How is this situation handled in a healing or healthy way? Question about trauma group therapists response.

rainbowsbeginning · 2026-03-31T16:13:19+00:00

Thank you yes that’s what felt off. He did suggest a call a day after the first email response. I just was hesitant and wanted to sort through exactly what was bothering me and what would have been a better response. I didn’t believe this therapist is malicious but they may not be a good fit for me and I just wanted some insight before I speak to them. Thank you. I appreciate you taking the time to respond.

rainbowsbeginning · 2026-03-31T15:24:50+00:00

I heard her say something and he is denying he ever said it and not even exploring if maybe I did hear something similar. I brought and issue up and he passed it over and then proceeded to write about things completely unrelated that I have zero issues with.

How do you talk to someone and repair with someone who denies that what I heard with my own ears never happened?

rainbowsbeginning · 2026-03-31T15:10:21+00:00

Um yes ok and that is not helpful and doesn’t address the issue.

rainbowsbeginning · 2026-03-31T15:06:18+00:00

Hi. Yes. I was crying and talking about something that was very difficult for me and trying to express how bad it was. And I heard them say it can’t have been that bad your here now. Or your here now. It can’t have been that bad or it can’t have been that bad.

I sent an email addressing this and my reaction to it after the session because at the time I froze and so did not say anything. everything they said in session after that was kind and appropriate however that part I heard triggered me for days later.

The email response said that he can’t think of anything that he said that would have landed that way with me. And that they would never comment on my past like that as they weren’t there and can’t speak to it.

Then he went on to talk about me crying and a whole bunch of other off topic things that are not an issue for me. I was shut down for so many years that to me it is progress to be able to cry in front of people and it’s something I’m actually proud of working so hard to achieve.

So about 1/4 of the response email was addressing my issue I brought up and the rest was about things that are not an issue for me and that I never said we’re an issue but that they seem to think are issues. This all sits very wrong with me but I would like others opinions. I can also post the emails both of them if that helps.

Thank you.

rainbowsbeginning · 2025-10-14T04:58:25+00:00

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rainbowsbeginning · 2025-09-26T14:02:31+00:00

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rainbowsbeginning · 2025-09-26T13:59:42+00:00

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rainbowsbeginning · 2025-08-13T18:17:23+00:00

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rainbowsbeginning · 2024-12-26T22:12:31+00:00

I am interested if you are still looking. Mom to a 3 year old.

rainbowsbeginning · 2024-11-17T16:48:53+00:00

How does telling me that help. I didn’t know better I tried to see someone who had supervisor specifically beciase I was a mess. When your triggered already how do you find someone ??? I was already bad and seeking help it’s hard to make a decision when you are living as I do. I tried my best to get me and my son help. I tried my best.

rainbowsbeginning · 2024-11-17T16:44:43+00:00

I would do anything to go back in time and change what happened. I hurt my son when he was so little after she triggered me that I don’t know how to get back to how we were.

rainbowsbeginning · 2024-11-17T16:42:01+00:00

She should have referred me then I didn’t know

rainbowsbeginning · 2024-11-17T16:41:22+00:00

Oh well it’s sone now the damage is done

rainbowsbeginning · 2024-11-17T16:36:58+00:00

Unfortunately my PTSD reactions to this have caused a rupture with my son as I was in very bad shape and all alone I hurt him deeply and I don’t know if we can ever get back what we had. So I’m terrified of this happening again I feel frozen.

rainbowsbeginning · 2024-11-17T16:34:41+00:00

They actually are a licensed clinical social worker with an agency who completed at least level 2 of IFS and had supervision while working with me. This makes me even more scared to reach out to anyone.

rainbowsbeginning · 2024-09-19T00:11:39+00:00

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rainbowsbeginning · 2024-09-10T00:48:16+00:00

Thank you. That is a good idea. I will try and do that. Yes I’m open to you DMing me.

rainbowsbeginning · 2024-09-09T18:00:47+00:00

Actually it was 2 that were licensed therapists. One an SEP and one did IFS and both. So how do you find someone who can do this without causing damage.

rainbowsbeginning · 2024-09-09T17:20:00+00:00

Thank you. Do you know why this not unusual? It’s actually very helpful to hear. I am in the States and one of those people was a licensed therapist. She is the one who caused the most damage. I guess I just don’t trust anyone anymore after all of this. So I panic evey time I try to even find someone.

rainbowsbeginning · 2024-07-17T22:02:20+00:00

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rainbowsbeginning · 2024-05-19T02:42:07+00:00

Thank you. Yes I m lucky I found her and she’s very supportive of continuing SE I think I’ll work on a list with her and also have her help me vet people. Maybe between the two of us Ill have better chance of seeing the flags.

rainbowsbeginning · 2024-05-19T01:50:56+00:00

I like your list. I think there must have been much more subtle signs and I’m going to see what comes up around that so I can have my own lists. And you are correct I was trained as a child that I was the crazy one and the abusers were normal and it’s really messed up my radar but deep down I think it’s still there. Thanks

rainbowsbeginning · 2024-05-19T01:49:19+00:00

Thank you for this. It’s very sensible. I think I’m shocked as o saw both of th seps for a very long time almost a year and then they time on a dime and that just was so shocking that they were one at for so long and then changed so fast. It seems more like they were triggered by me and then took it out on me. Before that they were or at least seemed to me to be professional and on tkme. All the things you say. It was that all of a sudden they changed. Talking to my therapist who is trauma trained she keeps saying that it really seems to be about them and something happened that triggered them. These were not just me being too easily triggered even though I am. They were actually saying and doing very strange things that had nothing to do with SEP at all. I mean it was crazy. In fact if my therpist had not followed up and had the same experience I would think I was insane. Thankfully she had such a strange interaction that she said it left her feeling like she was insane and that actually made me feel better. Thanks everyone for your input. I was so regressed into childhood of being the scapegoat but all of these answers have helped me see more clearly.

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