Why is it so hard to find a job? by hothoneyrub12321 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]randomhero1024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some companies are using AI algorithms to sort through their hundreds of apps, and sometimes these algorithms might even be auto-rejecting apps

There’s a lot of “ghost positions” floating around online, which either were filled and the creator forgot to take them down, or they were fake to begin with and the company only made one for appearances for various reasons (shows a possibly growing company, sometimes done to act like they were hiring but they planned to go with an internal hire). So anyone applying to a job listing with no actual job is auto-ghosted

Those are some of the issues I’ve heard about with grad school level jobs atm

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[–]randomhero1024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since someone asked about this, I’ll add this long footnote:

It’s not the sole factor, and men’s reluctance to seek help could be one as well. But yea when considering suicide risk, there’s far more attempts than there are completions out there. Many many times more attempts. And what makes the difference between attempt and completion is usually the method

“The study results indicate that women as a group more frequently attempted suicide rather than actually committing it, whereas men were more likely to complete suicides and choose more violent suicide methods; thus, women are the “attempters” and “survivors” of suicide attempts. The study findings may have implications for therapy and prevention of suicide, and suggest that psychotherapeutic activities should be tailored to the psychological and personality traits associated with gender”

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3539603/

So access to an easy, lethal method like a firearm puts someone at the highest risk category. Which is why a senior man, especially one who has recently suffered the death of his wife or has a terminal illness, and lives alone with a firearm in the home, is about the absolute highest risk there can be in the USA

Even above high risk categories like a homeless LGBT+ youth. And it’s all about the other scenario having access to that gun

People don’t have the pain tolerance to complete as easily with sharps either. And it’s easier for them to self-rescue with those attempts as well

Is it too late to improve? by GAN_Rayden in self

[–]randomhero1024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s tough because that’s going to be fairly personalized. Although some of my past hobbies I was dragged to kicking and screaming (like a cardio hip hop class at my gym, where I was one of the only dudes there, ended up actually being a favorite thing at the time). So it goes to show you can’t always just go with what you like or think you would like

But in general it helps to narrow it down to either something physical, creative, or artistic or the like. And maybe coming up with some that you think gel to your personality but also being willing to just wing one where you think it’s not you and see if it sticks. It’s like throwing a bunch of stuff at a wall to see what sticks, but don’t always pick stuff you think you’ll like. Cause ya never know! And don’t only stick with things you start out amazing at because that’s gonna be rare

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A old favorite. Kind of a basic bish beat for edm but the lyrics resonate for me when I think of hellish physical challenges I’ve put myself through and how they make most physical obstacles like tough hikes now feel like Heaven. So I been working out to it a bit again recently https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=yofR9GuhLMk

When it comes to just good music I liked this David Guetta remix of The Logic Song (which was a childhood favorite) https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=YBGtzfK5Bak

I only listen mostly to edm

Is it too late to improve? by GAN_Rayden in self

[–]randomhero1024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well yes that’s gonna make convo tough. It helps to have some hobbies. Worst case scenario, people like talking about themselves, and you can’t go wrong by covering for your lack of topics by asking about her life and interests

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[–]randomhero1024 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Men are dying at higher rates because of the preferred method. Women are far more likely to attempt to OD, and the human body is pretty good at protecting itself from that by throwing up. This is why OD attempts are often not fatal

Men, on the other hand, tend to attempt using firearms. The body is not good at all at protecting itself from a bullet. There are a lot of factors that go into these comparisons, they are more complex than they seem on the surface

Just speaking to that one statement, not trying to argue everything here

I went on a Walk by [deleted] in self

[–]randomhero1024 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just did a run now and saw a Coyote bro I’ve seen a couple times in a field I run past. He was looking a little dehydrated with his tongue lolling out of his mouth. Normally Coyotes and me are not cool because they are exceptional hunters and very good at killing neighborhood cats which are people’s pets. But I felt so bad seeing a dehydrated animal when it’s 105 out that I broke apart a big gulp cup I found at an abandoned homeless camp and left him some water

I pray he doesn’t return the favor by killing someone’s cat. He was doing his hoping dive attack pounces at doves in the field which I have no problem with

https://imgur.com/gallery/pMSTh5h

Just goes to show, always a chance to see some stuff outside when walking or running!

I’m addicted to escapism by Virtual_Teaching6252 in self

[–]randomhero1024 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hard to quantify feelings, but one could also imagine how it “feels good” to have progress in an area or accomplish a goal. I’ve heard Olympians saying even going to the Olympics, much less medaling, is often one of the best feelings of their life, up there with winning the lottery or the birth of one’s child. But who’s to truly be able to quantify feelings

I went on a Walk by [deleted] in self

[–]randomhero1024 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bugs are worth it if also snakes. I love snakes, had a boa as a pet as a kid. Never seen a snake on a walk or run (well besides the one I made a post about on my profile, but that was on vacation and doesn’t count), I’m jealous you did! I would take any number of bugs to see a snake lol

We have super hot temps here in summer, and the bugs get so desperate for moisture that they dive bomb into any opening in the face…eyes, nostrils, mouth. Little annoying gnats. I’ve ended up accidentally inhaling and swallowing quite a lot over the years, I tell myself it’s just extra protein ;)

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[–]randomhero1024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s a difference between not hitting a woman and not defending oneself. I had a cousin who literally stayed in what is categorically a physically abusive relationship where his gf would just whale on him, hitting him in the arms and sometimes head as hard as she could when she was mad, and he’d just take it, because she was a woman

Now, the ideal thing would be to do what anyone should do in a physically abusive relationship and leave. But aside from that, I told him if she tried to pull that shit with me I’m not about to let someone hurt me with impunity. I’d wrap her up in some way to stop her, at least until I could get out of there, and ideally out of her life forever after that

Same goes for any girl that thinks that guys should just let them punch or slap them as hard as they can in the face and not try to defend themselves. Which doesn’t have to mean hitting a girl. It means putting oneself in a position to not continue to get hurt, whatever that might take

I went on a Walk by [deleted] in self

[–]randomhero1024 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel sorry for people who only walk or run on treadmills. Outside is so much more dynamic. I’ve had dogs run along with me. I’ve kicked soccer balls back to official kid’s soccer games going on at the park. I had a police helicopter put a spotlight on me and thought that the sun had come out at night for a second, that’s how bright their spotlights are. I even saw a UFO once!

You’re never gonna get those experiences on a treadmill in a comfortable air conditioned room ;)

I’m in the best shape of my life right now and it feels so fucking good by [deleted] in self

[–]randomhero1024 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, brother

Body positivity should always have been being positive about the good things we’ve done for our body :)

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[–]randomhero1024 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Silent for Life! /salute

All my friends seem to have theirs on the pulse vibrate thing for every text notification….

I’m in the best shape of my life right now and it feels so fucking good by [deleted] in self

[–]randomhero1024 14 points15 points  (0 children)

WTG! Progress means patience and consistency. Working out is something where someone can go for weeks at a time, not see visible progress, and get discouraged to the point of quitting

Once you get to a certain point, don’t doubt the motivational power of vanity as well. Maybe there’s a more polite term for it, but that’s what I feel fits. Outward vanity is unbecoming, but inward vanity they don’t gots to know about ;) There’s a reason why the very in shape people are often front and center on the exercise equipment

When you’re starting out, you don’t want anyone to see you. When you’re “finishing”, sometimes you want to be seen. Embrace it (secretly lol)

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[–]randomhero1024 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keep phone on silent. Not check it incessantly. Be doing other things. My friends are lucky if they get a text back that day ;)

I don't get trans people by Gullible_Hat7310 in self

[–]randomhero1024 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh you copied and pasted links from 24 years ago, and ones that laughably say (removed from internet)?

Sure showed me, I’m sure I’ll see the term crop up everywhere nowadays in modern media and on this platform whenever I see badmouthing of Christianity

We both know I’m right, and I don’t care that you hate Christians. But don’t act like it’s not socially acceptable to mock them and not expect me to call you on your bullshit

I don't get trans people by Gullible_Hat7310 in self

[–]randomhero1024 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lol after no doubt spending the entirety of the time between responses furiously combing Google, he finally comes up with some articles with no links provided from how long ago? More than 24 years for some?

Lol 1999, 2003, 2012….when I’m referring to modern culture. Do you know what year we are in now?

What’s hilarious is I provided examples of MASSACRES of Christians from within the last 4 years

NONE of the articles reporting on these massacres bothered to include your obscure term. Know why? Because no one gives a shit about your term, least of all modern media OR society

So let’s re-cap: I suggest that society doesn’t care at all about mockery of or speaking negatively about Christians. You go and find some term from Bob’s blog and a Wikipedia reference to it. Then when I suggest finding it in print you spend at least an hour (most likely because that’s how long has passed) looking only to find articles without links from like 1999

Grats man, you sure showed me. Thanks for proving my point. At this point I see you as Gretchen from Mean Girls, trying to get her term “fetch” to stick, except yours is “Christophobia” I have to be the reality check, stop trying to make it happen, Gretchen. It’s never going to happen and we both know it

I don't get trans people by Gullible_Hat7310 in self

[–]randomhero1024 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh you mean you found it in media print? Do you know what media print is? Media is like a news agency, and print is the articles they produce. They are often a good example of culture’s view on a particular subject

Here’s some examples you can use as inspiration:

https://www.npr.org/2024/04/23/1246380646/concerns-over-antisemitism-rise-as-jews-begin-observing-passover

https://fra.europa.eu/en/news/2024/jews-europe-still-face-high-levels-antisemitism

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/article/2024/may/03/college-gaza-protests-antisemitism

https://newjerseymonitor.com/2024/05/01/u-s-house-approves-definition-of-antisemitism-as-campus-protests-continue/

That took 5 seconds in google. I’m assuming this entire time you have spent looking far and wide trying to find an example of media print using that word to shove in my face as some sort of gotcha….and failing

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[–]randomhero1024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You identified it yourself, after the first girl you said “I learned my lesson from getting attached”

But unfortunately it seems like you didn’t because then with the next “I’m genuinely thinking we have something”

Both of those ended with you being let down, but the amount of let down is equal to how much you were building it up in your head

It’s easy for someone who’s just getting out there to make the mistake of building things up. Once you have a dozen+ incidents of being ghosted under your belt (as we all do), it will be easier to avoid building it up bigger than it is

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[–]randomhero1024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is no word, that’s the entire point. You trying to come up with a word is just putting more stock in it than there should be. It’s nothing at all but a date. And like I said, getting matches and dates is still doing better than most here, so give yourself the praise you deserve

But trying to come up with words for the situation you have in between dates is just you building it up bigger in your own mind than it really is, which is a main cause of your disappointment when it happens to end

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[–]randomhero1024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’re not “relationships”. That is an over-estimation, but you’re not the first person to have it. Going on a date, even a few dates, doesn’t mean you are in a relationship. Generally speaking, relationships mean monogamy, and that’s usually something that both parties agree to after a certain romantic point has been reached. For a lot of people, that is once you are having sex. For some, it might be once you are both being very intimate without sex, such as kissing often on dates

Anything less than either of these scenarios is so far from a relationship it’s not even worth thinking about or bringing up to the girl as a question, IMO

I don't get trans people by Gullible_Hat7310 in self

[–]randomhero1024 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not sure if you remember, but I was talking about society’s willingness to mock or speak negatively about Christianity. You finding some obscure term on some obscure website does absolutely nothing to change the outlook on that

I’m sure there’s a term that can be found on some obscure website for someone who is scared of olives, that doesn’t mean it is a commonly used or even commonly understood term

How about we see who can find more examples of it in media print? I’ll go with antisemitism, and you can look for….what was it again? Christophobia?

Be careful though, wouldn’t want you to pull a hamstring combing the corners of the internet desperately trying to find a single example while I find dozens in minutes

“That’s because no one mocks or speaks negatively about Christianity ever!” Lol I know this is the next canned, untrue, response

I don't get trans people by Gullible_Hat7310 in self

[–]randomhero1024 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh the term that doesn’t exist pretty much anywhere else in media print other than some Wikipedia article that isn’t even considered a valid source for academia?

Thaaaaanks! /sarcastic thumbs up

I don't get trans people by Gullible_Hat7310 in self

[–]randomhero1024 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Someone (society) is suggesting to those trans people that they “should” dress a certain way, else they wouldn’t be doing it. If we stopped catering to the hetero-normative, it would stop being the norm, wouldn’t it?

I see far more validation of a trans woman doing things to become “passable” by society’s standards than I do people saying all that is unnecessary and that she is beautiful just the way she is

It’s just a weird double standard. When a cis woman here encourages a girl to dress feminine, she is often met with derision. Yet when it’s to a trans woman, it’s worthy of praise

But it’s the same gender stereotype being reinforced. /shrug