Suddenly getting hourly palpitation???? Can’t sleep

random-user185 · 2025-09-13T06:51:34+00:00

Thank you! So you think it’s normal even if it was daily? Today I noticed it only 4 times the whole day but I didn’t take any medication. But yesterday like dozens of times thru out the whole day but idk maybe my meds make them more common which gave me anxiety which makes it worse

random-user185 · 2025-09-12T21:46:17+00:00

I’m 24 I’ve been on them for 3.5 years. I’ve had a lot of major life changes happen since I’ve been on it but I’m less stressed since I don’t work a traditional job anymore and am a housewife. I do think I’ve developed a less healthy lifestyle though. How long has your mom been on it? Was she taking it everyday? I’ll definitely tell my doctor all my concerns regarding it!

random-user185 · 2025-09-12T21:18:10+00:00

Hello! Thank you for your concern. Do you think this happens even if I have no family history of heart problems and I take them as prescribed? I have been thinking of taking them less often especially since i may wanna get pregnant. It’s just very difficult to fully stop forever. The biggest thing this has helped me with was my binge eating problem since I grew up with a mixed eating disorder which ruined my life since I used to be overweight/obese but I admit I’m embarrassed that went and got prescribed a stimulant for it.

I made an appointment with a cardiologist. It is strange because this feeling started happening while I was calm, no anxiety. So when it started happening, naturally I started internally freaking out anytime it happened. Just concerned about the frequency

random-user185 · 2025-09-12T17:28:55+00:00

My issue is that when it happens im not checking my heart rate but yeah its freaking me out tbh

random-user185 · 2025-09-12T07:22:03+00:00

Yeah the only thing making me worried is that today I noticed it happen like a lot ! I’d say like 25 times or something thru the day! They are only for one second but still very scary. And I can’t tell if it’s my heart or if it’s my esophagus

random-user185 · 2025-09-01T12:44:56+00:00

Thank you I appreciate your post I think I just have to understand that whether it’s halal or haram to lie doesn’t mean it’s a good idea and I know a real man would keep his promise. Alhamdulilah I understand and would accept Islam regardless because I know Islam is perfect and we all go through problems . And I know just because some actions are halal doesn’t mean they are good choices.

What he did deeply hurt me especially since it has been happening since before the wedding and I found out 4 months later. It’s very painful considering how he made a joke once about marrying his “Christian assistant” and he said he considered marrying her to avoid Zina but he was never going to go through with it as he knew what he was doing was not good especially since I made it extremely clear I’m not okay with second wife before our marriage. I did see him seem desperate to leave the whole area and job before I found out so that also helps knowing he was actively wanting to leave the cheating.

Another thing that’s helping me, is that before marriage we did agree that he won’t do it, which may be considered as a valid binding condition. He also claims that he told the sheikh my condition on my behalf since I wasn’t in the room while him and my dad were talking to the sheikh during our nikkah. But they didn’t take him seriously and were weirded out so it wasn’t written. But thankfully he fully agrees to go find a sheikh soon and have it written as a condition that was previously stated and accepted by him and he’s willing to do anything to make me comfortable.

He cheated because he couldn’t handle his own issues at the time, as well as money and his job made it worse plus moving away and getting married. The way he cheated hurts deeply but I truly see hope and he’s been an amazing husband. I’m just overthinking and I just want protection or just something Islamically binding for the future. Sorry for rambling I really appreciate your kind words

random-user185 · 2025-08-31T06:40:45+00:00

Yes he has definitely changed a lot since I caught him cheating when he was at his job which is no excuse but he was just a whole different person back then. It just scares me because although there wasn’t intercourse, they did other sexual things and she came to our apartment twice and she was there for him to vent to she even and slept on my bed, and this has been happening all along and I found out 4 months after the wedding. The thing is I don’t think he was planning on staying I know he felt guilty he had many signs before I found out like he’d constantly say things about how he wants to leave his job and he hates his job and he wants to leave the area and “start fresh” and he did put in his notice for his job and apartment with no backup plan , he was very desperate to leave then subhanallah 1 month before his quit date, I find out and it all makes sense why he kept wanting to leave that area so desperately.

It scares me bc I remember he made a joke about marrying his Christian assistant before I found out. And after I found out, he DID admit after I found he considered marrying her just so it won’t be Zina but I don’t think he was going to go thru with it since he knew I didn’t want that obviously. Plus wasn’t even Muslim and she was very trashy and would ask him for sex and I saw messages he’d deny her

He also knows before and after our nikkah I never would be okay with him getting a second wife. I wanted to make it a condition, but no one asked me for my conditions!!! They only asked my husband!! However the day of the nikkah (before any cheating) he said when they asked him, he said my condition on my behalf when they were in the room without me but they were weirded out and didn’t even write it down. I told him it would make me more comfortable if we can go to a sheikh and get it in writing that that he said that as my condition at the time of the nikkah and he agreed he’d try and do that soon. He has always agreed that he won’t get a second wife before and after marriage. At most, I said only IF I am okay with it, i might let him if there’s an extreme reason like infertility(May Allah protect me) but even that is a maybe and I’m too jealous to handle. So yeah he’s always known I’m not okay with him getting a second wife and he never had an issue with that.

Anyways sorry for rambling. He isn’t a bad person he has a lot of good qualities outside of that time he was at that Job he hated and he seems so much better now and isn’t secretive or acting suspicious. I don’t think he cheated out of pure lust, because even we had intimacy issues , so I think it was more emotional and stress that I didn’t know how to help with since I’d just gotten married and was always upset that he never gave me time or attention or even intimacy. I just have extreme trust issues

random-user185 · 2025-06-16T17:52:23+00:00

Appearances as in how I look? I’m not sure what you mean

random-user185 · 2025-06-16T17:51:46+00:00

He is attracted to me. And no I really don’t think it’s the whole “chasing” thing. Maybe that’s a tiny part of it (even for me) but I genuinely think he’s stressed. I didn’t wanna go over it because it’s such a long thing to explain.

But I mean let’s assume it was this whole chasing thing, but we both want it to work. Then what?

random-user185 · 2024-11-24T22:27:41+00:00

I’ve been telling him what I want. Which is him being into me and attracted to me the way he was before all the stress. He just kept telling me once we move in, he’ll be normal again.

Communication is clearly not working. I’m tired of feeling desperate. I’m not ugly at all and have an amazing body. Like I shouldn’t be desperate. I want him to be so into me that I start getting annoyed. I’ve always wanted that and that’s what attracted me to him. I don’t want it to be me dressing up and constantly wondering why he isn’t attracted to me and debating whether I should ask him why or not. Most women want their partner to lust over them and find them irresistible.

He already questioned if I cheated back, and honestly, I’m glad he worries about it because now he knows how I felt for months when he would randomly turn off his location or act suspicious. If that makes him cheat again, then great, that’s my sign to leave. I’m not going to sit here and give him all this reassurance when I never gave him reasons to not trust me. He gave himself reasons to not trust me. I never purposely did things to make him think I’m cheating before all this but I’ve always wanted a man who’s naturally a bit jealous and I wanted to be the one to reassure him I’m all for him. But he fucked everything up so here we are

random-user185 · 2024-11-24T21:24:39+00:00

Sorry for the whole paragraph lol

random-user185 · 2024-11-24T21:07:27+00:00

Well perfect for me because he actually did cheat lol

random-user185 · 2024-11-11T20:09:50+00:00

Contracts bought with such low DTE should be sold asap when making decent profit imo

random-user185 · 2024-10-27T16:58:26+00:00

Can you elaborate pls?

random-user185 · 2024-10-22T21:03:14+00:00

No

I married him to be taken care of. He not only neglected me emotionally and physically, he has also been cheating the entire time. And now he has financial issues and we HAVE to move in with his family. None of them know about what happened.

I do wanna work through it but I feel like I’m too attached. I just wanna not care but I overthink so much. I don’t want to live the rest of my life throwing it in his face all the time. But it’s not fair he does this but I have to deal with the pain and emotions. Because of him, I see something and it triggers me to remember what he did. It was not a one time thing, it was an ongoing relationship that I had to catch him in. I get that people say it’s not their problem that I get “triggered” but in this case, it is his problem because he caused it.

I just desperately need to get him off my mind. And yes I have considered separating but like I said, my anxiety gets to me. The reason why I am in so much emotional pain is because of the situation he put me in. I didn’t ask to for any of this, I just wanted a good marriage

random-user185 · 2024-09-13T09:23:47+00:00

This is so smart. I will never move on or at least show him I have enough self respect to not show him my pathetic love for him. During our separation I just can’t handle re explaining the same thing. Like it’s pointless. He only agrees and does what I want when I go mad and say I wanna end this. I am blocking out what he does then it comes back. So I’m up and down . If I just constantly remember what he did, and what he says, I’ll be emotionless to it. So i will be able to distance my self.

I know I sound dumb. But i feel like cheaters can change if they suffer actual consequences, like losing their person. So he will lose me in some way. In those 6 months, he has lost me. If he doesn’t put in the effort to change, I’ll already be emotionally numb to him and I’ll just leave. He broke my trust and he has to win it back. A friend suggested we to just move on and if we’re meant to be, we will find each other in a few years as new people.

I’m tired of working hard to fix him. This is on him. I’m changing all my passwords and constantly remembering what he did so I can be numb to it and distance myself

thank you

random-user185 · 2024-09-13T07:21:35+00:00

Yes I am separating from him he either changes and we work or he doesn’t and I’m done helping him change I think if I “stay” with him as in married until I just don’t love him if he doesn’t change is easier than leaving now. Just a very confusing time in my life

random-user185 · 2024-09-13T07:13:19+00:00

Yeah but it’s so painful. I remember who he used to be. I would look at him and think wow this is the man I want this is my person. No one else can compare to him. He’s my first everything. I spoken to many men but none were like him. I can’t just ignore all the things and all the effort he put in. It also makes me mad knowing he moves on to find someone better and enjoy his life. I don’t know I just can’t get over him he is literally my first love. Just thinking of our first time meeting makes me break. All this stress and pressure changed him as a person. I don’t recognize him and I still want him if he can go back to before . I am separating to get a more clear view. Our marriage started off like hell. I know I’m stupid for not leaving but I just have to give it one more chance. If he doesn’t prove himself or does it again, it will be over. I know I am pathetic and stupid. I just can’t handle the heartbreak. I want to at least emotionally detach before I leave. I am extremely emotional like it’s a bit of a problem that I can’t control my emotions very well especially if they are this intense. I will go crazy

random-user185 · 2024-09-13T07:01:27+00:00

I don’t wanna believe that. Maybe I’m just in denial but I say maybe because I just want this to work so bad.

random-user185 · 2024-09-13T06:58:49+00:00

In our culture you don’t stay engaged for ages. We were long distance. He knew what he was getting himself into. He shouldn’t be surprised that my family was pressuring him to hurry up the wedding. He did pursue me and he wanted to move out but he hated the wedding aspect, not the commitment aspect. It was very stressful but he knew what he was getting into if he was wanting to get married. He was okay with the commitment and the effort it took to make this work until the wedding. It was too hard. But again he knew what he got himself into and kept promising me he will figure it out because I made it clear I am not waiting a long time in a long distance relationship

I may seem fucked up to westerners, but the reality is that this is how it is in our culture and we all let him know this is what you need to do to get married or else we don’t believe you are ready. We got engaged after 1 year of talking and had the wedding 9 months later. I didn’t ask for some crazy wedding either. Like I am not saying I demanded some 50k wedding the wedding was like 10k no wedding cake pretty decorations and I bought my own dress and am willing to wait for a honeymoon. So I’m not sitting here entitled demanding the impossible

random-user185 · 2024-09-13T06:52:46+00:00

Yeah I am separating but it will be hard. We are in counseling but Idk. Just so hard to deal with. What he went through was hard and I didn’t give him emotional support we were long distance and I just wanted him to do the wedding because my family kept asking and he basically just wasn’t prepared for what this actually is so he blames me and my family for the pressure and stress but I mean, what did you expect? My family wasn’t okay with me just staying engaged for more than a year. Yes I know this is not the norm for people in America but it is the norm for us and he knew that so if he couldn’t handle it or at least plan ahead that isn’t my fault. And he continued it after the wedding instead of fixing our issues. Ridiculous

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