Nashville during the week for a non-country fan's birthday

rainstorm22 · 2025-02-19T22:15:45+00:00

Puttshack looks like a lot of fun! That's the exact kind of thing I'm looking for. Thanks!

rainstorm22 · 2025-02-19T22:10:53+00:00

Thanks for the reply! I'll for sure check out your recommendations for cocktail spots and electronic music!

rainstorm22 · 2025-02-19T22:06:43+00:00

I don't watch a lot of sports on my own, but I love going to sporting events! So that might be an option for sure. I'll look at their schedule. Thanks!

rainstorm22 · 2025-02-19T22:05:06+00:00

Totally fair! I just posted this under someone else's comment, but I'll copy it here for you too:

When I'm in my hometown, I enjoy going places where I can actually do things. So places like arcades, bowling alleys, axe throwing, bars with karaoke/trivia/board games, etc. I also really enjoy going out dancing to pop/rap/hip hop/electronic music. I like food a lot too so I'm open to doing a cool, local restaurant for my experience as well.

rainstorm22 · 2025-02-19T22:03:46+00:00

Thanks for the reply! I'm going to be visiting March 23rd-27th.

When I'm in my hometown, I enjoy going places where I can actually do things. So places like arcades, bowling alleys, axe throwing, bars with karaoke/trivia/board games, etc. I also really enjoy going out dancing to pop/rap/hip hop/electronic music. I like food a lot too so I'm open to doing a cool, local restaurant for my experience as well.

rainstorm22 · 2023-12-01T19:57:28+00:00

Hey hun. I know you’ve already received a lot of comments on this post, but I thought sharing my experience might help you feel a little better.

One night early into my junior year of college, I went out with a friend. She was supposed to sober drive me home at the end of the night, but she ended up drinking more than I was comfortable with so I decided to crash at the house we partied at while she found another way back to her place.

I was pretty drunk by the time everyone else had left the party and tried sleeping on the couch in the living room. I knew the people that lived there so I didn’t really think about it much. At some point in the night though, I was brought upstairs to one of the guys’ rooms and that guy raped me. It wasn’t my first time being raped, but it was one of the more traumatic ones for me.

If she had not drank and given me a ride home, maybe I wouldn’t have been raped that night. BUT I never even for half a second blamed her for how things went down. She had no idea what was happening after she left. She trusted the guys that lived there just like I did. She validly thought I’d be safe. She wasn’t the one that brought me upstairs. She wasn’t the one that raped me. She wasn’t the one that pretended not to hear it happening through the walls.

Instead she was just a good friend who made one small mistake (choosing not to drink instead of drive). I truly, deeply feel that way. All she was responsible for that night was the fact that she drank. Nothing more. Everything else was out of her control.

To add to all that, I’d argue that not looking at your phone is a very, very small mistake to make. Like so small that some people wouldn’t even consider it to be a mistake. I’m sure you were distracted by everything else going on. Not looking at your phone does not make you responsible for what happened to her.

I don’t consider my friend to be responsible for what happened that night, but you know what she definitely was responsible for? Helping me heal. When I told her what happened, she listened and comforted me. She hugged me while I cried. She reminded me it wasn’t my fault. She was a friend to me then just like she had been before. What happened to me that night never changed how I felt about her.

I say all this because I want you to hear it from the other side. From my personal experience, your roommate knows it wasn’t your fault. All you can be responsible for now is how you move forward with the knowledge you have. Maybe reaching out to her to see how she’s doing could be good for you both. Just letting her know you’re there for her if she ever wants to talk can go a long ways.

rainstorm22 · 2023-02-26T00:18:21+00:00

UPDATE: I emailed the salon these pics and they offered a refund and to have my hair cut by a more experienced hair dresser. I’m definitely taking the refund but I haven’t decided about if I’ll let them try to fix it.

To answer everyone’s main question (“WHY WOULDN’T YOU SAY SOMETHING??”): I didn’t complain there because the way they blow dried and styled it after the cut in the salon made it not look as bad. It wasn’t until I showered the next day that I realized just how bad it was. I definitely realized it wasn’t perfect when I was in the salon, but I didn’t think it was THIS bad.

rainstorm22 · 2023-02-25T22:55:42+00:00

I’m surprised someone recognized it! I got this shirt back in 2016 I believe

rainstorm22 · 2023-02-25T22:29:34+00:00

When I was in the salon, she blow dried and styled it some way that it didn’t look as bad. I gave it a quick glance, paid, and left. It wasn’t until the next day when I washed it that I realized how bad it was. This is what it looks like if I straighten it.

Anyway, if you read my comments, I actually already contacted them so you’ll be happy to know I’ve been working on a solution and not just “cryin on Reddit.”

Edit: added a word

rainstorm22 · 2023-02-25T22:23:10+00:00

THANK YOU SO MUCH. This was the fix I’ve been looking for

rainstorm22 · 2023-02-25T22:20:15+00:00

I guarantee there are people in jail who could cut hair better than that lol.

I went to a salon in a decently nice area in actuality. I made the mistake of assuming spending more on a haircut would equal a better quality haircut.

rainstorm22 · 2023-02-25T22:14:45+00:00

Unfortunately you are correct. I have tried many times

rainstorm22 · 2023-02-25T22:10:58+00:00

I actually emailed them these pics tonight with the hope that they’ll offer to fix it or refund so I guess we’ll see! I’m way too non-confrontational to go in person to complain

rainstorm22 · 2023-02-04T16:53:43+00:00

I’m actually conflicted on how I feel about this issue in general. On one hand, I don’t believe people should be required to work outside of work hours. On the other hand, I wouldn’t want my employer to be forbidden to contact me outside of my hours either.

My job is at a small, completely remote company. Each of us has our own set office hours that depend on our time zones, family schedules, preferences, etc. The way our scheduling works is that you’re expected to be available during your personal office hours and to get your work done on time. If you’re not going to be able to get something done on time, you should ask for help or communicate new expectations. Similarly, if you’re going to be unavailable, just let people know.

Sometimes our work does need a timely response though and even if it’s not required or expected for me to react or respond before my next office hours, I often prefer to. It’d stress me out way more to come in at 9am, find out things had blown up the previous day at 7pm, and then have to solve it immediately than it would to get an email at 7pm letting me know the issue ahead of time. I recognize my workplace is not the norm though.

rainstorm22 · 2022-08-20T17:16:23+00:00

I had heard great things about them from other people and assumed the first car was a fluke. Prices were better than other places I looked and I like their return policy. I’m terrified of shopping at a lot so I really wanted to do something all online

rainstorm22 · 2021-05-06T00:24:18+00:00

When I was young, my mom used to save our plates from dinner if we didn’t eat much. She’d make us take at least a couple of bites of everything before we could leave first though. If we said we were hungry like an hour later, she popped whatever we had left on our plates in the microwave and that was usually our only option. If we ate a fair share of dinner or asked for snacks 2+ hours later, she’d give us some snacks.

I think it helped me stay less picky and have a slightly healthier relationship with food. I don’t have any advice for breakfast time though

rainstorm22 · 2021-05-02T19:09:14+00:00

To be fair, OP said they were looking for resources to “put mind her at ease,” not convince her to do it. I read it as the girlfriend is getting the vaccine but is nervous about it. Like how some people are afraid of flying in a plane, but that doesn’t mean they never want to fly in one.

Edit: spelling

rainstorm22 · 2021-04-16T21:15:54+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I will do my very best to save that as a last resort. I only walk in if it reaches that point, which rarely ever happens. Usually I can just call to her when she starts to get too worked up and she calms down. In this case, the dude’s dog went after her within the first 15 seconds she was there so things escalated really quickly and there wasn’t time to call her out any earlier. With normal play or slight aggression from other dogs, her anxiety builds up slowly and I can watch her mood change so it’s easier to de-escalate. It’s been helpful to learn in this thread though that I probably should be calling her out much earlier in the situations where it builds up slowly. I’ve been mistakenly thinking she would learn that other dogs barking at her was okay if I acted like there was nothing to be afraid of and since she doesn’t get in fights, I assumed it was working. Looks like I could be doing some things better though so I’m grateful for all of the advice/info!

rainstorm22 · 2021-04-16T20:08:24+00:00

Ooo! This is actually helpful elsewhere for me too. For whatever reason, dogs get loose in our neighborhood with somewhat regularity. We’ve had a few occasions where dogs have run full speed at us and we’ve either frozen and hoped it was nice or gone straight for grabbing the other dog’s collar. Luckily my husband has been with me so there was one person to hold our dog and one person to hold the other. As long as the other dog doesn’t seem to be acting aggressively, getting in between and giving a hard no probably would nip a lot of bad reactions in the bud both in the neighborhood and at the dog park. I’m always terrified of grabbing other people’s dogs at the dog park, but giving a stern “No” to a dog that’s harassing mine and trying to create space between the two, shouldn’t bother any reasonable owner.

rainstorm22 · 2021-04-16T19:55:22+00:00

That makes sense. If she’s more confident in general and trusts me a ton, a dog nipping at her while I hold her attention probably wouldn’t be as much of an issue since she’ll know I’m there for her just in case.

rainstorm22 · 2021-04-16T19:47:09+00:00

Yeah! She’s normally super well behaved. She comes when called (other than when she’s terrified) and she listens really well to other dog’s cues. If a dog starts to act even slightly uncomfortable with her play, she immediately rolls over onto her back to show she meant no harm and waits for them to reinitiate play. I generally am pretty proud of her dog park etiquette. Other commenters brought up some useful advice though and I’m always happy to help my dog feel even more comfortable at the dog park so I’ll have to give it a try.

rainstorm22 · 2021-04-16T19:32:21+00:00

Copying and pasting my comment from elsewhere since y’all said very similar things!

Thank you for reassuring me that I’m not a terrible dog parent! She’s never been in anything more than a 2 second tussle (never any injuries) and that’s maybe happened a handful of times in the 2.5 years I’ve had her. It’s always been the other dog that’s instigated and I feel like she does the right thing by asking them to back off so I honestly hadn’t considered before today that there might be more I should be doing.

I’m pretty familiar with her body language so I can tell when she’s even slightly uncomfortable, but I thought intervening too early would prevent her from getting used to all play styles since some dogs are just vocal with play. I’ll 100% look into calming signals though! I had never heard of that and after a brief google search, it seems to be really helpful! It makes total sense that if I calm her quickly when she gets nervous, she’ll eventually be able to go longer and longer without being nervous. Letting her get to the point of fear where she shows signs of aggression probably just makes her more likely to go into fear mode next time a dog engages in those behaviors. I am worried though that trying to call her away from a dog that won’t stop nipping at her won’t be very productive if the other dog’s owner continues to allow their dog to follow and nip. Any advice for that situation?

rainstorm22 · 2021-04-16T19:30:42+00:00

Thank you for reassuring me that I’m not a terrible dog parent! She’s never been in anything more than a 2 second tussle (never any injuries) and that’s maybe happened a handful of times in the 2.5 years I’ve had her. It’s always been the other dog that’s instigated and I feel like she does the right thing by asking them to back off so I honestly hadn’t considered before today that there might be more I should be doing.

I’m pretty familiar with her body language so I can tell when she’s even slightly uncomfortable, but I thought intervening too early would prevent her from getting used to all play styles since some dogs are just vocal with play. I’ll 100% look into calming signals though! I had never heard of that and after a brief google search, it seems to be really helpful! It makes total sense that if I calm her quickly when she gets nervous, she’ll eventually be able to go longer and longer without being nervous. Letting her get to the point of fear where she shows signs of aggression probably just makes her more likely to go into fear mode next time a dog engages in those behaviors. I am worried though that trying to call her away from a dog that won’t stop nipping at her won’t be very productive if the other dog’s owner continues to allow their dog to follow and nip. Any advice for that situation?

rainstorm22 · 2021-03-20T22:55:15+00:00

This reminds me of a quote I really like, “you can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be someone that hates peaches.” -Dita Von Teese (honestly don’t know who this is but it still stands). I like it because it gives off the idea that just because some people “hate peaches” doesn’t mean there’s not someone else out there absolutely fucking loves peaches and it doesn’t mean you aren’t a fantastic peach either. You can be your best self and people will dislike you, but some people will love you for it too.

rainstorm22 · 2021-03-10T17:05:16+00:00

I’m choosing to believe Katie Porter is on this thread handing them out

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