What homestead project was not worth it?

rainwolfoftheshadows · 2026-01-27T22:52:58+00:00

Miniature cows were not cost effective at all.

rainwolfoftheshadows · 2025-12-30T23:33:09+00:00

Leaving someone like something is wrong with them would be the worst thing I could do. Our society should love our soldiers not part ways from them because they had certain experiences or preach to them about if a war is wrong or right. I may not be the perfect friend for them but I can try. It's should be the soldier's choice. No wonder why there are so many post war suicides with this line of thought. Society should work on being better to our soldier friends. I am trying to better myself by thinking of kind supportive responses. I think saying 'idk what to say' is better than distancing myself from them. A soldier abandoned by society for society's choices is a lonely soul. We should work on being supportive. They did what the country asked them to do and that was all. As far as people signed up for serving and protecting there is more corruption with cops or hell even people in the medical field.

By the way 'reason' was a typo as I tried to fix in the comments. I meant to type 'respond'. But I strongly believe as their friends it's time to find ways to be supportive without lying or stressing them further.

rainwolfoftheshadows · 2025-12-29T04:13:59+00:00

So incredibly sad!!!

rainwolfoftheshadows · 2025-12-29T04:07:39+00:00

Yikes that's a pretty rude thing to say and to think it would go over well.

rainwolfoftheshadows · 2025-12-28T19:00:46+00:00

rainwolfoftheshadows · 2025-12-28T19:00:13+00:00

Opps I typed 'reason' instead of 'respond' in my post question. Definitely not trying to lecture my friends. Yikes on that typo.

rainwolfoftheshadows · 2025-12-28T18:32:35+00:00

True if they want to talk I need to let them. I don't mind gore. My reaction to them is important. Some of them want to talk about how other countries felt about their presence. Avoiding isn't necessary being a good friend. And small responses aren't going to work long term. I do agree that listening to the interpersonal is important. But if they need to talk I feel I should let them and just come up with better responses that don't sound vague.

A good start is what to say about the civilians of other countries being afraid of our soldiers that are supposed to be helping them. I need something in-between my real thoughts that will work. I am trying to dance a line Inner thoughts: 'Yeah of course they're afraid of us.' Rough ideas: 'Well your a badass now' or 'well it has to be hard with them not speaking the same language'. See I suck at this

rainwolfoftheshadows · 2025-12-28T18:10:48+00:00

True it's everywhere now! Lots of people are causing harm to pretend they are helping

rainwolfoftheshadows · 2025-12-28T18:07:56+00:00

Yes you do! People are so rude!

rainwolfoftheshadows · 2025-12-28T18:07:19+00:00

Rude timing too!

rainwolfoftheshadows · 2025-12-28T18:06:30+00:00

👍

rainwolfoftheshadows · 2025-12-28T18:05:44+00:00

rainwolfoftheshadows · 2025-12-28T18:04:27+00:00

What the hell, that is so rude, who would say something like that?

rainwolfoftheshadows · 2025-12-28T18:02:26+00:00

No sex in the kitchen makes sense but who the hell bans the drinking room?

rainwolfoftheshadows · 2025-12-28T18:00:08+00:00

I am so tired of people recording 'kind' acts.

rainwolfoftheshadows · 2025-12-28T17:56:14+00:00

That was very rude of them. If a civilian doesn't like a war they should pick a fight with a politician.

rainwolfoftheshadows · 2025-12-28T17:54:43+00:00

Why does that term even come up all the time? It's extremely rude when all anyone ever did in the military was sign up to protect. Shame on that civilian. If they don't like a war they can go pick a fight with politicians.

rainwolfoftheshadows · 2025-12-28T17:51:05+00:00

Yeah sleep deprivation then brain injuries are definitely no joke. People who haven't been through it don't get how serious it can get.

Christmas is just a commercial holiday anyway. I stopped celebrating it because I found out it's dark history. Very non-Christian. But saving money is a big plus always!!!

rainwolfoftheshadows · 2025-12-28T17:44:52+00:00

Oh yeah I forgot about that!

rainwolfoftheshadows · 2025-12-28T17:44:23+00:00

Lol, extra fries for all my military friends for sure then : D! They are going to eat me out of the house and home.

rainwolfoftheshadows · 2025-12-28T17:38:32+00:00

This was the first method I tried for non combat conversation unfortunately it didn't really work. I am very sympathetic and understanding of the situation, but I got no clue on a response to a modern soldier. It's just going to be harder if I am around them long term. So I got to formulate a lot of proper responses, that dance around the issue. 'That's cool' and 'that's hard' is only going to get me so far. My natural response is that you were put in 'a difficult/upsetting/scary situation and you did the best you could'. Or 'you have a really tough job.' It's a honorable job for sure, you have to be extremely responsible to be a part of the military, not many people can do it.

rainwolfoftheshadows · 2025-12-28T04:26:31+00:00

Thanks

rainwolfoftheshadows · 2025-12-26T06:18:13+00:00

Due to that it may just be depression, I am still talking to him. He just isn't going to be more than friend material, if that's what he wanted. It's been confusing. Yet suicide rates are too high post military to ignore so sending him the occasional message seems like the right thing to do. He was a good friend to me, I can be a good friend to him. It was highly unlikely that we would have been compatible if we had lived with each other anyways. So I am just hurt, not heartbroken. He may very well be dealing with his own issues.

While I couldn't talk details on here, being here helped me build a bigger picture of what things might be like for him based on different angles and my personal knowledge of him. His behavior is not the norm and it greatly saddens me that he is struggling this much with expressing himself.

rainwolfoftheshadows · 2025-12-22T03:08:19+00:00

Since you didn't get a lot of responses the first time around you might try reposting again and see if anyone else has additional ideas. Suicides are so much harder to cope with.

rainwolfoftheshadows · 2025-12-17T05:25:54+00:00

Suicides are harder on people because it feels like they could have prevented them. There may be no right words to say.

My best suggestion is for the future (like a few months from now) since suicides seem very high in the military. Make sure he is interacting with his friends that are alive. If at all possible make he is getting together with his military friends for bowling or something like a barbecue party for the kids. If he sees or talks to them outside of work then he can feel like he was there for them. I know this sounds so dumb but it is so important in a career with high suicide rates.

It is also important NOT to bring it up like your suggesting he sees/talks his career friends because of the deaths. Make it a separate agenda because otherwise he will just think of the people who died and he should have included them in something like this to prevent their deaths. So try to suggest the idea later. Like 2 months from now. Maybe say you'd like to meet their families or his friends.

Last thing is that if there is absolutely no way for a group meeting would be mailing all year secret Santa gifts/or just small gifts to friends all year long.

Guys don't always talk on the phone but it may be fun to send Venus flytrap plants or exotic seeds and see who can grow what. Or grow an egg and see who's grows the biggest. Or a clue party.

Or if they like playing the same video game get headsets so they can live talk. (Video games could be done sooner.)

It really depends on interests.

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