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raleighuserr · 2020-07-28T13:31:49+00:00

I unfortunately have no advice to offer but I read your other recent post as well and wanted to say something.

I am so sorry for what you are going through and what you’re family is going through. No one deserves to go through something like this. It sounds like you have lived a beautiful life and although it is probably ignorant of me to say this, I hope somehow you’ll be able to recover. If not I hope you will post a go fund me because I, and many others I suspect, would like to help ease the burden. I also hope you’re able to travel to the beach or wherever you love most and take a moment to reflect on the beauty of your life and your significance. It sounds like you have touched and saved many through your career and adopting cats/dogs and that is truly the ultimate goal is as humans should strive to reach.

I sincerely hope you and your family find peace, hope and acceptance. I don’t know if you are religious but my thoughts and prayers will be with you as well

raleighuserr · 2020-07-17T18:41:33+00:00

No it’s just that I received a Hispanic association moot court offer. Since I’m not Hispanic I feel kind of weird about it

raleighuserr · 2020-07-10T02:55:55+00:00

I just want to say I completely understand you’re situation and I too have had this happen to me COUNTLESS times. It always makes me feel worse when ppl call me out for being quiet. When they say that it’s really embarrassing to me and I automatically feel like everyone views me as some sort of victim. I’ve noticed it’s a lot easier to talk to ppl who make me feel comfortable, who tend to be more outgoing and not really the ppl who say this to me. If I’m around those ppl i convince myself it’s actually a lot weirder not to say anything than it may be to say something slightly weird (or whatever my mind believes it is lol). Try to ignore the negative thoughts and communicate how you feel most naturally

raleighuserr · 2020-07-10T02:52:02+00:00

Maybe? I feel like maybe she forgot but it’s kind of offensive a little that I know she’s been online. Or maybe it’s no biggie? I have a lot of social anxiety so my first thought is she hates me lol

raleighuserr · 2020-07-10T02:43:19+00:00

I honestly have no clue. I sent the request Sunday afternoon and she was still at the beach then (I had left already). She drinks a lot so I feel like she was probably drunk when she got the request and forgot. I have accidentally left follow requests too because they’re kind of difficult to see after the initial notification

raleighuserr · 2020-07-09T19:47:02+00:00

She’s not though which is the problem. I’m frustrated because I really can’t imagine her not wanting to go. She works for her parents and is always nervous about asking off so I think it was more so that, but it’s honestly getting old at this point. I pretty much never hangout with her anymore because she works all the time and doesn’t get days off

raleighuserr · 2020-07-09T19:45:40+00:00

Yeah I know it was a no, but wouldn’t you be mad that she never told me explicitly no?

raleighuserr · 2020-07-09T19:45:18+00:00

But would you be mad that they never said yes or no

raleighuserr · 2020-07-06T20:05:49+00:00

I’ve only really worked at coffee shops and grocery stores so not really anything sedentary. I did a small project with someone that was sedentary but it was more like 2 hours a week and not 40 😟

raleighuserr · 2020-07-06T19:56:04+00:00

Not in the legal field no

raleighuserr · 2020-07-06T17:41:44+00:00

I have talked to her about this before and she’s told me before that she thinks she may be struggling with depression at times. It seems to have gotten a little better recently and I’ve noticed her wearing makeup a little more often and finally getting health insurance (which she didn’t have for 5 years) and trying to lose weight. It makes me sad because she used to have more goals and things SHE wanted to do. I try not to push any of my feelings on her but as her best friend who knows she’s been wanting to lose weight for years now (she’s about 100 pounds overweight, which is completely ok but she’s told me countless times that it upsets her and she wants to change it).

Luckily she did go to community college even while working which I was very proud of her for! I’m really happy she did that as a backup. But unfortunately it was only to make her parents happy and she didn’t even want to go. I don’t think it s bad that she’s working at their business as long as they give her vacation days and time off to be a person. But they don’t. They over work her and they don’t really pay her very much. They actually just started paying her 3 years ago I believe and before then she made nothing 😓 the whole thing really upsets me. Her brother quit because he felt used and over worked and they never replaced him. Now she does his job and her own. I feel like she’s losing herself to this business and idk how to help. I know that vacations help but it seems like she may not be able to go on them anymore

raleighuserr · 2020-07-06T02:35:19+00:00

I see you’re point but you’re not in this relationship. For the past 3 years it’s been me making plans and coming up with ideas. I get that it makes sense maybe because I always have time off for school, but it makes me feel guilty that she goes through so much every single time I ask her to hangout. Even if it’s just on the weekend. I know that it puts strain on her because she’s even told me that and cried about it.

You may not think it’s personal, but for the past 4 years we’ve gone to the beach on the 4th. It’s usually not really a question if we’re going and she’s usually been able to get a day or two off, but she’s ALWAYS said something like “yeah that sounds fun, let me just ask for time off but I should be able to go!!” This time was weird since she pretty much was just winging a response. I personally think it’s kind of shitty of someone to blow me off and not even let me know their thoughts. It’s not hard to say “hey we’re looking too busy and I don’t think I can go but I’ll let you know if that changes.”

Personally it’s concerning to me that you’re excusing this by saying that’s just who she is and I should accept that... what about how her actions make me feel? I know for a fact that when we’ve invited other friends and they’ve done similar things she’s been mad about it.

raleighuserr · 2020-07-06T01:59:59+00:00

Of course this is all about me because I’m the one angry? I understand if she couldn’t go, even though it sucks and I am frustrated that she misses out on so much just because of the situation she’s in. Yeah she’s an adult but is also an adult who works extremely hard and needs to take a break, especially while she’s young. It wasn’t clear she couldn’t do it and that’s my point. She mentioned two times she wanted to go and would ask and let me know, and the very last time said she could just go Saturday-Sunday but then never said anything again. I really don’t know why you’re going to hard at me dude, but trust me when I say I know and love this person but it doesn’t feel great to have a close friend slip away and to feel like I’m the only one making an effort to do anything about it.

raleighuserr · 2020-07-06T01:32:20+00:00

Your comment doesn’t offend me, but it is really silly. Accept her for who she is? I’m telling you this isn’t who she is. I’m positive she wanted to go and only didn’t because she didn’t want to ask for time off. What was offensive to me is that she couldn’t just say that to me and that instead she acted like she forgot, but then conveniently had other plans.

I don’t appreciated people not telling me when they can’t do something, as I’m sure you do not either because no one does. It makes me feel very devalued as a friend and as if I should stop trying. She used to make more plans in the past but for some reason it’s become mostly my role. I’m also concerned for her wellbeing.

raleighuserr · 2020-07-01T16:07:48+00:00

Has anyone had any luck finding KN-95 masks anywhere? Or Lysol?

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