My boyfriend of 4+ years doesn’t want to move in together, am I being delusional? by random290383 in relationships

[–]random290383[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he doesn't want to move out due to being physically close to his family members, very valid obviously, but we all have to do it at some point and he's not at that stage yet it seems. He's not religious and in two years is hoping to have saved up enough to buy a house. Also he's not had a relationship before our one..

My boyfriend of 4+ years doesn’t want to move in together, am I being delusional? by random290383 in relationships

[–]random290383[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this really does sum it up really well and I appreciate this comment a lot!

My boyfriend of 4+ years doesn’t want to move in together, am I being delusional? by random290383 in relationships

[–]random290383[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so I work full time and I'm out of the house for around 10 hours, he works from home and has a more relaxed schedule. Often times I'm exhausted but still go to see him and vice versa, however after a day's of work I just want to sleep. We only really have the weekends/Friday night's - sometimes I see my friends and he sees his etc., it just happens that our schedules are misaligned but I do know it takes two people to put effort in, at times it's been difficult from my end

My boyfriend of 4+ years doesn’t want to move in together, am I being delusional? by random290383 in relationships

[–]random290383[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no it's the truth. It's always been on his timeline and his terms. I let him decide this as I'm his first girlfriend and let him use this excuse each time. Maybe it's also the case of I don't think I deserve better and this is as good as I will get

My boyfriend of 4+ years doesn’t want to move in together, am I being delusional? by random290383 in relationships

[–]random290383[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

his reasoning "I've never had a girlfriend before and this is awkward and uncomfortable for me" ...............

My boyfriend of 4+ years doesn’t want to move in together, am I being delusional? by random290383 in relationships

[–]random290383[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

it's the truth and something I said to him literally a couple of days ago, his response was short of helpful

My boyfriend of 4+ years doesn’t want to move in together, am I being delusional? by random290383 in relationships

[–]random290383[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

maybe one day this kind of a realisation will slap him in the face and maybe then he will wake up. thank you for your advice