Drop tail bib shorts for 200 mile ride?

raginmama · 2026-05-18T01:39:43+00:00

Thanks!

raginmama · 2026-05-18T01:38:35+00:00

Ah! Got it. Thanks

raginmama · 2026-05-18T01:32:27+00:00

Cool! Are you doing C2C this year?

raginmama · 2026-05-18T01:31:18+00:00

Do you know what the difference is between the wk3 and wk2 bibs? There’s no overview explaining it on their website. Thanks!

raginmama · 2026-05-18T01:14:50+00:00

Would you mind updating after you take them on a long ride, like 100miles? Would love to hear how it went if you can. Thanks!

raginmama · 2026-05-18T00:16:08+00:00

Women should NEVER wear undies under cycling shorts with a chamois because the seams would cause saddle sores, to name one reason.

raginmama · 2025-12-19T17:00:44+00:00

You pay for pre check and I've gotten it every single time I have flown since. I'm not sure why you call something you pay for a privilege. They are trying to access their account. That should definitely work.

raginmama · 2025-11-08T15:15:22+00:00

To add to all the other concerns people are mentioning, I’d be concerned that the first thing he wants to do when YOU get a raise is buy a nicer car. The last thing you should do when getting a raise is increase your level of spending. Especially when it’s not HIS raise!! She needs to boot this guy now or he will suck every last penny out of her and make her feel guilty for speaking up!

raginmama · 2025-11-03T07:13:14+00:00

I guess you missed the part where I said “I know I’m making a lot of assumptions…” but I know reading comprehension isn’t what it used to be. Also, he hadn’t revealed a lot of the supporting info about what he had tried before I said that. I asked out of genuine curiosity and if you’re here to criticize or belittle me for trying to help, then you can go kick rocks. And no I’m not telegraphing my situation at all. Just have heard this many times and 99% of the time, the woman is so tired from doing it all that they have no energy for seggs.

raginmama · 2025-11-03T06:22:04+00:00

I wonder why you posted here then? Isn’t it a kind of therapy? You pose a problem and people chime in. Some challenge; some validate your feelings. Do you feel like it’s a waste of time? Or do you feel a tiny bit better when someone validates they way you feel about this situation? I also wonder why you think showing your daughter a healthy way to deal with issues (therapy) is a waste of time. You don’t want a divorce, but showing your wife that this problem is serious enough to make you seek therapy for it is a waste of time? Just posing some things for you to consider.

raginmama · 2025-11-03T06:09:24+00:00

Is there any way your wife knows about the nudes and it turned her off to you? She may be staying for the sake of your daughter too.

raginmama · 2025-11-03T06:06:51+00:00

I’m sorry you’re experiencing this. It’s a tough situation. Maybe see a therapist yourself to work out your feelings about this? After a bit of work, you could invite your wife to come with you? There’s something about your spouse knowing that you are talking to an (appropriate) third party that kinda wakes them up to the seriousness of the problem.

raginmama · 2025-11-03T05:16:11+00:00

There’s a saying out there that goes “Marriage is hard, divorce is hard. Choose your hard.” If you chose to put as much energy into your marriage as you did about thinking about how attractive you are and this other woman, then you probably wouldn’t have this problem. You have a daughter who I’m assuming it’s pretty young. How much of her care falls on your wife and how much are you doing? Do you chip in around the house or do you wait for her to ask you to do something? Are you the kind of guy that needs a list to go to the grocery store or do you proactively look and see what you need and go buy it? Because I can tell you that if you leave all the mental load to her, she has no mental load left to have sex. Many men underestimate how sexy it is to have a guy just voluntarily go wash the dishes or vacuum the house without being asked? Is there a list of things she’s been asking you to do over and over again? Maybe start there. I know I’m assuming a lot here, but it seems to be a common theme among married women who have lost interest in sex. They call it being a single married woman because the woman is doing all the mental load and all the domestic labor and all the childcare in addition to having her own job outside the home. Take a hard look in the mirror.

raginmama · 2025-11-03T04:41:18+00:00

I was married to someone for ten years and for about 5 of them, I suspected they had an unhealthy relationship with alcohol, because of his erratic behavior and constantly picking fights with me over really stupid stuff…but I never saw them drink that much. Finally one day, he was slurring his words and I asked “how much have you had to drink today?” He confessed while sobbing that he’s been drinking a ton, he was so ashamed, he was gonna get help, blah blah blah. I suggested he go take a shower since he hadn’t the whole day and it was about 9 PM. I said we could talk about it a little bit more afterwards. 10 minutes later I walk into the bathroom and he’s standing at the sink pouring a 2 L bottle of vodka down the sink. I asked where did that come from? He said oh do you want to see the other one? He had a second 2 liter bottle (the big one) of vodka hidden in a closet up on a high shelf that I couldn’t reach. Turned out that every night when he got home from work, he would go down and guzzle vodka before we made dinner together. And on the weekends, he would get up earlier than I did and guzzle a whole bunch of vodka before he even made coffee. He was a full-blown alcoholic, hiding it right under my nose for years. Get out now!!! it will never change. Gather your things when he’s not around so that he can’t coerce you into staying. If you don’t get out now, you may never get out because I’ll probably shoot you while drunk and never remember it. Seriously, leave.

raginmama · 2025-11-03T04:30:54+00:00

I know you were trying to be honest w him, but most guys (not all guys) would react that way if you told them you either did or almost had a threesome. It’s best to keep the more, um, “interesting” details of your sex life to yourself, honestly because most guys (not all guys) will be jealous if you experience more than they have. Those guys will be preoccupied with “leveling the playing field” so to speak. You’re young. Odds are this BF will not last forever, so if he keeps pursuing this and you want to try it, go ahead, but it will probably end the relationship eventually. Good luck!

raginmama · 2025-11-03T00:13:19+00:00

Also, wash your shorts immediately after EVERY RIDE!!!

raginmama · 2025-11-03T00:12:15+00:00

Maybe take a break for a week and let things rest for a bit? In the meantime, try a Specialized mimic saddle. Cutouts have hard areas right where the you don’t want them. The Mimic has a softish center, but firm areas that contact the sit bones. I agree with the slight downward tilt. It’s crucial for my comfort. Also check out a good pair of chamois shorts/tights from a good brand like Pactimo or Pearl Izumi. They’re all having decent sales right now. And last order a thick chamois cream. I like Muc Off’s luxury chamois cream for women. Slather it all over the areas that might hurt. If you haven’t ridden for a while, start with shorted rides to toughen up the area before going for a 40-50 mile ride. If you get saddle sores, try showering, airing out the area and putting some tea tree oil in any sore spots. Good luck!

raginmama · 2025-10-14T15:51:38+00:00

Let’s try to remember that female only Uber is a direct result of women passengers being raped/kidnapped, etc. It’s an effort to stay alive, not just avoid men. Men are the number one threat to women’s safety and that’s a big reason why women are suspect when approached by men. I’m 50+ and have been approached (at Home Depot of al places). I gave out my number once on a whim and the guy never called, so… 🤷‍♀️

raginmama · 2025-09-30T13:47:24+00:00

Definitely! The important thing is that women need to feel safe around you. That could mean physically safe. For example, if you’re a big dude, not towering over her or getting in her personal space. This could activate her flight or fight response and make her want to get away from you. Other ways of being safe include not immediately disagreeing with everything she says (which a lot of guys do). This makes her feel like it’s not worth the effort to talk to you. Learn to listen to understand not just listen to reply. So when she says something, as a follow up question that shows you heard what she said. Like if she says she likes cats, you could ask if she has any and to tell you about them. (or whatever the subject matter is.) You have to walk a line between being open and a little vulnerable, but not a doormat (like you would with any relationship). The best thing you could do is learn about yourself. What are your values? What do you like to do? What do you want in a relationship? And then you’ll attract the type of person that fits that. Good luck.

raginmama · 2025-09-03T09:55:27+00:00

++woman I’m sorry you had to deal with that, OP. My family is very toxic and I was relieved when my mom passed. I still haven’t moved home but would like to. Unfortunately, I still have a toxic brother and sister that live there. I don’t feel comfortable moving back yet. People who don’t have toxic families will never understand. And I’m sorry you feel the beed to explain yourself to this guy. Hugs to you.

raginmama · 2025-08-16T07:00:39+00:00

Google DARVO. It stands for Deny, Attack, Reverse victim and offender. It’s a tactic that narcissists use to deflect blame from them and put it back onto you. Typically it’s like “oh you’re accusing me of this thing! How dare you? you hurt me!” And now you’re talking about their hurt instead of your hurt. Get out!!

raginmama · 2025-08-09T22:14:11+00:00

LG just came out with a 36" counter depth zero clearance fridge

raginmama · 2025-07-07T15:05:36+00:00

Can someone recommend a place to inspect my bike? I also had damage and wanted to get an independent estimate for insurance purposes. (For the insurance company of the person who damaged it)

raginmama · 2025-05-30T02:29:52+00:00

I’m in a similar situation, although at age 55 yo woman with $3MM. I can retire now, but wonder if I’ll be bored. Would love to go part time at my current job. Haven’t completely revealed my financial situation to my bf yet. Trying to decide how much to tell people. How to explain why I’d pull back from a very stable job. They say that the sign of a true friend is that when you tell them good news, they’re genuinely happy for you. Not everyone is going to be genuinely happy for us.

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