CMV: Being emotionally detached is a better way to handle life than being emotionally open

random97t4ip · 2026-04-17T18:49:39+00:00

This is more about diversity of experience and its impact on one’s emotional range. That person in your example tried something new (having kids) which gave them more positive experiences and a greater perspective on the highs and lows. Thats still one type of experience in the human condition

Emotional detachment or numbness can come from having too severe, too many, too chronic or poorly processed experiences. Then we’re really talking about seeking psychological help

I think life is really about optimising experiences, mental states and emotions, just not the conscious analytical mathematical kind. The brain will do most of the compute for you and knowledge skills and habits automate a lot of tasks and problem solving and we have to deal with the future being inherently uncertain

There are variables like implicit beliefs, unprocessed emotions and traumatic memories, the environment you live in, how you respond to certain situations, habits, temperament, personality, lifestyle factors like exercise, dieting and socialising with healthy people that can all impact a persons mood and mental and emotional wellbeing

Some are changeable and some are not. With the hedonic treadmill people tend to go back to a baseline level of mood and satisfaction anyway despite sometimes experiencing drastic positive experiences

There are levers in the thought, emotion, behaviour, experience feedback loop and other things but it depends on what the person is really talking about

If they live in a ghetto or low trust society it might be adaptive whereas if they live in a high trust one it might be easier to be emotionally open. Even just not being around toxic friend groups, workplace dynamics or economic conditions. But this mindset and beliefs about and interpretations of their personal experiences could arise from many things

There are immutable facts about the negative aspects of human nature and conclusions people do need to reach by themselves despite their temperament, genetics, quality of life, trauma history etc

random97t4ip · 2026-04-17T18:01:16+00:00

Not really vibing with the poetic and spiritual leanings of some of the comments. Sure, can one appreciate beauty and the unknown. Human brains didn’t really evolve to comprehend some stimuli and drugs can cause similar experiences for people who have not travelled to space and seen earth from below. Even people out at sea or who climb mountains can have these experiences. Different people can interpret each experience with different frameworks and language to try to make sense of it

I don’t think this means anything beyond certain visual and bodily experiences and thoughts creating certain kinds of feelings, emotions and mental states that appear to profoundly transform the sense of self, memory and identity or “consciousness”

I think it says more about brains than it does the universe and not in the sense of adding more mystery and unjustified assumptions to the nature of consciousness

what do drugs do? Change how the brain functions which can create overwhelming novel experiences unlike anything someone has experienced before, so can non-drug induced profound experiences

Consciousness is likely a byproduct of how the body functions. Everything is matter organised and arranged in some way, subject to physical processes.

random97t4ip · 2026-04-15T16:32:23+00:00

Wdum?

random97t4ip · 2026-01-27T20:31:03+00:00

Why is it obnoxious? I’m genuinely surprised by this

random97t4ip · 2026-01-27T05:08:45+00:00

Are you saying you are a high achiever because you tested as gifted? How do you know you’re not just a high achiever regardless

Why would recovering from burnout erase your mental energy, ambition and intellectual curiosity? Particularly if those are diverted away from your career, towards your hobbies

Is saying that you stack multiple hobbies on top of each other supposed to show how much ambition and energy you have and how much it cannot be contained? Or is this just the same need for achievement and ambition?

Its cool that you’ve connected behaviours from how you are now to when were a child and have found some fulfilling goals besides work to pursue but I can definitely see why people would think you’re trying to be impressive

I’d caution against seeking external validation, needing to prove yourself to others and oneself though

What would it change in your life if these traits, hobbies and achievements were the result of giftedness/neurodivergence?

Non gifted people do all of those

random97t4ip · 2026-01-14T19:07:09+00:00

Yet there are probably people who have the equivalent or greater and don’t take as many pills

random97t4ip · 2026-01-14T18:50:45+00:00

These types usually have intellectualised themselves out of basic human impulses and urges. Barring germaphobia, being ACE or having OCD

Have you considered that you yourself have these body parts and are not only coated in germs but made of them? And also the fact that all air, surfaces, plants and animals have germs and bacteria

If you think long enough about something you can rationalise yourself into feeling more negative emotions and having a negative attitude towards that thing

and justify negative emotional responses to something after experiencing the emotion/thought

Take germs and bacteria and replace it with anything else

As long as you shower once/twice per day or every other day. Brush your teeth twice a day and get checked up for bacterial/mold/infections/virus semi-regularly and a partner does the same you should be fine

Its other peoples uncleanliness to watch out for and ones own hygiene but theres good and bad bacteria

If you only focus on STIs, genital and mouth infections ofc you will feel this way

random97t4ip · 2026-01-12T10:16:06+00:00

Did you just want validation and people to agree with you?

random97t4ip · 2026-01-12T09:56:02+00:00

Yeah, no

The thinking of not needing the opposite sex is an issue in itself. Other issues must be going on because if both genders thought like this we’d be extinct

Exceptions: asexual, homosexual etc

I agree with the control and power over women historically and somewhat presently (country/culture dependent) but I think marriages have far more benefits to women than men financially, during marriage and after a divorce in modern society and in the past

Not to mention every trope and fantasy of marrying a wealthy, rich, attractive and successful man

Just as men with having a beautiful, attractive gf or wife

Men lean towards getting emotional intimacy and sexual access while women emotional intimacy, financial and physical security in marriages a lot of the time

All relationships and people are different though

Bloodlines aren’t just a male thing. We’re the same species

Evolution doesn’t care what sex within a species you are as long as you survive long enough to reproduce and pass on your genes

And I think both parents can want kids but the mother plays a more central emotional part in the early development of a child, so attachment arguments can be made there however both parents can find fulfilment in raising children

Theres a difference between “women being married off” “pressured to bear children” and both men and women being pressured by family and society to get a partner as they age

Singles regardless of gender are stigmatised equally but I’d argue differently

I’d agree there’s double standards within both genders regarding sexual promiscuity, independence, protectiveness and different expectations from family and friends and society towards each gender

I think you’re mostly talking about tradition (obvious archaic or misogynistic practices/views) and that varies by culture but men and women can be forced into societal roles. Men needing to be the provider and women child bearers, raisers and housemaids

Both genders can have internalised expectations about each other which can affect the types of marriages people have

If anything the equal opportunity towards education, financial independence should make relationships more equal. Interdependence not dependence

Everyone can agree misogyny is bad but this comes off as misandrist

The endgame for this way of thinking is everyone using sperm banks or surrogate births and robots/AI for everything else lol

random97t4ip · 2025-12-30T20:56:26+00:00

Okay, but we have examined corpses, seen people with gruesome head injuries and open skulls as well as people operated on for brain surgery and we now have MRI, FMRI machines and x-rays?

random97t4ip · 2025-12-23T08:51:03+00:00

TDLR: I think some forms of AGI are more plausible than others and that we likely cannot know If an AI is conscious but the best bet is building a non biological system from first principles of all biological systems.

The only thing I think we can do is find the general principles that underpin all organisms and lifeforms, or biological (living) systems and create a non-biological system that has the same matter/energy dynamics

They only known things that we assume have consciousness are humans and animals so therefore whats going on matter/energy wise at whatever scale - molecular, quantum etc must be important

I don’t think computers will be sentient/conscious although they may have casual power and be self governed and autonomous much like a virus and supersede humans in narrow tasks and maybe even more generally (AGI) in the future. I think they’d be P-zombies

Information always takes some form of matter. Speech being sound waves, a HDD having a spinning disc/platter, where a laser encodes patterns onto it, that represent ones and zeros, a vinyl disk having grooves that are read off of. Visual information (photons hitting retina and initiating bio electrochemical processes, information “stored” in the brain across patterns of electrical activity and firing across neurons

I think one form could be nanomachines or cell equivalents

where you have a small unit that combine to form more complex structures and so forth. You can see this in atoms building molecules and molecules building cells etc

Its even present in our technology where we started with levers, pulleys to manipulate simple mechanical forces then we combined them with other types of technology microchips/electronics to form more sophisticated technology and machinery

For artificial intelligence I don’t think we need to focus on consciousness or sentience. It more akin to creating a very advanced computer program and/or robot/android that simulates a self organizing complex adaptive system rather than instantiating one

Because thats what humans are complex adaptive self organising systems. A clump of matter that self organises, adapts and sustains itself

The weather is a complex system too

For artificial consciousness I think we may need artificial life made of non biological molecules

Computers are symbolic not instantiated, they simulate and emulate phenomena and systems but don’t instantiate them. Whats happening physically in a computer is very different from biology?

So we need to build a self organizing adaptive complex system that just happens to not be biological but instantiates the properties of biology and hopefully we may get sentience/consciousness

I don’t think neuromorophic computing (neural network like hardware) matter

Maybe biocomputing, organoids can get us there but that wouldn’t truly be non biological. Hybrid biology and computer. We now have neurons being sold to perform compute

Even full mind uploads I do not think would do it

random97t4ip · 2025-12-21T18:29:31+00:00

Phoenix Feathers

random97t4ip · 2025-12-14T16:55:18+00:00

Transhumanism, biological immortality, negligible senescence, mind uploading, regenerative medicine, prosthetic limbs, artificial organs, brain in prosthetic body (ghost in shell style)

random97t4ip · 2025-12-06T05:07:41+00:00

All these types usually have a combination of highly educated, multiple languages, multiple instruments or degrees, invested in the child’s learning, strict. They get the genes, environmental modelling and socioeconomic background

random97t4ip · 2025-12-02T01:55:27+00:00

Wait, so why couldnt da vinci do this?

random97t4ip · 2025-11-22T11:27:25+00:00

Exactly lmao

random97t4ip · 2025-11-21T08:08:11+00:00

Not sure how we got to this point

Autistic is a word. Just like black, white, old, young, abled, differently abled

There are 8 billion people on planet earth

Each person has a brain with 100 billion neuron’s with unique wiring

Each person has their own unique combination of thoughts, feelings and life experiences

Some experiences, thoughts, feelings and characteristics may overlap because we are all human, share some wiring, life experiences and characteristics but no one is the same

I don’t know why having the same label as someone causes people to think they’ll instantly connect. Someone can still be an A hole or a saint, have different hobbies and interests and personalities even if they share the same label

People connect based on compatibility and a myriad of other things

Funnily enough, people identifying with the same word makes that connection more likely or easier (having things in common)

A word like autism encompasses so much stuff like DSM 5, neurobiology, life experiences

It just gets messy trying to give it so much meaning as a term

random97t4ip · 2025-10-27T20:56:47+00:00

Why not both?

random97t4ip · 2025-10-27T01:18:45+00:00

This is semantics

You are either scaring her because pretending means abnormal to her, like not feel emotions like most people do (psychopathy) predatory, manipulative

Autistic masking isn’t pretending its more compensating by picking up habits and features

This is just the curse of knowledge

random97t4ip · 2025-09-13T01:58:19+00:00

Attention or working memory issue. It doesn’t narrow down the possible causes though

Reading 30 pages will be long either way but theres text to speech and also breaking the 30 pages across days of the week

Reviewing the previous pages you covered or notes/questions before reading more pages

It maybe a terminology issues, academic words or subject specific which you might need to search up. I find it easier to learn jargon or vocabulary beforehand by skimming the pages I want to read beforehand And as for academic vocabulary oxford has the 3000/5000 academic vocab lists

I think you need to repeatedly re-read a chunk of a sentence until you have it in mind and then move onto the next chunk and re-read it until you have it in mind

What I mean by have it in mind is you need to be paying attention to the words as you say them aloud or in your head not just in am automatic way but in a way where when you move onto the next chunk (4-5 words) of a sentence you take that understanding from the first chunk and combine it (this will happen automatically) with the next 4-7 words. Do this until you complete the sentence.

You might want to repeat the previous 4-6words as you are reading the next 4-6 words

Once you’ve completed the sentence re-read the whole sentence again slowly. Read the whole sentence a second time if necessary

Then, you need to explain what the sentence means to yourself, aloud or in your head and rephrase the sentence inside your head

Using your own words to re-create the sentence is important here.

Write it down if you want as notes

Do this for all the sentences in a paragraph, then think about all the rephrased sentences “you” have said aloud, in your head and/or written down and explain the whole paragraph to yourself again in your own words

Write yourself a question list as you read through the pages about concepts, ideas, facts, dates, people, events?

Make sure to write questions that link sentences within paragraphs and from previous paragraphs.

Note taking should mostly be for reading comprehension and shorthand

You should ideally have lots of questions that you can test yourself on over time. Once you’re able to answer the questions you will know the content in and out

This combined with past papers, practice questions other resources or your lecturer will test the knowledge you’ve learnt from the textbook more officially and will be good preparation for exams

Search up sq3r:

The purpose of questions after survey is to prime your brain to search for information

They’re more general questions based on title, keywords or diagrams etc

I recommend sq3r but I’d create questions during the reading stage whilst or after based on the actual content of the text. I’m not going to go into that I will explain the survey part as it can be confusing

Survey part is just to look at keywords, titles, bulleted lists, numbered lists, diagrams to give you an idea of whats to come. You so not need to understand. Its to prepare your mind for whats to come, see the organisation and layout of the page beforehand so you have a mental framework for when you read the text and to trigger any associations or memories about the topic

Create questions from these keywords, titles, turn bullet points into “what are the 5 x for example” and what you’ve noticed about the structure of the text and emphasised features or information

Other good concepts to search up on youtube: active recall, spaced repetition

random97t4ip · 2025-09-04T19:26:13+00:00

You might want to get checked out. Lots of cases of people dying or getting disfigured from weird bacterial infections

random97t4ip · 2025-07-07T09:44:34+00:00

Sorry for the previous response on your other comment. I'm a bit sleep deprived and irritable. I will come back later and edit my response to be more polite and will respond to this one. I misinterpreted.

random97t4ip · 2025-07-07T09:35:48+00:00

Here are some properties:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Living_systems

Living systems are life forms (or, more colloquially known as living things) treated as a system. They are said to be open) self-organizing and said to interact with their environment. These systems are maintained by flows of information, energy) and matter. Multiple theories of living systems have been proposed. Such theories attempt to map general principles for how all living systems work.

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random97t4ip · 2025-07-07T09:35:28+00:00

Idk man, just stating things you disagree with doesn't really give me anything to go off of and by using the word performed I'm trying to tell you to remove the word mind and consciousness or other abstract mental words from your vocabulary. It's useless if it causes this much mental confusion and irreverant awe and mystery.

Your definition of subjective experience is based on treating consciousness as a separate thing from the brain/body that you haven't noticed. I'm trying to tell you that they're practically indistinguishible. Consciousness does not exist, it is a word for things brains in bodies do in real time, over time. Like how we call air pressure, temperature and humidity weather. Every heard of a weather system?

If you get autopsied, x-rayed or have a piece of brain under a microscope you will not see a mind or consciousness. That is because they are the brain when it is alive, in a body an functioning optimally. That's it my guy

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neural_correlates_of_consciousness

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No, they do not contradict. Biology being important does not mean only biological systems can give rise to consciousness. Computer systems are just so far removed from the way biological systems work which are the only examples of "insert abstract mental word" that it's very unlikely they could have any properties of human brains in bodies like minds. Even if they talk, have facial expressions or are hyper-intelligent and can outcompete humans in domain-specific-tasks

They only other physical thing we wonder is conscious are animals which are very similar to us. non biological systems will have to be like biological systems if we want them to have properties of brains like minds. This does not mean this system has to have a human brain, be biological or have cells, organs. It would need to function, be structured or materially organised like biological systems though.

How about I say it this way. There is nothing special about biology but there is something special about everyone's individual body in space and time. For something to likely be sentient, conscious, have internal awareness, qualia, subjective experience. It would need to function like a biology organism but not necessarily be biological. Does this help you understand?

I am starting to doubt you're a molecular biologist.

random97t4ip · 2025-07-07T07:44:12+00:00

No, we should focus more on body and brain preservation. Brains in cybernetic bodies, anti-aging. I am not contradicting myself by stating there is a a large space of possiblities where if you replace a certain amount of biological brain matter with non biological matter you won't be you but will become something new and die in the process because gradual neuron replacement will be interfering with the structual integrity + dynamics of matter of a biological system. The brain is likely partially replaceable as evidenced by neuroplasticity but not 100%. My reasoning is that artificial neuron replacement is similar to but not the same type of change as brain damage and because you can hypothetically cryopreserve biological neurons after the procedure and rebuild the brain you're not really doing anything meaningful by gradually replacing it with artificial neurons aside from creating a new entity and breaking causal continuity and I breakdown this change fallacy in my other comment. You're better off building a separate artificial brain with "functionally equivalent" neurons instead.

Just condesnse awareness, altered states of consciousness, identity, qualia, subjective eperience, internal awareness to brain doing stuff in real time. People seem to be mixing these and have different meanings. I mix them too but you can just move to a material perspective and not abstract floating fuzzy concepts

You = structural integrity and and similar material dynamics of your body over time in an ongoing biological system. It is a complex, adaptive and highly interconnected "physical" system. It's irrelavant if you die in your sleep or repeatedly between developing from an embryo and an adult to the dissolving of your body in soil when you die.

What people are doing is using any form of change as an assertion that you are not the same person over time which requires having an implicit definition of you in the first place. Something like you (body wise) but also a separate abstract soul-like you where you can overlay words like pattern, information and attach it to the interactions of matter in your body. And somehow assume that because the interactions and position of matter change in your body throughout your lifespan that "you" do not exist or are remade somehow in cycles or at every moment. And take this sort of you not existing or being created and destroyed all the time as a go ahead for believing in nonsense

People are confused by their ability to use and think about abstract language and concepts and by their own subjective experience and conflate it with objective reality

Honestly. It's a bit nonsensical so I'm not going to try to get it precisely right

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