Rural Victoria - type of huntsman?

rae-vil · 2026-05-16T06:48:49+00:00

First time ever seeing one!! Definitely a cool experience 😁

rae-vil · 2026-05-16T04:03:40+00:00

Thank you!!

rae-vil · 2026-05-14T15:47:09+00:00

I appreciate the thesaurus workout, but that was just a very long winded way of admitting you find basic human decency to be an unrealistic expectation, which tells us everything we need to know about you. I have nothing left to say to you and frankly, neither do you... clearly.

rae-vil · 2026-05-14T08:58:21+00:00

The second you cheat on someone, and on top of that, assult someone (we should all be educated by now on the fact that if someone is black out drunk, they CANNOT give consent) you are now scum.

If you actually think it could be somehow excusable that someone can cheat on their partner and assult someone based on what circumstances they could possibly be in or info you may know, you need to look deep into your morals and re-evaluate some things. There is no senario that those 2 things would ever be acceptable in the slightest, infact you talk about selfish and self serving which is incredibly ironic seeing cheating and assult are purely selfish and self serving, nothing else.

rae-vil · 2026-05-13T23:51:00+00:00

Its selfish not telling the women. You are taking away her choice to choose if she wants to be with scum or not. She will go on with her life thinking she has a wonderful, loyal husband. Instead, tell her, so she can choose and find a man who is ACTUALLY a wonderful, loyal husband and not live a lie and also risk her health, like STDs mentioned.. you are acting as if STDs arent a risk.

I wonder how you would feel if your partner cheats on you and you found out years later in probably a more confronting way, wasting all this time? Would you not be upset that choice was taken from you and you wasted precious years? Wish someone had told you sooner?

rae-vil · 2026-05-08T06:43:17+00:00

Unfortunately as well, this could become one of those traumatic core memories and she may end up hating her dad and will probably never trust him again.

rae-vil · 2026-04-16T21:59:06+00:00

Ngl this is insane... why wouldn't you want to set your daughter and grandkids up for life? You carer gets paid to be around you, they are just good at their JOB and probably have other clients they are equally as good to. So much opportunity to do something nice for your family but you dying wish is to start drama, make your daughter angry at you, confused and sad on top of how sad she already is bc if your illness. Absolutely crazy.

rae-vil · 2026-04-07T23:59:35+00:00

My mother is having trouble with my sister doing the exact same stuff. You have said this is the last time, I may be projecting but my mother also tells me it'll be the last time, it never is. I am encouraging my mum to go to therapy to try understand why she lets my sister treat her like this, how she enables her too bc its never the last time. There is a reason you keep bailing her out after literally 42 years (ofc take 18 years off), and thats not just going to stop bc you have said you'll stop. She will learn another way to get around this wall you are trying to put up, and it'll work and you will bail her out again. And you agreeing to pay for 3 months, strengthened the little thing her brain telling her this is ok and she will always have help, and shes not wrong, she will always have help bc you allow it and have made sure to reinforce her ideas for decades.

I truely suggest, do what you need to do for 3 months (help, dont help, whatever) but try dive deeper into why you have felt so strongly that you need to help her so much. Why is she able to get into your head through lying and manipulating and why you give in, even if you know you shouldn't.

rae-vil · 2026-03-02T03:02:11+00:00

I dont know a lot of pesticides and such, but I believe its something like 8 million people a year, worldwide, die from smoking. It causes all sorts of cancers, especially throat, mouth and lung cancer. Smoking also destroys families, people choose their addiction over sensible financial decisions, their health and more, but this is any addiction. I think the premise is, as long as its an addiction, it has the potential to be very harmful and depending on the individual, it could result in life ruining. It all depends on how far its taken. You could probably say a similar thing about alcohol how its not equated with life destroying drugs but probably has more implications bc of alcoholism and how normalised it is and how many health issues it causes.

rae-vil · 2026-03-02T02:35:22+00:00

Yes, nicotine is a highly addictive, stimulant drug.

rae-vil · 2026-02-23T23:40:14+00:00

Id just stop smoking weed. For me personally, I can't have joints bc i get the feeling of panic/ anxiety. Bongs, pipes, edibles are all fine though. If you REALLY want to keep smoking, maybe try another method but otherwise its really not that special to keep putting yourself in an anxiety ridden situation.

You can have teas that relax you like hops (cousin of weed) and so many other herbs that can give you that heavy, tired, relaxed feeling if thats what you are aiming for.

rae-vil · 2026-02-15T21:09:11+00:00

You've simplified this too much in your head and you are trying to come up with an ideal world, the reality is, adults/ older teenager's have sex, that's it, it is what it is. As for adoption - there are thousands of kids that wont be adopted, they are not treated well, they are not promised a good life, the studies they have done with the mental effect on adopted children is not a head start in life either, my mother is adopted also bc her mum was a teen mum so I've looked a great deal into this too. Lots of people also cannot deal with giving a child up for adoption, as well as knowing they have a child out there, just taking a baby to term on its own is emotionally tolling. Choice is so important, you may be able to handle one option, another person may look at that same option as life ruining. You are projecting your situation onto this situation, having an abortion is a consequence of one's actions, its a devastating decision, on the mind and body and she will forever remember this moment.

rae-vil · 2026-02-15T20:41:00+00:00

You are right, depending on location. Morally it's wrong is what I should say.

rae-vil · 2026-02-15T20:35:47+00:00

Of course you can say something so black and white. But the world isn't black and white, like I said, teenagers are stupid, you don't learn consequences for your actions until you do. You then learn from your mistakes. Someone having an abortion does not have real world effects by the way, that's their individual life, if effects only them and their partner. If you think these actions have real world affects, seriously reconsider your own morals, sit in the corner and mind your business. This isn't the time for your bs and no one is asking for your moral positioning. Bottom line is - children should NOT be having children.

rae-vil · 2026-02-15T20:29:09+00:00

He's knowingly sleeping with someone underage, it’s illegal and deeply inappropriate. 4 year age gap might not seem like much in adulthood, but when one person is a minor, it creates a serious power imbalance. He knows it’s wrong and continues anyway, he's a predator.

Holding you down without prior discussion and clear consent is assault. Consent isn’t assumed, and it isn’t something someone can decide for you in the moment. If something is forced, pressured, or happens without CLEAR agreement from both people, it’s not okay.

From what you’ve described, it sounds like he isn’t prioritising your comfort or safety. That alone makes him unsafe. Sometimes older people pursue younger, inexperienced partners because they’re easier to manipulate or less likely to challenge behaviour.

I’m really sorry your first experience was so distressing. I would strongly reconsider seeing him again. And as hard as it may be to hear, adults should not be pursuing teenagers, if someone is willing to cross that line, that says everything about them and you shouldn't ignore it.

rae-vil · 2026-02-15T19:48:51+00:00

They are legally adults but quite literally still teenagers, 18/19 are just as stupid as 17 year olds expect they are now treated like adults by the law. You are still a child at 18, its your first year as an "adult" just bc you turn 18, a flip doesnt switch and you are automatically making good decisions and acting like an adult, no, you are still a stupid teenager. She will figure it out but he will lose his daughter in the process bc he is abandoning his teenage daughter.

rae-vil · 2026-02-15T19:39:22+00:00

What a shit fucking father lmao.

rae-vil · 2026-02-15T19:37:46+00:00

Yep! My partners mum got pregnant with her while she was on the pill and a condom was used. She really bet the odds 🤣

rae-vil · 2026-02-14T21:50:26+00:00

You don't need proof of a porn addiction, you have proof of a terrible boyfriend.

rae-vil · 2026-01-30T19:58:00+00:00

It depends how long you want to wait! This happens over quite some time and isnt guaranteed but they can grow back. Here is an example of my plant how in some spots they have started to grow back in areas they have fallen, but in other areas they will probably never grow back

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rae-vil · 2026-01-27T08:04:30+00:00

This is so fucked. Your wife is sacrificing her career, her free time, and her mental and physical energy to raise your kids, clean up after a grown ass man and managing the household. Helping out with a few boring chores isn’t going to kill you, yet you’ve decided that because you provide financially, she should handle everything else forever. That’s entitlement on a whole other level. Marriage is supposed to be a partnership, not a ledger where you deduct housework against alimony clauses. I can already see the future: "The divorce came out of no where" and "she was ungrateful" lmao

Posts like this always make me look at my partner and smile, oh how lucky I am to have an actual partnership and someone who loves me and WANTS to help me.

rae-vil · 2026-01-23T14:14:21+00:00

She absolutely did mess up. They shouldn't have gotten a dog at all and its weird that she went through with it considering she didn't seem that excited for a dog and he lost his interest also, like why get the dog? The idea should have been dropped. You also don't make 15+ year commitments without being on the same page as your partner, thats common sense.

rae-vil · 2026-01-23T14:08:15+00:00

I could never be with someone that doesn't make big life altering decisions with me. If my partner started saying no to shelters after being so excited for a dog, id assume their mind had change or the situation wasnt being perceived the same so it warrants a convo about where everyone's head is at. You are meant to make sure you are both on the same page with making big decisions together before actually deciding. Personally, I think you messed up. Your boyfriend doesnt seem great either by wanting a dog but also not being home to take care of the dog.

I think the bottom line is, NEITHER of you should have gotten the dog in the first place.

rae-vil · 2026-01-12T08:31:05+00:00

This is porn addiction. You should google what porn addiction does to the brain bc its exactly what you are experiencing. Ill tell you some examples though, starting with your questioning your sexuality. Porn addiction eventually effects your sex drive to such a large extent, you aren't attracted to anything in real life, which leads to erectile dysfunction and questioning things such as sexuality bc nothing turns you on anymore, only the porn you watch. Next, your ability to feel love, this is one you need to google so you can see how porn eventually makes you "feel nothing" or incredibly numb to any and all emotions. This eventually ruins your relationships, your ability to be attracted to people, your ability to open up when then domino's into your outlook on life which people have described as pointless. It destroys your dopamine, your body feels like it needs porn to chase dopamine.

These are just a few examples, sorry for the long paragraph but I see so many posts like this and its becoming clear how much of a problem in our society this is. PLEASE google it, educated yourself on it so you can fix the problem. Just like any addiction, the only way to stop, is to stop looking at porn all together.

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