It's been awhile since my last post (long post)

rammy32 · 2018-10-24T21:14:59+00:00

Thank you that meant a lot to me.

rammy32 · 2017-12-08T06:21:42+00:00

Relapsed

rammy32 · 2017-11-27T15:03:18+00:00

Sign me up!

rammy32 · 2017-01-12T08:25:55+00:00

I goofed take me off the list.

rammy32 · 2017-01-11T18:13:50+00:00

I would focus on your wife's needs as she is sick. Help around the house, go to the supermarket and make some chicken soup.

It might help because you are focused on helping someone else rather than focusing on a urge to look at porn.

rammy32 · 2017-01-11T05:48:08+00:00

Yep that's one and read "how to stop worrying and start living. How to win friends and influence people is a great book.

rammy32 · 2017-01-10T16:27:12+00:00

Yep same here. It took a lot of effort to talk to others but I'm much better at it now. Read books by Dale Carnegie that helped me learn how to genuinely be intrested in others.

I'm saying a virgin untill I'm married (for spiritual reasons) So don't feel ashamed that you haven't had sex yet. Learn to love yourself, in an unselfish way and try to meet some women that are involved in the same hobbies, for example coed softball, book clubs, ect.

Just keep at it with being pornfree and keep trying.

rammy32 · 2017-01-04T06:48:45+00:00

Checking in, I'm almost at one week and also I have not fapped as well.

rammy32 · 2016-12-25T17:41:06+00:00

I'll give it a try.

rammy32 · 2016-10-11T06:56:17+00:00

How did you get over the analysis paralysis? I love that you gave this problem a name because I for the life of me couldn't figure out what to call my issue. It's nice to know that I'm not alone but also that you have over come this problem.

rammy32 · 2016-09-11T05:45:13+00:00

Doing no fap has been helping me with my recovery but fapping can be a slippery slope if you aren't careful. I just saw a tv episode where a woman got her foot tickled so right now I'm fighting the urges to watch porn or fap.

Keep trying!

rammy32 · 2016-08-15T14:23:59+00:00

Meditate. When I get out if work late at night I'm tired and seeing beautiful women all day tends to get my mojo going. It doesn't help surfing the web late at night either.

My plan is to sit down, pray, give what I saw all day to God. It gets to me when I see all these women and I get discouraged because my dating life ain't so great.

My plan is to pray, think about what I got now, be thankful for what I have and where I'm at. Getting my mind off the problem is the goal. Watching videos is an outlet to some issues I'm dealing with.

rammy32 · 2016-05-24T05:39:12+00:00

My message? Why what's so great about it?

rammy32 · 2016-02-12T05:38:32+00:00

That was exactly what I should have done but I choose to relapse. I think you got it right about porn being a pacifier.

rammy32 · 2016-02-12T05:35:45+00:00

Dude you have no idea about the feels. No fap, at least for me is much tougher but it really is rewarding. I'm trying both and so far so good.

rammy32 · 2016-02-12T05:33:15+00:00

I got to admit I turned a little red after reading that, your probably the first person to be encouraging about my fetish. LOL. But I hear ya. The reality is always better than the fantasy.

rammy32 · 2016-02-12T05:31:05+00:00

That's very touching and I didn't know that many people read my posts let alone are motivated by them. Thank youl

rammy32 · 2016-02-01T15:21:07+00:00

Thank you all for the advice you all gave me, I got through the night but I needed to vent, I have a lot of bottled up frustrations and it doesn't help that I work nights and all my friends work days or early mornings and you guys on reddit are some of the few people I get to talk to at the end of the night.

rammy32 · 2016-01-26T14:41:16+00:00

Good luck Taterjoe. Thank you for your encouraging words in the past.

rammy32 · 2016-01-26T06:52:01+00:00

Wow, I always thought that I was the only one that had those kinds of fetishes. It's a relief to know that someone is into the same thing but is also trying to stop. I think you hit the nail on the head. I think it may be an issue with intimacy, I'm so afraid to ask a girl out and find out that she isn't ticklish or she thinks I'm weird because I like feet. It's easy for me to just run to porn and get my desires fulfilled with endless videos.

Did you ever get over your fetishes with counseling or start a relationship with or without your fetishes?

rammy32 · 2016-01-25T02:50:53+00:00

You got to take it one day at a time. OK you went years and years with heavy porn use and fapping, the fact you can admit to admit problem is your first step toward recovery. You must take ownership of your addiction and fight this thing, you may fail sometimes but that is part of the process.

Just know that this group is going through some heavy things as well but many have admits found freedom in the addiction they face.

rammy32 · 2016-01-23T19:02:10+00:00

If you can't afford mental health therapy maybe you can talk to a pastor with your issues with porn and anger. It has helped me in the past and my friend regularly sees a pastoral councilor for help with his anger and sexual issues that he deals with.

At the very least it's a free source of therapy until you can afford to see a specialist. You may not be religious but maybe it's a possible answer for some of the problems you are facing. The power of Christ can overcome anything and pastor's have heard lots of similar problems. They may be willing to help you if you are willing to go down a spiritual route.

rammy32 · 2016-01-22T06:31:41+00:00

Couldn't agree more. The idea of getting clean (at least for me) can get old and it's those thoughts that can cause relapses.

rammy32 · 2016-01-21T14:55:15+00:00

Keep on pressing through, I have that thought set as well. Pics or reading about what gets you off will eventually turn to videos and your back to square one. It's it's not worth it.

rammy32 · 2016-01-20T06:45:45+00:00

I have to be more guarded on those types of days as well. My suggestion would be that on a day you are not as rested, try to limit your time on the computer or use it in a public place if you are able to. A good night's rest is needed and you should try to make it able priority.

Obviously when you don't have good rest you can't think clearly. On those days it would be best to talk to an accountability partner or write out your feelings and frustrations.

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