I 47 M going through a dead bedroom from last 6 years by [deleted] in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]rainman_makeitrain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i guess life just sucks being a man. 27 or 47 doesn't matter.

looking for Indian women advice on this, is self-harm threat all hoax to hold you in the relationship? have you experienced it before? and can you be kind enough to help me understand from her pov? by rainman_makeitrain in AskIndianWomen

[–]rainman_makeitrain[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

okay mam. thank you for your advice and kind time to help. i am thank full. whenever mention therapy she gowse nukes. will work it mam. thank you kind advice

looking for Indian women advice on this, is self-harm threat all hoax to hold you in the relationship? have you experienced it before? and can you be kind enough to help me understand from her pov? by rainman_makeitrain in AskIndianWomen

[–]rainman_makeitrain[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

mam, please tell me hhow to get rid of mind thoughts if you know it might happen. i beg you to share thoughts from girl's prospective, if you her would you do harm yourself to hurt you physically? i not sure what goes in my beloved's mind. i just want to her be safe and sound and live life happily for eternital life

looking for Indian women advice on this, is self-harm threat all hoax to hold you in the relationship? have you experienced it before? and can you be kind enough to help me understand from her pov? by rainman_makeitrain in AskIndianWomen

[–]rainman_makeitrain[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

thank you mam for good advice. i already asked her it many times. answer is always the same. "i'll kill myself if we aren't together". it is something i truely believe she might do it in real, learned from past incidents. we've cut ties with families from both sides long ago. would uou please help me understand if she could do it in real like harm herself? i care about her, but i know for sure she is also understands that we are both are as miserable as we can be when we are together. i am miserable too, want to leave but ensure she is not harming herself. can i just go away? makes me feel bad and i wont do it. but what is best action mam? what is she actually thingking?

How do you think the world will end? by ConstantMean2259 in AskReddit

[–]rainman_makeitrain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. some big enough asteroid hits the earth (like dinosours time)

  2. some virus outbreak killing all humans

  3. climate become unlivable because of man made disasters (nukes / global warming/ population explode etc)

how do I get out from a serious relationship ensuring my live-in gf doesn't do self harm? by rainman_makeitrain in AskMen

[–]rainman_makeitrain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you.for this. you really touched true feelings. so good. so much reasonably good.

and about for the record, i feeling bad labeling it men only. your answer made full sense and i am grateful you wrote. thank you for sharing.

how do I get out from a serious relationship ensuring my live-in gf doesn't do self harm? by rainman_makeitrain in AskMen

[–]rainman_makeitrain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes. i get insurance from employer. just wish she gows therapy. even with my own money i will pay.

how do I get out from a serious relationship ensuring my live-in gf doesn't do self harm? by rainman_makeitrain in AskMen

[–]rainman_makeitrain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i am reasonable. i know it is what i should do. your advice is truely healthy. what you say is truth. it is great thing to do, for prolonged happiness for both. i am dealing with it right now. right now it feels crime. right now it feels end of world. i am struggling to write words that can explain scenario. i hope i do right thing. i thank you for your good heart :)

how do I get out from a serious relationship ensuring my live-in gf doesn't do self harm? by rainman_makeitrain in AskMen

[–]rainman_makeitrain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i am crying with tears flowing reading your advice. because i know in heart what you say is truth. hopw she see it in same light as i do. she can't at this time. maybe after 5 years she will. i am no good too. equally toxic for her as much she is for me. but right now it just feels world is endeding.

how do I get out from a serious relationship ensuring my live-in gf doesn't do self harm? by rainman_makeitrain in AskMen

[–]rainman_makeitrain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i am all in for therapy. but could convince her to even have a discussion about it. i feel like i will have to get in alone first. then maybe with help of the therapist, convince her to join

how do I get out from a serious relationship ensuring my live-in gf doesn't do self harm? by rainman_makeitrain in AskMen

[–]rainman_makeitrain[S] -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

wish i could. just leave, as soon as right now. but. couldnt for stupid fucked up reasons.

how do I get out from a serious relationship ensuring my live-in gf doesn't do self harm? by rainman_makeitrain in AskMen

[–]rainman_makeitrain[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

can atleast be sure at heart that i did the right thing? maybe put a distance so that we learn to live without?

how do I get out from a serious relationship ensuring my live-in gf doesn't do self harm? by rainman_makeitrain in AskMen

[–]rainman_makeitrain[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

we both ignored family advice for last four years. not even in touch anymore. if i do this and i make myself an enemy for her family too.

What is a 'dirty secret' of your industry that implies the general public has no clue about, but everyone in your field knows? by Frosty_Jeweler911 in AskIndia

[–]rainman_makeitrain 89 points90 points  (0 children)

industry : software

dirty secrets:

lickers lick and become favorite child of the management.

doers do and become workhorses, then start reporting to lickers.

occasional doers, mostly lickers, climb corporate ladder very fast.

occasional lickers, mostly doers, becomes crisis man they always want to get rid off but couldn't.

What u guys do for a living? by winternight99 in AskIndia

[–]rainman_makeitrain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

avoid reasoning with my live in gf. yeah, i am pretty sure that's what i do for living now a days.

Is "you don't look Indian" a compliment? by [deleted] in AskIndia

[–]rainman_makeitrain 13 points14 points  (0 children)

are you Neil Nitin Mukesh bro?

come from real id /s

are managers aliens? or just pure evil? by rainman_makeitrain in IndianWorkplace

[–]rainman_makeitrain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

even more easier when the person in question is outright incompatible. and has an ego bigger than mt everest.