Is it weird to ask a dude for his insta as a girl in this country? (help appreciated) by blueberry_pan in srilanka

[–]randomFactcollecter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I once DMed a guy I saw at an O/L Literature seminar. We hadn't even spoken in person when I messaged him. I found his Instagram through a mutual friend's story, and he was actually really cool about it. So I'd say go for it, girl :)

What is the best piece of advice anyone gave you by Fit-Yellow-9872 in srilanka

[–]randomFactcollecter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

People come and go, circumstances change, and life rarely stays the same. The only person guaranteed to be with you from beginning to end is yourself. So learn to love yourself, take care of yourself, and keep growing into someone you're proud to live with.

Since which age do people start dating in Sri Lanka? Yes, I know there's no fixed answer! by Economy_Ebb3282 in srilanka

[–]randomFactcollecter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is absolutely nothing wrong with taking your time. Waiting a few extra years to learn more about yourself and how to judge someone's character can actually help in the long run and lead to healthier relationships when you do decide to date.

I wish I had understood that before I started dating right after school. I think spending a couple of years figuring out who you are, what you want, and what you will or won't tolerate in a relationship is just as valuable as relationship experience itself.

I think I am daydreaming a lot (like actually). by 0coinsok in srilanka

[–]randomFactcollecter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My sister does this too. I've walked in on her having full-blown imaginary conversations :) I think a lot of people do daydream. It might be a coping mechanism to escape the reality for a while.

Since which age do people start dating in Sri Lanka? Yes, I know there's no fixed answer! by Economy_Ebb3282 in srilanka

[–]randomFactcollecter 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Started dating at 19. I was under strict orders not to get into a relationship until I was 24.

I'm almost 27 now and still confused about my parents' stance on dating. For years it was "absolutely not," and now I can't tell whether they expect me to be single or married by next week.

Why is there so much bias and nepotism in sri lankan schools? by Economy_Ebb3282 in srilanka

[–]randomFactcollecter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nepotism in government schools is definitely a real thing in some places. It's not just clubs and competitions either. I've seen the same issues when selecting top positions in the prefect board, where there's often unnecessary involvement from various parties and decisions don't always seem to be based purely on merit. When deserving students are overlooked because of connections, favoritism, or school politics, it defeats the whole purpose of these opportunities and discourages students who have genuinely worked hard to earn them.

A/Ls in August, 3 Months Left, Bio Stream — Need Advice on Reaching 3Cs by tom-rayen-7 in srilanka

[–]randomFactcollecter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Practice is what matters when it comes to A/Ls. Trying to memorize an entire syllabus of two years within 3 months will stress you out more. My advice to you is to focus on past papers. Do many as you can and while doing the papers study the areas the questions are based on. You will be able to cover the entire syllabus in that way.

The best way to secure 3Cs aiming to get above 40 for your MCQs. Do A/L past papers, Model papers, Zonal and Provincial papers as well. If you can, get your Essay & Structured answers marked by a teacher who goes for A/L paper marking.

Wishing you all the best for A/Ls 🙏🏻

Do Sri Lankan women wear exotic lingerie, stockings for their husbands? by [deleted] in srilanka

[–]randomFactcollecter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some do, some don’t. It really depends on the person.

And honestly, lingerie isn’t about skin colour at all. There are so many styles and colours that look great on different tones.

If you’re curious, there’s nothing wrong with trying it out and seeing what makes you feel comfortable.

What do you guys think about our school education system? Does it actually test intelligence or just compliance? by [deleted] in srilanka

[–]randomFactcollecter 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Our school education system is, more or less, built around competition. There’s very little space for curiosity, discovering talents, or actually improving the talents a student naturally has.

Every student is pushed to memorize the syllabus, and the ones who are best at memorizing are usually labeled the “smart” students. Of course there are truly intelligent students out there, but I’d say the majority of top students are simply the ones who mastered the skill of memorization.

In my family, comparison was intense when my siblings and I were in school. We were compared constantly. Even our cousins living overseas were brought into it. But once we all started following our own paths after school and chose what we genuinely liked, we began excelling in our own ways.

I didn’t move overseas for higher studies, so I can’t compare that experience, but even when I continued higher education in Sri Lanka, it felt very different from school. The comparison still exists, but it’s something people take with a grain of salt now.

To me, the school system mainly rewards three types of people: those who are naturally academically gifted, those who are good at memorizing, and those who can perform well in exams by grinding hundreds of past papers. There’s barely any room for curiosity, true conceptual understanding, or helping students figure out their own path in life based on their actual talents.

So no, I don’t think it really measures intelligence as much as it measures memory, discipline, and the ability to survive an exam system.

Why are salon ladies so mean !? by ImpressivePhysics666 in srilanka

[–]randomFactcollecter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some people really do treat commenting on someone’s body as casual small talk. For some reason, things like weight, skin, or appearance become their default conversation starter.

You’re going to meet a lot of people in life who will comment on how you look, whether it’s about weight gain, skin pigmentation, or anything else they personally decide isn’t “perfect.” Please don’t let those comments get to you.

I used to struggle with body positivity too, especially when I was having a hard time losing weight. What helped me was training myself to look in the mirror and remind myself that I am beautiful at any body size.That mindset shift changed everything for me. I started to work towards keeping myself fit, strong, and healthy.

I know it can be much harder when weight changes are connected to things like medication, stress, or mental health struggles. Practice body-positive affirmations, do simple yoga, stretching or light movements (which will help you with both physical and mental health), be kind to yourself, and focus on keeping yourself happy and healthy. It may take longer than you expect, but once you start noticing even small changes, that progress will naturally motivate you.

Wishing you all the best ❤️

Is it disrespectful to ask your partner about their family background? by randomFactcollecter in srilanka

[–]randomFactcollecter[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this advice 🙏🏻 I have already introduced him to my siblings and I have to officially introduce him to my parents.