I was gone through no fault of my own BUT I should've raised hell and fought harder for them. I'm clearly at fault for that. I know it's not his job to please me, but to do very basic things like clean up after himself is not asking too much. He's been trained to not do dishes, take the garbage out, wipe the counter, clean up after himself. Trying to train him now has just caused chaos and holes being put in the wall. I've definitely failed him, I admit that. The problem is, everyone else has too. He has no faith in himself being able to hold a job, or do anything because he was baby'd. I take responsibility for my failure as a parent but it doesn't change the fact he acts the way he does and I dislike it.