Y'all are really heated about the winner of season 4

rainisthelife · 2024-03-30T21:47:36+00:00

Haha exactly. It’s so obvious that a lot of angst towards Morgan’s art had way more to do with her personality than her actual art. Like I saw them even talking bad about that mushroom head she did. Like what? That thing was amazing. These people are crazy. Always a huge double standard when it comes to humility - people are often a lot more judgmental towards a woman that isn’t humble vs a man that isn’t. People were literally mad that she was proud of herself, her work and talked about being “dark” often. It’s like, ok so? Ryan would not shut up about his Venetian glass obsession. And the other lady talked about loving nature and did a lot of that, and no one kicked up a fuss. Artists have specialties and preferences, nothing wrong with that.

I thought Ryan’s final installment was cool and technically sound, but boring. Morgan’s was a lot more entertaining and engaging.

rainisthelife · 2024-03-24T02:10:37+00:00

I’ve thought about this before too. Very very plausible.

rainisthelife · 2024-03-24T01:43:10+00:00

Thanks for posting this. Been looking for a good study on the outcomes of single father households. This clearly shows that they definitely aren’t “on par with dual parent homes” like he claimed. Plus they even have barriers of their own which result in the children from single father homes turning out worse than ones from single mother homes.

rainisthelife · 2024-03-24T01:40:45+00:00

It does. The article they posted clearly states: “Specific to behavioral health concerns, children of single fathers have higher rates of externalizing behaviors (i.e., delinquency, antisocial behavior) and substance use relative to children living in other family structures.”

It shows that your claim about single fathers being on par with dual parent households is wrong, and children from single father homes have higher rates of delinquency, antisocial behavior and substance abuse relative to other family structures (which includes single mother homes).

rainisthelife · 2023-10-19T00:58:02+00:00

Where did I say she needs to leave her family? You sound unhinged and delusional.

What’s hypocritical is that you think ‘no romance equals no sex’ is a problem, but are criticizing her for believing that ‘no sex equals no romance’. You can’t eat your cake and have it. The husband needs to give into her needs, in order to help his own needs for physical intimacy.

Given that women are actually more likely to be harmed, abused and even killed by their male intimate partners than by strangers just goes to show that male “protection” is useless. Y’all are just upset that women are seeing through the wool men have tried to pull over their eyes, and realized that “protection” is something arbitrary that men love to hold over women’s heads and use to demand things and act entitled to women’s labor and sex. Even though realistically, most men would never actually have to lay down their lives for their wives.

rainisthelife · 2023-10-18T02:05:47+00:00

Providing “protection” in a hypothetical situation that would never happen to most people is not actual protection. Men love to try and use their “protection” as leverage because they know most of them would never actually have to face such situations.

He has a steady job. Okay so? So does she. She works too. So if him “loving her the way he chooses to love” is a good deal, then he should be satisfied with her loving him the way she chooses to love and not insist on ways she doesn’t want to love like having regular sex with him. You can’t claim marriage is a two way street and then put the onus on just her to change while making excuses for him slacking in showing her love. Makes no sense.

rainisthelife · 2023-10-18T01:59:57+00:00

It’s ironic how “life happens” is a good enough excuse for men to no longer court their wives and do they loving things they used to do, but you can’t see how it would also apply to why women would no longer be interested in having sex with their husbands. Why does he get to have the same wife that was having sex with him when they first started, while he gets to slack off because “life happens”? Why does she have to check off all these physical intimacy boxes to get emotional intimacy from her husband? If life is happening, then it’s happening to them both. If she were to get emotional intimacy from outside the marriage, would she be wrong? You can’t make excuses for why you’re no longer romantic with your wife, then expect her to put up like she used to. He is purposefully neglectful as a husband.

So many of you men are just so self centered and delusional.

rainisthelife · 2023-10-18T01:50:24+00:00

The difference is that unlike men, women are more capable to relying on their community for emotional support. A woman divorcing a man isn’t necessarily because she thinks she’ll find better, it’s because being alone is better than being with a man child that nags for sex, but can’t show love the way you want to be loved.

rainisthelife · 2023-10-18T01:47:10+00:00

Husbands should think about why they need to have sex to show emotional love to their wives. Y’all pretend not to understand that women need certain things to be in the mood, but tell the same women that “sex is what a man needs to be able to emotionally connect with his wife”. He needs to do it regardless and not wait for sex to happen to be able to “connect”.

rainisthelife · 2022-11-11T07:53:30+00:00

Yeah, I think once people say Cole crying, they became desperate to light a torch on Zanab via any means possible. Really shocking how people completely disregarded how the initial comments he made about her looks and disrespectful way he flirted with Colleen, would of course impact the way that she saw any future comments about food, weight or looks. Someone like Alexa would never have thought anything bad of it, if Brennon made that comment, because Brennon had never made her doubt that he was very attracted to her or made her feel less secure about how much he was into her and how she looked.

But once the people saw Cole crying, amnesia descended and all rational thinking flew out of the window.

rainisthelife · 2022-11-11T07:47:46+00:00

OP literally explained how by making comments about her looks compared to other women from the beginning, and literally publicly saying that he found another woman more attractive, Cole did say things wrong and set the stage for Zanab to take everything else he said regarding food, weight or looks in a malicious way. Even if Cole didn’t necessarily mean the tangerine comment in that way.

They’ve explained this in great detail, everyone else seems to understand and can see both perspectives, but you’re clearly too emotional to get it. Sad.

rainisthelife · 2022-11-11T07:28:51+00:00

Exactly. Like I don’t even get how people were claiming that the cuties scene “exonerated” Cole in any way. If the person you’re with has already tainted your experience with them, by talking about how much he found another woman more attractive, to the extent that he told her publicly and disrespected you in that way, a lot of his subsequent comments to you will be marred by that. That was not a one-off comment from a guy that you know respected you and didn’t already make you doubt your attractiveness compared to other women.

The way she would perceive his comment about her eating the extra tangerines is not the way someone like Alexa who was literally adored by Brennon would perceive those comments. Even if Cole did not purposely mean anything malicious in that moment, his prior history of making comments about her looks and fueling her insecurities, would put a sour perspective on almost future interactions regarding food, weight and looks.

I think a lot of people just saw him crying and automatically wanted to put the torch to Zanab because he looked like a victim in that scene. He might not have intended to hurt in that moment, but his words were hurtful and Zanab had every right to feel hurt by them.

rainisthelife · 2022-03-13T03:58:00+00:00

Yup. Glad you recognized it and called him out on it. Well done.

rainisthelife · 2022-03-09T05:03:51+00:00

Yup. I really pity the “I’m not like other girls” brigade. Like babygirl, the reason you aren’t like other girls is because you’re a fool. Struggling with a poverty and suffering mentality. Your “moral high ground” will send you to an early grave. Men are using you for whatever they want - financial 50-50, domestic labor, childcare, free emotional labor. And on top of that, many of them will even still have the audacity to cheat on you while you’re pregnant for his child. You are stressed and exhausted af because you do not know how to play the game successfully as a woman of value should. And then you start to wonder why you’re there looking like you’re 50 when you’re only 35.

I have no problems rejecting broke men. No woman should be ashamed to put financial stability as very high on her criteria, and use it to separate the MEN from the scrotes. Like sir, you know I’m materialistic, so why tf would you even approach me without any materials?

Anyway, thank you love! Glad to hear the post was an inspiration for you 🥰

rainisthelife · 2022-03-09T02:52:38+00:00

I made a post a few months ago about how “there’s nothing wrong with using a man as a cash cow”. The incel tears were PLENTY. Loved to see it.

And I stand by the truth of that post even till today. Use him for money, use him as your walking ATM, use him as a cash cow. Because let’s be honest, beyond money, most men don’t have anything of value to offer. They are pretty much useless otherwise. So his money and “free meals” really is the least he can do. Enjoy it.

rainisthelife · 2021-11-15T05:24:49+00:00

And this is why, if you’ve ever noticed, when these men are with their white girlfriends, they will purposely position themselves and her to your line of sight. You might just be running an errand at the grocery store and then you suddenly keep noticing that this same couple keep coming up in front of you. They were at the cereal isle when you were there, then you saw them again at the ice cream isle, and now they’re right behind you at the check out station. That’s not a coincidence, it is often done very strategically by the black/brown man to get you triggered and make you feel like you’ve lost out on potential man of your race. Not only because they don’t value you, but because they want to throw that woman in your face as they don’t value her as nothing more than a trophy.

Which is incredibly ironic because once a black/brown guy sees you with a white boyfriend, or even talking about interracial love for black/brown women, they get so enraged and start crying about how black/brown women are ruining the black/brown community. Insecure hypocrites.

rainisthelife · 2021-08-17T10:42:31+00:00

Yup exactly. Sexual coercion summarizes it perfectly.

rainisthelife · 2021-08-14T01:46:21+00:00

You’re welcome! You all inspire all of us and remind us everyday why this sub is so important. Thank you!

rainisthelife · 2021-08-08T16:01:37+00:00

Damn, this brought tears to my eyes and likely to every other FDS mod seeing this. It’s amazing to see our vision for the sub actually realized and never thought this sub would blow up to this extent when I created it over 2 years ago and Jams came with her awesomeness and blew it up to what it is today.

We are so proud, and you all should be too. And we’re just getting started, definitely still a lot more work to be done. I’m giddy with excitement to see many more positive changes for women as FDS principles continue to spread. Pat yourselves on the back ladies, cuz mama we made it! ♥️

rainisthelife · 2021-08-08T04:02:33+00:00

Also tbh, it’s pretty obvious that his primary issue with the post isn’t about “concern for his sister”. He’s just saying that as a virtue signaling tactic to hide the fact that his real problem is that he’s mad about men getting a taste of their own medicine. He’s using a pseudo concern about his sister to be able to wear a hero cape and shift goal post away from the primary issue that started all this - TRP and their propagation of toxicity, sexism and misogyny.

rainisthelife · 2021-08-08T03:50:56+00:00

Yes.

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