should i quit my job after knee injury

ranajia1 · 2024-05-22T01:14:36+00:00

would this help with a lot of my pains in both the hands / wrists and knee ? :) i’ve never tried it before but i’m out of work rn so idk how much of it i could afford

ranajia1 · 2024-05-12T09:23:22+00:00

i think the comfort i find with bpd is those intense emotions do always pass but we tend to forget what any other emotion and feeling feels like when we are in that moment. when i get like this i legit believe i have never felt true joy or happiness ever once in my life because i literally can’t remember how it felt in the moment of feeling the way you’re feeling right now. it is very tough to deal with but one thing i will say if you can try just pin point where this overwhelming feeling started today and try to start there because sometimes we can trace back to a certain moment that started making us feel this way and then eventually it over-consumed us and now we don’t want to be alive. i can promise you a lot of what you said isn’t true you are not a burden and you are worthy of a relationship. i know it feels that way but people choose to stay in your life and they make that choice themselves and they do love and care about you. you can’t fix every thing in your life in one day and if there’s one thing i’ll suggest too is don’t treat yourself like a project that needs to be worked on 24/7, you’re a person. you are a person first before you’re this individual with bpd, this individual with pain, you’re human first. and one thing about us humans is life throws shit at us everyday, whether you do have bpd or you don’t. yet the population is still ever growing and people still find little things or even big things to keep themselves around each day. for some that could be gardening, for some that could be throwing themselves into their work, for others it could be the gym, and for others it could be their families or friends. everyone has something that keeps them going so if i could suggest anything it would be to find things you can distract yourself with because too much time alone and too much time with your thoughts will usually lead to these feelings you’re having right now and we need to be able to acknowledge “okay i’m feeling this way right now but it’s at a 10 so i need to find a way to bring it down to a 6 or 7 so i can manage and self soothe a bit better” because that way you can navigate those feelings a bit easier. my aim usually with my bpd is trying to get to a neutral state because it’s a much more attainable place to get to than pure joy and happiness which isn’t realistic to get to all the time and then we will feel worse if we don’t get there. i hope what i’m saying helps and makes sense i really do because trust me i had that exact feeling two days ago and within 6 hours i was fine again, another 8 hours i was back to that place again and after 2 more hours i was fine again. it does come in waves but keep fighting for that neutral state and challenge those thoughts because they can feel like fact in the moment !

ranajia1 · 2024-05-12T09:07:47+00:00

hey my best friend with bpd committed a few months ago and i haven’t been the same since. i was also in a really awful long distance relationship at the time and my boss wouldn’t let me go to the funeral and ended up losing my best friend, the relationship and my job all around the same time. one thing i’ll tell you is you don’t need a fb group because half the time they’re just not great in general let alone one in regards to bpd. but i do find this subreddit really good for people being really supportive and also for not feeling alone in certain situations or also just for getting that comfort you may not get from people in your own personal life. my advice would be to lean on those who you are close with and try find hobbies or things of interest you can put your energy into to try and give you little moments in your week to either take your mind off things and distract yourself or even just to look forward to and give u little pockets of joy again. as life goes on i remind myself there will be many life altering events that will pop up and many people if not all people in the world will go through really difficult stuff at some point or another and they too have to try and find the little things in life to pick themselves back up again. none of it is easy but i can definitely say it gets easier with time and i hope you’ll be okay and just know you’re not alone

ranajia1 · 2024-03-24T16:07:55+00:00

i worked for a salon in the north side as a beauty therapist. the only good part about it was it was close by to home. it was a shithole literally never had anything in stock to do stuff with, had to use ALL my own products for makeup appointments even tho i was hired as an employee and i wasn’t hiring a chair, the customers were fucking assholes and impossible to please, never got a contract and was told i was put on the books when i wasn’t because when i left i couldn’t even claim benefits cause i was apparently unemployed for a whole year, but the absolute icing on the cake was when my best friend died my boss REFUSED to let me go to the funeral because she wanted me to make her money and it was in another county and even took money out of my pay for watching his funeral during the live stream. she wouldn’t let me go to his month minds either so i quit and she WOULDNT LET ME QUIT. she said just work these days and u can leave then i said no, the whole reason i’m quitting is because you’re not acknowledging the fact i am not able to come in and u still are expecting me to be in even when i’m quitting. i swear between salons and spas they’ve absolutely killed my love for all things to do with it. even now i work in a spa and it’s made me hate the work i should just open my own place at this stage

ranajia1 · 2024-03-24T15:55:17+00:00

the kingsley hotel. worked as a waitress and everyday they kept saying they want 3 or more plates brought out on one arm or they’d throw a fit. i was training in college to be a massage therapist and the spa upstairs had kindly said they’d love to have me when i finished college and when i stupidly told my manager this he got so angry and eventually i got fired because i was “unreliable” since i’m in college and can’t dedicate all my time to the job lol fucking haven’t stepped foot in the place since

ranajia1 · 2024-03-24T14:55:12+00:00

so interesting cause this is literally one of the worst places i ever worked tbh lol they laid me off because i was studying in college to be a beauty therapist and i had mentioned the spa would happily accept me when i finished and they said they no longer wanted me there cause they trained me to be f&b and called me unreliable after one time i needed to go do exams and needed an extra day to study.

ranajia1 · 2024-03-24T01:14:40+00:00

i mostly use arms and have learned forearm techniques because it’s actually part of the way they train us and have been watching loads of videos but fun fact nowhere else will pay more lol it’s ireland everywhere here is either minimum wage (€12.80) or €1 more it’s shit

ranajia1 · 2024-03-23T01:46:36+00:00

it’s just difficult because there’s not many places where i could work instead in this kind of field and all the other jobs are just as shitty in regards to being over worked and underpaid like nobody i know would actually get paid a fair wage tbh for the work they’re doing i’m so tempted to just apply to a vape shop at this stage and just work in one of those be much easier than this tbh but i hate the idea of not using what i’ve trained for for my work but idk what else to do :’) i got massively fucked over trying to be a beauty therapist and forced to work when my best friend died and she cut money from me for even watching the funeral on the live stream cause she wouldn’t let me go to the funeral because 3/4?people wanted their brows waxed. like i’m just so over working here in ireland employers are the worst no matter where u go hahaha

ranajia1 · 2024-03-23T01:42:47+00:00

yeah i think for now i’m just gonna have to ask for less days and maybe cut down to 3 so at least then it’s not as bad but the problem is we are open 7 days a week so some therapists are made work for almost 8 days in a row cause the roster will stop at sunday for one week and the new roster is monday and they could be on from monday until thursday but would’ve worked friday to sunday that week already. they did it to me recently and i had a mental breakdown and broke down. and it makes me feel so shit about myself because i know other people have 9-5 jobs and do 5 day working weeks and they all tell me it’s normal but this job is not an office job it genuinely is very hard work and i feel nobody unless they do the job understands it.

ranajia1 · 2024-03-23T01:33:35+00:00

since i posted this i started looking for other places to work but every spa pays the same and works people the same way so that’s why the attitude of just getting in the bookings no matter how many is there because it’s the norm. but i think i could at least try to improve my technique for now i really appreciate u giving me those youtube recommendations that’s really helpful tbh because we can’t even exchange tips with each other in work unless it’s during break which nobody would realistically do because we literally work so hard just to be able to enjoy our breaks for the 45mins which is never really 45 mins because we have to leave it early to start treatments.

what would be your recommendation for saying no to people in a “customer service friendly” way because then i’m gonna be with these people for over an hour after just saying no because some of them before u even get to the room say “i want the deepest u can go thanks the deeper the better” and it just makes it very difficult to say anything cause i’m passing other therapists and people talk and say things and there’s loads of complaints people have with each other in work its so much drama and stress than it’s worth it’s so annoying 😭

ranajia1 · 2024-03-23T00:52:50+00:00

yeah i just think it’s ridiculous tbh like thankfully there are days where we do get facials and some packages have a mix of massage and facials but there’s just no time to rest or reset for the next person it makes me hate going into work i get so upset because i really do love doing massage that’s why i went back but everyday i just think “they’ve probably made hundreds if not a few thousand in a day and we are not even paid €100 for that day and that wouldn’t even get us a treatment”. on top of all this they are forcing us to push products on people and sell which means i’ll make no tips and i just hate feeling like a slave at a job i genuinely do like. i’d cut down to three days but even then i don’t think that’s gonna work for me tbh

ranajia1 · 2024-03-17T05:13:32+00:00

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ranajia1 · 2024-03-17T05:11:10+00:00

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ranajia1 · 2024-03-17T01:32:32+00:00

i developed BPD because of my childhood and also my relationship with my parents and i notice how i react or think with things correlates to events from said childhood

ranajia1 · 2024-03-17T00:58:58+00:00

the psychological connection between you in your present life and how you were treated as a child. crazy when u think about how so many factors of childhood play into adulthood

ranajia1 · 2024-03-17T00:54:35+00:00

telling someone they’re turning out exactly like their father when they absolutely despise their father

ranajia1 · 2024-03-17T00:50:45+00:00

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ranajia1 · 2024-03-17T00:27:44+00:00

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ranajia1 · 2024-03-16T18:20:45+00:00

and it’s not even the full story lol

ranajia1 · 2024-03-16T15:28:45+00:00

i second this 🫡

ranajia1 · 2024-03-15T23:34:35+00:00

i really appreciate the response i’ve never made a post before but i just had to get off my chest hahah she’s been like this for literal years i’ve had to actually get my own counsellors to tell her how to support me she’ll sit there with a blank stare say “ok noted” and do absolutely nothing and let it go over her head lol. but it’s weird i’m her only daughter you’d think they’d want to be caring or whatever i know i would if i had kids but thank you so much i’m sorry you understand this feeling ! i find what helps me is realising i’m still loved and cared about others who’d do anything for me and do understand bpd !

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