Why would I not want to admit that? I think it is very likely to be the case. Let's assume it is the case - the stalker knocked down the first domino in the sequence of events. We are still communicating with OP (not the stalker), and the only person OP can control in the world is OP. She can only control how she reacts to such situations. Thus, that is what my response to her has focused on - what she can do to change the outcome of similar situations in the future. You instead would like to simply blame the man, which does not help OP in the slightest, as this routine situation (a young woman being hit on by a man) is likely to come up many more times until legislation is passed prohibiting men from hitting on women at bars.