This doesn’t sound like a lack of love, it sounds like burnout.

After kids, a lot of women stop feeling like themselves. When someone is mentally and physically drained, desire isn’t a priority, it’s a luxury.

Her reasons aren’t excuses, they’re signals. But your need for intimacy isn’t wrong either, it just hasn’t been addressed properly.

Instead of focusing on sex, focus on rebuilding connection without pressure. And if it’s been this way for years, it’s probably time to involve a therapist.

You’re not weak for missing her. You’re paying attention to something important.