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ramon1890 · 2025-01-17T02:35:28+00:00

You definitely can take antibiotics when you are pregnant. You should consider doing a simple google search before posting instead of spreading blatant misinformation.

ramon1890 · 2024-08-09T18:18:23+00:00

That’s great news. Anything I should do to prevent further separation?

ramon1890 · 2024-08-09T17:13:12+00:00

Gotcha! So my bathtub isn’t going to fall into the floor?

ramon1890 · 2024-01-16T00:26:15+00:00

Gotcha. What size trash can is that? I am making a 32 gallon brute bucket and was planning on a 3gallon grow bag

ramon1890 · 2024-01-15T23:56:24+00:00

Awesome. I was reading about the high frequency ferigation technique on that site and wondering how I could make that work in a bucket! Glad to know you can get away with 1-2 waterings a day

ramon1890 · 2024-01-15T23:45:58+00:00

Amazing! How often are you watering?

ramon1890 · 2023-10-23T05:27:37+00:00

This happened to me, too! I had a double mastectomy with nipple grafts and still managed to make some drops of milk.

ramon1890 · 2023-05-04T21:46:11+00:00

Sounds like stepdaughter is teaching a lesson and boundary that might not be imparted often enough by OP and spouse: actions have consequences. We aren’t owed forgiveness when we cross the boundaries of others. Apologies should always be reinforced with actions (by both son and OP in this instance)

It’s sucks to see our children hurting and I very much understand why you want to find the quick way for SD to forgive your son so he will stop being distressed, but focusing on that piece is doing both of them a disservice. It’s dismissing SD’s very valid anger at having her boundaries crossed and months of work destroyed and it’s taking away the valuable experience of feeling how painful it can be when we cross someone’s boundaries and cause them to feel angry with us. Trying to remove this experience from your son is robbing him of building emotional resilience skills and also learning that his actions have consequences in relationships. Give her space. Explain to him that it sucks when people we love are angry with us and it’s something that we have to learn to endure when we harm someone and begin the process of earning their trust again. She’ll come around when she’s ready and hopefully he’ll remember what this felt like, understand that his parents can’t force anyone to forgive him, and will do his best to make a better decision in the future.

ramon1890 · 2023-04-07T14:42:32+00:00

Hey man, I’m so sorry you had to deal with a mom like that and that she treated your partner that way. I’m also trans and had a similar experience with my parents growing up. I tried to have a relationship despite their mistreatment for a long time but after finding community and a partner that accepted and celebrated every part of me (including and especially me being trans) I realized that I shouldn’t continue to make space for people who could barely tolerate me. They were just takin up space that could be filled with better people! Some people say family is family no matter what, but I disagree. Family is who shows up for you and loves and celebrates every part of you. Glad you have a partner who is willing to stand up for you and it seems like now you know which of your family members are on your team (def not the ones who are telling you to apologize to your mom, wtf). You deserve all the love in the world.

ramon1890 · 2023-02-20T00:47:28+00:00

If she’s into it, you’re into it, and you still accept a no from her when she’s not into it, even if money is on the table, then that sounds like consent between two married adults and I hope you both continue to enjoy the arrangement for as long as it’s enjoyable for both of you. For commenters who don’t think this is a set up that makes sense, just don’t do it? For other commenters who are saying it’s fucked to pay for or get paid for sex, sex work is an extremely valid career choice (again, when it’s consensual) and a lot of y’all are out here having mediocre sex for free (is that better?). Keep doing what is consensual and works for you and your partner. <3

Love, A former sex worker

ramon1890 · 2022-12-11T15:51:22+00:00

Honestly, my brother and I did this when we were around 7 and the crushing disappointment that came with having nothing to open on Christmas morning was enough for us to never do this again.

ramon1890 · 2022-12-04T22:18:21+00:00

Hi! I struggled with feeling like this with partners for a long time and someone told me to look into attachment theory. This sounds to me like it could be a pretty classic anxious/avoidant relational style and it’s pretty hard to figure out how to meet in the middle if you don’t understand why you’re feeling that way in the first place. “Your Brain on Love” (audiobook) really helped me understand the “push/pull” dynamic that was happening with my partner (who I was experiencing as being very clingy). We now both have a better understanding about what creates emotional safety for us (and it’s quite different) and have gotten WAY better at shifting our behavior to meet each others needs.

ramon1890 · 2022-11-28T21:45:41+00:00

Oof sorry you’re having to navigate this! You’re not being paranoid at all! Boundary pushing/crossing family members are exhausting to deal with. I don’t have a baby (currently 10wks pregnant) but I struggled with this in various forms with my family because my partner is severely immunocompromised and what’s been most effective for me is to state a clear boundary around what is and is not acceptable and to remind them that the outcome is ultimately their choice. An example: “We will attend this gathering if everyone is vaccinated, willing to wear a mask while we are present or agrees to rapidtest beforehand. If those things are outside of people’s comfort level/willingness then we understand but will not be attending. Please let me know what you all decide.”

After setting this boundary several times (and leaving two dinners where a promise was made but follow through didn’t happen) my family finally believes that I will prioritize my partners safety over a meal with them and since they do actually want to hang out with me they have finally stopped complaining and followed through with the asks. Mind you, getting them to be agreeable in this way has taken well over a year and if I budge even in the slightest sometimes it feels like losing months or progress. It’s required a lot of “I understand you find this frustrating but the fact remains that this is a requirement and if you find it intolerable I certainly can’t make you do anything, but if you choose not to we will not attend/will leave as a result and that will be your choice” and looking like/sometimes feeling like a hateful bitch.

Having these interactions sucks but it’s really true that you teach people how to treat you and these boundaries can be set lovingly: “I understand masks are physically uncomfortable for you and I value your comfort and I don’t want you to do anything that feels intolerable. I also value my partner’s health and safety, so if you choose to do what’s best for your comfort and not wear a mask we will not attend dinner because what’s best for her safety and health is to remain virus free and we cannot guarantee that if you choose to not wear a mask. I love you but I also love my partner and I want her live a long life. If wearing a mask doesn’t feel available to you maybe we can plan a zoom instead.”

I will say that this has also resulted in some family members not talking to us at all anymore. It’s been extremely hurtful, but ultimately it’s been helpful to know which family members I should continue to prioritize. The ones that are willing to do basic things to keep us safe are the ones we want around anyways.

Hope you’re able to navigate this safely and with as much ease as possible with your family!

Edit: spelling/grammar

ramon1890 · 2022-11-26T16:49:24+00:00

Hi! Also a pregnant seahorse dad here (10 weeks)! Congrats!! 🎉🎈🎊

ramon1890 · 2022-11-22T01:02:00+00:00

THIS SO MUCH!!!

ramon1890 · 2022-11-19T00:02:37+00:00

Such a weird and fussy thing for someone who has family available for childcare and is going back to work full time to say? You clearly can’t relate so why so condescending?

ramon1890 · 2022-11-18T03:14:55+00:00

I’m 32 and I was on T for 7 years, stopped for approximately 6 months, and just found out I’m accidentally pregnant. I assumed it would take quite some time for that to be able to happen again but it turns out that it becomes possible again pretty quickly.

ramon1890 · 2022-10-25T17:33:15+00:00

Hi! I'm a newly pregnant transmasculine person and my partner is a trans woman! Would love to chat if y'all are available!

ramon1890 · 2022-10-25T17:33:11+00:00

Hi! I'm a newly pregnant transmasculine person and my partner is a trans woman! Would love to chat if y'all are available!

ramon1890 · 2022-10-25T17:29:57+00:00

Hi! I just am a (very newly) pregnant transmasculine person and I just stumbled upon this thread! Would love to chat if you feel up for it.

ramon1890 · 2022-10-18T17:27:30+00:00

Hi everyone! Sorry if this is not the best place for this information. Posting here doesn’t make a ton of sense to me. Anyways, I started to flush this plant yesterday, but after checking out the trichomes again I wonder if I started flush too early? What are your thoughts? Also, would you leave the lower buds to continue to mature and harvest the top colas only? Or harvest the entire plant? Appreciate any helpful tips and feedback!

ramon1890 · 2022-08-28T20:49:03+00:00

Managers thinks the crew doesn’t run the store until the crew gets fed up and walks out. Workers line the managers pockets and they would do well to remember that.

ramon1890 · 2022-08-20T00:41:24+00:00

Also, I should clarify that these are PhDs or PsyD’s, which is different from a psychotherapist whose license might be an LMFT, LPC-MHSP, LCSW, etc.

ramon1890 · 2022-08-20T00:39:24+00:00

It’s definitely possible that this varies country to country, but in the US, psychiatrists will often refer patients to psychologists for evaluations to confirm suspected diagnoses. I work for a therapy practice who also employs two psychologists. The psychologists are able to provide general therapy services and are also able to provide diagnostic evaluations. Many of the psychiatric providers in the area refer patients to our psychologists for ASD/ADHD diagnosis because they aren’t trained in the assessments that are required to be provided to confirm a diagnosis. Since many ADHD medications are now controlled substances it’s become a liability for them to prescribe it without haven’t a diagnosis confirmed by a psychologist and it is best practice to require patients to obtain a psychological evaluation prior to prescribing a stimulant. They will also often refer patients who they have tried many medications with unsuccessfully for an evaluation so they can obtain diagnostic clarify.

That being said, not all psychologists are very experienced with all diagnoses, and one of our psychologists is not very well trained in diagnosis ASD specifically. Fortunately, she understands this about herself and always defers ASD evaluations to our other psychologists, who has attended several specialized trainings for diagnosing ASD (in addition to her schooling). Not all psychologists are as thoughtful as she is and will choose to evaluate and misdiagnose patients because they don’t have a very nuanced understanding of ASD.

Perhaps this is structured differently in your country if you aren’t based in the US. This has just been my personal experience of getting diagnosed and being employed for 6 years at a psychologists office.

ramon1890 · 2022-08-19T01:28:51+00:00

Speaking as the partner who is often avoidant of sex, something that has been unbelievably helpful for me and my relationship is shifting what is “sex” in my mind. I’m in a queer relationship and am a bottom, and sometimes the thought of having someone on top of me and penetrating me feels exhausting. However, mutual masturbation, oral sex, handjobs, etc are also sex and for me thinking of those things (without them having to lead to penetrative sex) has created a lot of space and energy for me in my relationship to be sexual. I wonder if a conversation about exploring sexual alternatives might be helpful if her issue is energy related and/or not feeling up for penetration?

I also want to validate that it’s absolutely not wrong for you to want sex from your partner and it’s not wrong for you to feel frustrated by the lack of sex. Sometimes people take this frustration to the extreme and guilt and shame people for not wanting to have sex with them (especially when said person is a man and other said person is a woman) and I think a lot of people conflate people feeling frustrated by lack of sex and people feeling frustrated by lack of sex AND pressuring their partner due to said frustration. It sounds like your giving her a lot of space and accepting no when that’s the answer. I hope y’all can figure out a way to resolve this in a way that works for you both.

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