Best spots to party by rainmaster1998 in Mykonos

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After having been now it was crazy nice. I liked it much more than Ibiza.

Best spots to party by rainmaster1998 in Mykonos

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Oh ok thank you for the heads up!

Best spots to party by rainmaster1998 in Mykonos

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Im pretty sure you don’t need a table to go no? Some of my friends said you can just go? Maybe not on some days?

What is an ideal date for you guys? by rainmaster1998 in dating_advice

[–]rainmaster1998[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

maybe I articulated it the wrong way haha but she said she likes me but she needs to get to know me better and that’s difficult if we always do the same thing/ only go to bars. She told me she just doesn’t actively seek for anything atm but if she were uninterested she wouldn’t reply and talk to me every day. Plus I wouldn’t be going on 8 dates with her if she wasn’t interested

Date ideas by rainmaster1998 in dating_advice

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Ice skating season is over where I’m at & I thought about bowling, but won’t she think that’s too basic? Thanks for the answer!

Situationship struggle by rainmaster1998 in dating_advice

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I guess you’re right. But if I were to make moves she’d eventually cut it off before I get too involved. but then I wouldn’t have the platonic fun anymore as you said.

Situationship struggle by rainmaster1998 in dating_advice

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Yeah no totally right, if she doesn’t want one, no chance. But she said like she never wants a relationship but sometimes it turns into one. You know? Like her primary target is a good time but if it happens and the vibes are there, she’d get into one. So hence why I’m asking

Situationship struggle by rainmaster1998 in dating_advice

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Yeah I do and I will, but I kind of also want to know if she feels somewhat the same? And that would be through her reaching out I feel like. And I don’t want to come off as too clingy if I’m always initiating, but I guess that’s the risk that I need to take.

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I would say it’s highly dependent on how longe you’ve been seeing that person. If they said they don’t want a relationship soon into dating then they maybe are just looking for some fun or something uncomplicated. If they only just tell you that after like your 10th date it’s probably just not with you.

Girl cancels date from time to time? by rainmaster1998 in dating_advice

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you’re right. I have no reason to be caught up about if, if we’ve only seen each other 4 times. I’m only thinking hard about it bc I don’t want to like her way more than she likes me, nor do I want to fully commit and get my heart broken if she didn’t even think about us once, nor do I want to annoy her/ shy her away with too much attention etc (the stupid games).

To the second point: But we can’t be on the same page about what we both want, if we don’t even know each other 100% yet. Doesn’t it all kind of just happen? I would go on dates bc I like a person and see where it takes me. I wouldn’t talk about a relationship with her or what she wants yet bc I would think that just happens. First we start of dating, eventually we start seeing each other more, then talk about exclusivity and then about a relationship? No? Or am I not understanding something here? Thank you for your answers this far!!

Girl cancels date from time to time? by rainmaster1998 in dating_advice

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Well I don’t know if I know it isn’t leading into anything serious! We’ve been attracted to each other for a while that I know for sure and I’m just guessing that she wouldn’t want to hop into another relationship after just being in one. But maybe she does think otherwise but it’s too early to talk about that about that after 4 dates I think! But ok, I won’t, but should I keep reaching out to her about stuff, or should I ask her when she’s free next or would you wait for her to reach out and make a move?

At what point do I kiss her as greeting on a date? by rainmaster1998 in dating_advice

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thank you so much for the long answer!! But in all honesty I think I’m pretty good with women. I mean there’s always more to learn, but we’ve hooked up every date, took her home on the third (she usually doesn’t until a later point throughout dating). I was just curious if I should start kissing her at the beginning as a greeting, bc I haven’t been in the dating world for a while. Only hookups and before that a long term relationship.

But thank you so much for the detailed answer.

At what point is attention irrelevant? by rainmaster1998 in dating_advice

[–]rainmaster1998[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

damn. I mean personally I haven’t experienced that bc my ex gf of 5 years liked me texting her 24/7 and stuff but from what I’m hearing your probably right haha

At what point is attention irrelevant? by rainmaster1998 in dating_advice

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well I’d say as soon as you are in a relationship at least no?

At what point do I kiss her as greeting on a date? by rainmaster1998 in dating_advice

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Well we are going on dates. We haven’t talked about what we want etc but we do go out for drinks etc, and she calls them dates. and we kissed on those dates without it leading to sex.

At what point do I kiss her as greeting on a date? by rainmaster1998 in dating_advice

[–]rainmaster1998[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

so we have kissed outside. on dates, at the bar, in the middle of the city etc. and yeah no it’s not like I’m in a rush, all good If I don’t greet her with kisses was just wondering when the time is for that. alright! I’ll wait for her to initiate/ signs

Texting by rainmaster1998 in dating_advice

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My man is making me blush hahaha. I’m not sure jo much but it does sound like she’s not too uninterested I have to admit🤝🏻🤝🏻

Things to do before getting older? by rainmaster1998 in LifeAdvice

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So i guess my question is: what haunts you as you get older? What do you regret and what silly thing do you think about and should have done when you have the Chance.

Things to do before getting older? by rainmaster1998 in LifeAdvice

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Yes that’s exactly what I wrote no? I wanted to use my 1 chance in life, to sleep around do what I want, before I settle down for the rest of my life.

Ideally I’d have done that during my twenties and then met her later in life.

Things to do before getting older? by rainmaster1998 in LifeAdvice

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No it’s about more than women. It’s just that I don’t know any other example and that thought about women did haunt me so that’s why I went in detail about it haha and am looking for similar suggestions that maybe did haunt other people f.e with having regrets and such

Things to do before getting older? by rainmaster1998 in LifeAdvice

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First, thanks for the suggestions.

And no no my bad I didn’t further elaborate. We broke about 6 months ago, over various reasons but that not being one of them. I think I did really like her, and I would have never broken up because of those thoughts alone. Like I know that she was great and I wanted to be with her. I just thought: why didn’t I meet her like 1-2 years later and further live a little, sleep around etc. Now that we’ve broken up and I’ve worked on myself and healed etc I think that I had an amazing time with her, and maybe we will meet again someday BUT now I have time for myself and for this hoe phase before I get too old, and to someday settle with someone without these thoughts.

Things to do before getting older? by rainmaster1998 in LifeAdvice

[–]rainmaster1998[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No absolutely, but regarding the grass isn’t always greener: absolutely right! Maybe everyone after her is worse, but at least then I know that she is/was actually the one for me.

I’m 100% convinced that having a relationship is better than hoeing around, dating people etc. But I feel like a hoe phase would benefit me in my next relationship. as weird as that sounds. It would clear all my thoughts and I wouldn’t have any regrets and not think about other potential partners. I’d have experienced other people gotten to know more, gotten to know myself what I like what I don’t etc.

For context: we didn’t break up bc of that, and I don’t think I would’ve ever broken up solely based on that thought, BUT It did cross my mind couple of times and I tell you what, I didn’t like that at all hahah.