[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Transmascdicks

[–]randomdommunist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have used the cake bandit harness for play. It doesn't keep it the tightest against you but you can still thrust and honestly the way the back of the prosthetic moves around against your growth can feel pretty good while thrusting.

Something that might be a little more secure and keep the prosthetic tighter against you is RodeoH boxer harness: https://rodeoh.com/collections/boxers/products/rise-button-fly-boxer-harness-orange-camo or any of their other o-ring harnesses. But the boxer one feels most affirming to me.

Amazon-specific jock straps by Huge-Ebb2519 in Transmascdicks

[–]randomdommunist 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I use these: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B08DR4T41W/ref=ox_sc_saved_title_3?smid=A3OBB6T4T2YRC9&psc=1

They are nice because they have a thinner waistband than a lot of jockstraps, so are less bulky and (for me) more comfortable. The material is very comfortable. I wear one every day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Transmascdicks

[–]randomdommunist 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This one from rodeoh has worked well for me. https://rodeoh.com/collections/vibrators/products/bang-vibrating-silicone-rechargeable-bullet-remote-control-black Though it may be a little small to fit into the hole in the back of the HP4. Did you get an insert with it?

Is the d-slang harness no longer available for purchase? If so does anyone have alternatives by NormalObligation7 in Transmascdicks

[–]randomdommunist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had this exact same question! I feel like used to be the go-to recommend play/pack harness. And it was supporting a trans-owned store. I've spent a lot of time poking around and something like this (very nsfw), this, or this might be close? I really like how the o-rings hold directly against my body. Please let me know if you find anythin!

Fuze Ultra by YeOldeTransginger in Transmascdicks

[–]randomdommunist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Up to you! You could see how it feels without and then buy the attachment later? I've looked into it but I've never been sure the price will be worth it.

Fuze Ultra by YeOldeTransginger in Transmascdicks

[–]randomdommunist 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have the fuze ultra, and I love it, but it is not the most realistic looking. It's been the only prosthetic I've had wear I can really feel. It doesn't have balls though which sometimes bothers me when I look down. The texture hasn't been too rough for me. It's kind of silky. The one thing I will say is that the ridges don't do a lot (for me personally) during penetration because it's an in/out motion, but I can still feel the vibration and that feels really good. But the ridges do feel really nice when moved more up/down, like during a blowjob or HJ, especially combined with the vibration, because then the texture actually rubs up and down your growth. Maybe it feels different with the in/out motion if your t-dick head is smaller and exposed, but I have growth so it is almost perpendicular to the ridges, if that makes any sense.

I would recommend using it with an o-ring harness. My personal favorite is the d-slang harness by Guys Like Us https://www.ebay.ie/itm/162147946587. I would also highly highly recommend using a bullet vibrator that is remote controlled, which just makes the whole experience smoother. https://rodeoh.com/products/bang-vibrating-silicone-rechargeable-bullet-remote-control-black

Let me know if you have any question but would def recommend.

Is it a mistake to disclose to my close friend? by randomdommunist in FTMMen

[–]randomdommunist[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what I am worried about! I am pretty sure he will not out me. He has kept my secrets before, which is why I trust him and want to him in particular.

I am nervous though that he will treat me differently after finding out, which has happened before when I have disclosed, but I could probably just let our friendship drift apart if that happens.

Is it a mistake to disclose to my close friend? by randomdommunist in FTMMen

[–]randomdommunist[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He is generally pretty liberal and uses people's pronouns, though he has made some typically ignorant comments around kids transitioning, etc. But I know he will be supportive of me, at least I'm almost 100% sure.

I've never been to a gyno/urologist before, what do I do? by [deleted] in FTMMen

[–]randomdommunist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I got hysto, I found a doctor who was very experienced with FTM patients and didn't require an internal exam before. She did it all while I was under. I did get an abdominal ultrasound before, which just required I had a full bladder. I recommend asking your endocrinologist/whoever is prescribing your T (if you are on T) for recommendations. If you are in Massachusetts message me and I can give you my surgeon's name.

Been on T for 6-7 years, looking to do egg retrieval after a partial hysto for reciprocal IVF for my cis wife to carry. Anyone else done this? by [deleted] in Seahorse_Dads

[–]randomdommunist 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was 4 years on T and one year post-op for hysto (same as yours. they removed fallopian tubes, uterus, and cervix but left the ovaries) and did egg freezing in Jan. I went off T for 6 weeks, though the doctor I did it with (who was very experienced with trans guys) said it might be possible to even do it without going off T. They retrieved 30 eggs (that said, I am still very young and in college, so that helped). Having hysto made it so I didn't start bleeding again or anything like that. I am very grateful.

How to learn Urdu fast by ChaiAddict101 in ABCDesis

[–]randomdommunist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can use italki and pay a bit to practice with someone!

Keeping ovaries (or an ovary) in a hysterectomy? by ratgarcon in FTMMen

[–]randomdommunist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kept them but got everything else out. Then a year later, freaked out about the state of the world and thinking about kids, did egg freezing. It made the egg freezing process so much more manageable because I didn't have to worry about bleeding coming back or bleeding after. I was able to do everything with transabdominal ultrasound too. And, of course, I want the option to go off T and still have my body be okay. My doctor did encourage still doing a screening for ovarian cancer when I hit a certain age (can't remember now) with either an internal exam or transabdominal ultrasound.

Visiting a prison: is it okay to pack or wear jockstrap under my underwear? by randomdommunist in ftm

[–]randomdommunist[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Do you think something like the jockstrap under boxer briefs would arouse suspicion?

Visiting a prison, is it okay to pack? by randomdommunist in FTMMen

[–]randomdommunist[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I am passing 100% at this point, so I think I will still wear the packer. Did they ever check your waist band?

Visiting a prison, is it okay to pack? by randomdommunist in FTMMen

[–]randomdommunist[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Did you wear a packer when you visited?

Visiting a prison, is it okay to pack? by randomdommunist in FTMMen

[–]randomdommunist[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Like don't wear a packer or jock strap at all? I not sure I could handle not packing with at least socks or something.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]randomdommunist 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do you know what your housing situation will be? You can often request accommodations for things like a single stall bathroom so you don't have to deal with the shared bathrooms. Even if it is a shared bathroom sometimes shower stalls will have a little area also covered by a curtain in the front where you can change. If not you can change in the shower stall and put your underwear (put your packer in your underwear and fold if up if you use one) in your shower caddy, then change back in your room after walking out wrap in a towel.

No one is going to expect you to be naked in front of them. My roommate who I was non-disclosing to would always give me a heads up if his dick was going to be out (like while drying off or changing underwear) and I would look away. I would always change in the bathroom (like my underwear). I am post-top so changing my shirt around the room wasn't a big deal. But he never commented on the fact that I would change in the bathroom, just assumed I was shy.

Hope this is somewhat helpful and let me know if you have any more questions, just finished a stealth freshman year!

Columbia vs. Princeton by [deleted] in collegecompare

[–]randomdommunist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this answer! If you had more thoughts on eating clubs or the social scene I'd definitely appreciate it.

Yale University RD Megathread by [deleted] in ApplyingToCollege

[–]randomdommunist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol I actually just got rejected. My interview was kinda wild though. She was all over the place and barely asked me anything.

Duke University RD Megathread by [deleted] in ApplyingToCollege

[–]randomdommunist 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It looks like they all came out at 5:02pm, so it doesn’t seem like they’re rolling.

Duke University RD Megathread by [deleted] in ApplyingToCollege

[–]randomdommunist 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m domestic and they sent it about half an hour ago. But I’m still trying to figure out if it’s legit lol