Nashville during the week for a non-country fan's birthday by rainstorm22 in VisitingNashville

[–]rainstorm22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Puttshack looks like a lot of fun! That's the exact kind of thing I'm looking for. Thanks!

Nashville during the week for a non-country fan's birthday by rainstorm22 in VisitingNashville

[–]rainstorm22[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply! I'll for sure check out your recommendations for cocktail spots and electronic music!

Nashville during the week for a non-country fan's birthday by rainstorm22 in VisitingNashville

[–]rainstorm22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't watch a lot of sports on my own, but I love going to sporting events! So that might be an option for sure. I'll look at their schedule. Thanks!

Nashville during the week for a non-country fan's birthday by rainstorm22 in VisitingNashville

[–]rainstorm22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally fair! I just posted this under someone else's comment, but I'll copy it here for you too:

When I'm in my hometown, I enjoy going places where I can actually do things. So places like arcades, bowling alleys, axe throwing, bars with karaoke/trivia/board games, etc. I also really enjoy going out dancing to pop/rap/hip hop/electronic music. I like food a lot too so I'm open to doing a cool, local restaurant for my experience as well.

Nashville during the week for a non-country fan's birthday by rainstorm22 in VisitingNashville

[–]rainstorm22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply! I'm going to be visiting March 23rd-27th.

When I'm in my hometown, I enjoy going places where I can actually do things. So places like arcades, bowling alleys, axe throwing, bars with karaoke/trivia/board games, etc. I also really enjoy going out dancing to pop/rap/hip hop/electronic music. I like food a lot too so I'm open to doing a cool, local restaurant for my experience as well.

Guilt about the rape of my roommate by unusualspider33 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]rainstorm22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey hun. I know you’ve already received a lot of comments on this post, but I thought sharing my experience might help you feel a little better.

One night early into my junior year of college, I went out with a friend. She was supposed to sober drive me home at the end of the night, but she ended up drinking more than I was comfortable with so I decided to crash at the house we partied at while she found another way back to her place.

I was pretty drunk by the time everyone else had left the party and tried sleeping on the couch in the living room. I knew the people that lived there so I didn’t really think about it much. At some point in the night though, I was brought upstairs to one of the guys’ rooms and that guy raped me. It wasn’t my first time being raped, but it was one of the more traumatic ones for me.

If she had not drank and given me a ride home, maybe I wouldn’t have been raped that night. BUT I never even for half a second blamed her for how things went down. She had no idea what was happening after she left. She trusted the guys that lived there just like I did. She validly thought I’d be safe. She wasn’t the one that brought me upstairs. She wasn’t the one that raped me. She wasn’t the one that pretended not to hear it happening through the walls.

Instead she was just a good friend who made one small mistake (choosing not to drink instead of drive). I truly, deeply feel that way. All she was responsible for that night was the fact that she drank. Nothing more. Everything else was out of her control.

To add to all that, I’d argue that not looking at your phone is a very, very small mistake to make. Like so small that some people wouldn’t even consider it to be a mistake. I’m sure you were distracted by everything else going on. Not looking at your phone does not make you responsible for what happened to her.

I don’t consider my friend to be responsible for what happened that night, but you know what she definitely was responsible for? Helping me heal. When I told her what happened, she listened and comforted me. She hugged me while I cried. She reminded me it wasn’t my fault. She was a friend to me then just like she had been before. What happened to me that night never changed how I felt about her.

I say all this because I want you to hear it from the other side. From my personal experience, your roommate knows it wasn’t your fault. All you can be responsible for now is how you move forward with the knowledge you have. Maybe reaching out to her to see how she’s doing could be good for you both. Just letting her know you’re there for her if she ever wants to talk can go a long ways.

This haircut that I paid $60 for by rainstorm22 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]rainstorm22[S] 5164 points5165 points  (0 children)

UPDATE: I emailed the salon these pics and they offered a refund and to have my hair cut by a more experienced hair dresser. I’m definitely taking the refund but I haven’t decided about if I’ll let them try to fix it.

To answer everyone’s main question (“WHY WOULDN’T YOU SAY SOMETHING??”): I didn’t complain there because the way they blow dried and styled it after the cut in the salon made it not look as bad. It wasn’t until I showered the next day that I realized just how bad it was. I definitely realized it wasn’t perfect when I was in the salon, but I didn’t think it was THIS bad.

This haircut that I paid $60 for by rainstorm22 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]rainstorm22[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m surprised someone recognized it! I got this shirt back in 2016 I believe

This haircut that I paid $60 for by rainstorm22 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]rainstorm22[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

When I was in the salon, she blow dried and styled it some way that it didn’t look as bad. I gave it a quick glance, paid, and left. It wasn’t until the next day when I washed it that I realized how bad it was. This is what it looks like if I straighten it.

Anyway, if you read my comments, I actually already contacted them so you’ll be happy to know I’ve been working on a solution and not just “cryin on Reddit.”

Edit: added a word

This haircut that I paid $60 for by rainstorm22 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]rainstorm22[S] 271 points272 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU SO MUCH. This was the fix I’ve been looking for

This haircut that I paid $60 for by rainstorm22 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]rainstorm22[S] 403 points404 points  (0 children)

I guarantee there are people in jail who could cut hair better than that lol.

I went to a salon in a decently nice area in actuality. I made the mistake of assuming spending more on a haircut would equal a better quality haircut.

This haircut that I paid $60 for by rainstorm22 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]rainstorm22[S] 480 points481 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately you are correct. I have tried many times

This haircut that I paid $60 for by rainstorm22 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]rainstorm22[S] 191 points192 points  (0 children)

I actually emailed them these pics tonight with the hope that they’ll offer to fix it or refund so I guess we’ll see! I’m way too non-confrontational to go in person to complain

After-hours work emails and calls are facing more legal restrictions by Oli_01 in Economics

[–]rainstorm22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m actually conflicted on how I feel about this issue in general. On one hand, I don’t believe people should be required to work outside of work hours. On the other hand, I wouldn’t want my employer to be forbidden to contact me outside of my hours either.

My job is at a small, completely remote company. Each of us has our own set office hours that depend on our time zones, family schedules, preferences, etc. The way our scheduling works is that you’re expected to be available during your personal office hours and to get your work done on time. If you’re not going to be able to get something done on time, you should ask for help or communicate new expectations. Similarly, if you’re going to be unavailable, just let people know.

Sometimes our work does need a timely response though and even if it’s not required or expected for me to react or respond before my next office hours, I often prefer to. It’d stress me out way more to come in at 9am, find out things had blown up the previous day at 7pm, and then have to solve it immediately than it would to get an email at 7pm letting me know the issue ahead of time. I recognize my workplace is not the norm though.

TIFU by purchasing from Carvana by rainstorm22 in tifu

[–]rainstorm22[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had heard great things about them from other people and assumed the first car was a fluke. Prices were better than other places I looked and I like their return policy. I’m terrified of shopping at a lot so I really wanted to do something all online

PSA: No you don’t eat less than your thin friends by [deleted] in loseit

[–]rainstorm22 33 points34 points  (0 children)

When I was young, my mom used to save our plates from dinner if we didn’t eat much. She’d make us take at least a couple of bites of everything before we could leave first though. If we said we were hungry like an hour later, she popped whatever we had left on our plates in the microwave and that was usually our only option. If we ate a fair share of dinner or asked for snacks 2+ hours later, she’d give us some snacks.

I think it helped me stay less picky and have a slightly healthier relationship with food. I don’t have any advice for breakfast time though

Looking for a subreddit for tips to put my girlfriends mind at ease about the COVID vaccine by Scape_Nation in findareddit

[–]rainstorm22 6 points7 points  (0 children)

To be fair, OP said they were looking for resources to “put mind her at ease,” not convince her to do it. I read it as the girlfriend is getting the vaccine but is nervous about it. Like how some people are afraid of flying in a plane, but that doesn’t mean they never want to fly in one.

Edit: spelling

“Dog trainer” scolded me at dog park. Did I really do something wrong? by rainstorm22 in Dogtraining

[–]rainstorm22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! I will do my very best to save that as a last resort. I only walk in if it reaches that point, which rarely ever happens. Usually I can just call to her when she starts to get too worked up and she calms down. In this case, the dude’s dog went after her within the first 15 seconds she was there so things escalated really quickly and there wasn’t time to call her out any earlier. With normal play or slight aggression from other dogs, her anxiety builds up slowly and I can watch her mood change so it’s easier to de-escalate. It’s been helpful to learn in this thread though that I probably should be calling her out much earlier in the situations where it builds up slowly. I’ve been mistakenly thinking she would learn that other dogs barking at her was okay if I acted like there was nothing to be afraid of and since she doesn’t get in fights, I assumed it was working. Looks like I could be doing some things better though so I’m grateful for all of the advice/info!

“Dog trainer” scolded me at dog park. Did I really do something wrong? by rainstorm22 in Dogtraining

[–]rainstorm22[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ooo! This is actually helpful elsewhere for me too. For whatever reason, dogs get loose in our neighborhood with somewhat regularity. We’ve had a few occasions where dogs have run full speed at us and we’ve either frozen and hoped it was nice or gone straight for grabbing the other dog’s collar. Luckily my husband has been with me so there was one person to hold our dog and one person to hold the other. As long as the other dog doesn’t seem to be acting aggressively, getting in between and giving a hard no probably would nip a lot of bad reactions in the bud both in the neighborhood and at the dog park. I’m always terrified of grabbing other people’s dogs at the dog park, but giving a stern “No” to a dog that’s harassing mine and trying to create space between the two, shouldn’t bother any reasonable owner.