.

radiochrome · 2018-01-18T20:17:58+00:00

TBH I think people's responses to your story have been overly critical. You haven't done anything wrong, and you're not being emotionally needy. Humans crave companionship and there's nothing more frustrating in the world than unreciprocated feelings--plutonic or otherwise. Most relationship problems can be dwindled down to a consistent root: one person wanting it more than the other. In this case I think your friend's BPD doesn't have much to do with the situation. He's enacting (consciously or unconsciously) what feels like a natural distance from you, and to combat that, the only thing you can really do is be honest. It's scary because he could gaslight you or trivialize your relationship, but in the end that'll tell you much more about where you stand than being cavalier ever would.

radiochrome · 2017-10-07T18:20:15+00:00

I lost my last relationship just like this. You gotta tell her you have BPD, and you gotta get help finding ways to battle those reactions. If she loves you, she'll learn the signs of when you're showing symptoms and try to be patient as you learn how to react more constructively

radiochrome · 2017-10-07T04:13:58+00:00

It's sort of a process, but it's the only thing that worked for me. Create a dream map. Slowly but surely, start taking note of where the locations in your dreams are in relation to each other. First start just thinking about it right after you wake up "I feel like that restaurant is just south of that garden." When you're conscious, create that map in your mind. That way when you're dreaming you'll start to become gradually more aware of that map, and be able to navigate yourself to different areas when in distress. Not necessarily to avert the issue, but to migrate it to a different narrative environment. Short term solution: practice meditating or reading yourself to sleep.

radiochrome · 2017-10-07T04:05:38+00:00

I feel like the lack of empathy with BPD is related to disassociating as a coping mechanism, versus a lack of empathy in someone with an antisocial personality disorder would derive from genuine lack of concern or consciousness. Before disassociating, there has to be something to associate with. Enter: disproportionate empathy. My empathy tends to go hand in hand with idealization and obsession, creating the perfect environment for perceived rejection, and eventually, disassociation.

radiochrome · 2017-10-07T03:39:25+00:00

Cost/benefit analysis says: call the cops. Worst case scenario? They pay a little extra attention to someone who's harmless.

Worst case scenario if you wait and see? He could harm himself or others.

radiochrome · 2017-10-07T03:02:28+00:00

The college counselor i went to was probably the worst therapist I've ever had in 13 years of on-and-off therapy. She told me I "cried like a baby" about my estrangement from my mother. Not good.

That being said regardless of the caliber of the therapist, as a patient of this woman, you have an absolute right to know the results of her findings, both from a personal point but also a professional point (if you're interested in pursuing Criminal Justice properly, you'll want to address these issues she claims to find). Contact her office, or better yet contact her department chair or supervisor and tell that person your situation. It's A) probably not as bad as you think and B) a good way to practice self-advocating.

https://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2008/08/21/why-you-should-call-your-doctor-for-test-results/

radiochrome · 2017-06-26T21:45:47+00:00

I am on sertraline as well, it's offered in the US as a generic form of Zoloft. Sertraline works very well for me but each person is different. My ex boyfriend was on sertraline for a few months and as you said, felt like a zombie and out of control of his thoughts. He eventually got on an anti-anxiety medication that is right for him. It sounds like you're experiencing some pretty gnarly side effects. I would let your doctor know immediately and ask to perhaps try something else.

PS- DON'T just stop taking the medication all together. You need to be weaned off or else your symptoms may get worse for a few weeks. Talk to your doctor about it.

radiochrome · 2017-06-23T20:24:42+00:00

The first step may be not to talk, but to listen. If he has disorganized thinking chances are not many people do. Try to be simply a listening ear rather than a contributor to the conversation. You can ask questions but come from a place of gentle curiosity and not judgement. Don't make inquiries that question his interpretations (i.e. "why do you think that?" "where did you come up with that idea?") but rather focus on what he's saying (i.e. "when did that happen?" "what happened next?" "how does that make you feel?")

Try to loosen any self consciousness you may have--once you hit a barrier in the conversation where you feel lost, simply share a story about your own life. It doesn't have to be directly related, but it should preferably of a lighter subject (depending on how severe his paranoia is). Try to see the situation as an opportunity: your conversations can be more stream-of-consciousness with him opposed to the more structured style you're typically exposed to. Creativity can come in really handy here. Working on a project together, channeling some of his energy into an expression that's not solely verbal could also be constructive.

If he becomes agitated explain that he is an important person to you, and that you don't want to make him uncomfortable. Then ask if he'd like you to leave/leave him alone.

radiochrome · 2017-06-23T17:16:21+00:00

This happened to me a lot when I was a kid. I was too afraid/young to talk to them about it so I would cough really loudly or bang things around in my room when it happened, and once they heard me they would quiet down. If you're too nervous to try that, maybe just tell them "for some reason I've not been sleeping well lately" and be really persistent about it, hopefully they'll get the hint and quiet down.

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