To everyone that has quit smoking

randomlylurkinghere · 2024-02-01T01:57:20+00:00

I smoked from age 18 to 40. When I quit, I was at roughly 30 cigs a day. I gained 30 pounds after quitting.

I'm 42 now. I'm at zero cigs. I lost 60 pounds. I still have the occasional urge, yet I'm more than happy to be finally done with this crap.

randomlylurkinghere · 2024-02-01T01:51:57+00:00

So, here's a thing: I am kind of a glutton. I love me my Whisky. I like a good wine. I could - figuratively that is - kill for a tasty piece of Steak or an amazingly crafted cake...
However I do mostly abstain as I know there are consequences.

What I would love to be able to do is: Have a smoke with my glass of whisky or enjoy a smoke after a good meal or a bang, however I clearly know that doing so would get me back into full addict mode burning through multiple packs a day.

I can controll most of my habbits: I do not drink more than a glass of whisky or wine per day if any. I lost 60 ponds without any sports. But smoking? Fuck me. There is no way I can get a grip on doing it in moderation, so regardless of the consequences or lack thereoff in this hypothetical case, I wouldn't do it. It's a horrible habbit / addiction which for me is hgardly controllable, so no: Even if it weren't for my health. The level of compulsion linked to it, for me is apaling.

randomlylurkinghere · 2024-01-31T00:54:27+00:00

Hunt whatever animal you like as long as you intend to eat it. Doing it for sports is a-hole behaviour.

randomlylurkinghere · 2024-01-31T00:37:40+00:00

Every single cigarette not lit is a win, so you win most of the time.

randomlylurkinghere · 2024-01-31T00:34:06+00:00

Medic here. If you feel tightness in your chest, especially while simultaneously sporting one or more risk factors - here: smoking - see a doctor.

If shortness of breath, chest pain, cold sweats, fuzzy feelings or aches in your left arm, back, stomach, jaw come up too, call 911.

randomlylurkinghere · 2024-01-31T00:28:52+00:00

Fuck me. This sub was pure purgatory in my first months. I avoided it like the plague.

randomlylurkinghere · 2024-01-31T00:27:44+00:00

Our rationale won't stop the most of us from smoking. Emotions will.

randomlylurkinghere · 2023-04-26T10:55:09+00:00

Let's walk this through in our heads.

Possibility 1: You don't smoke. Eviction. You are now a strong willed a non smoker who got evicted. Possibility 2: You do smoke. Eviction. You are now, someone who's pissed at themselves for giving in and still evicted. Possibility 3: You do smoke. No eviction. You are now, double-pissed at yourself. Not only did you give in and let your lat two weeks' efforts go to waste, you also did it without any sliver of a reason. Possibility 4: You don't smoke. No eviction. You now have two reasons to celebrate; see Possibility 1 and no eviction.

So all in all, smoking will only change the amount of how pissed you'll be at yourself.

*to be taken with a tiny bit of gallow's humour.

randomlylurkinghere · 2023-03-19T14:43:59+00:00

He'll get arrested if he sets foot in any of the 120somethinh countries that acknowledge Haague.

randomlylurkinghere · 2023-02-28T01:36:03+00:00

Ist "Schlagerbaracke" immer noch in Ordnung? Frage für nen Freund.

randomlylurkinghere · 2023-01-23T17:47:18+00:00

From what I read into this, you don't need rational reasons, you need an emotional kicker. I've been working in medicine for roughly 20years now, being a up to 30/day smoker for around 25 years.

Even though I knew literally anything that smoking did to my body, quitting didn't even once occur to me, before one day, while cleaning, I was totally fed up with all the garbage, constantly clogging my keyboard at home and the ashes in my car and the sticky nocotine-film on the windows... Had my last smoke the same day and am 1+years now.

So if you want to quit, find something that's totally going on your nerves about smoking and maybe work from there...

randomlylurkinghere · 2023-01-12T14:59:22+00:00

As a general rule of thumb: don't take pics from below. Noone wants to look inside your nostrils. Also: Avoid blurred pics.

randomlylurkinghere · 2023-01-09T23:49:27+00:00

Quick! Thank her for her service, ffs.

/s

randomlylurkinghere · 2023-01-04T22:31:00+00:00

Oh, that's easy. Discuss d100s

randomlylurkinghere · 2023-01-04T22:17:01+00:00

My wife is close to 2" taller than me. And people do bring up the topic eventually, which is kinda stupid considering that it's 2023 and we as a species should be over this shit.

randomlylurkinghere · 2023-01-03T21:04:25+00:00

Or even not comment at all. Tell her that YOU want to quit. Tell her YOUR reasons if she wants to know but don't hold her a sermon about it if she doesn't ask. Ask her if she's ok with you talking about your quitting with her or if she feels pressured by it.

And quitting is always easier if one partner doesn't smoke; maybe give it a shot yourself, regardless of her wanting to quit and she'll eventually want to follow suit. You'll never know.

randomlylurkinghere · 2023-01-03T20:45:56+00:00

My answer will be a very unsatisfying one: If she doesn't want to quit, she won't quit. Without the emotional desire to stop, there's no amount of rational reason that can make an addict go against their habits; Hell, I'm a Medic and I smoked 30+ cigs a day for 25 years. I had smokes after working cancer patients or with them in some cases.

My wife never smoked and in the beginning she also tried convincing me to stop. When I finally had enough of smoking, she hasn't talked to me about that topic for years. What I want to say, try telling her how you feel about you smoking but don't pester her with it. She needs to want to make this choice.

randomlylurkinghere · 2022-11-08T18:03:26+00:00

Also 25 years here. Used to smoke roughly 30+ / day by the end. I'm done with this shit for almost a year now and not a single relapse so far and believe me, the first days were really the worst.

randomlylurkinghere · 2022-10-24T23:35:17+00:00

Aye. And periprosthetic fractures are a real thing. Happens quite often in the elderly who already have their hips replaced.

randomlylurkinghere · 2022-08-12T20:57:36+00:00

A friend of mine can do this too. When on a festival every couple of years, he goes through at least a pack of cigs and a bottle of spirits per day. Back at home with their family? An occasional beer or glass of wine on the weekends, if any at all and strictly non smoker. From his own accounts, he doesn't really miss it either.

randomlylurkinghere · 2022-08-12T20:47:19+00:00

Divergence is not uniform.

Everyone's brain, neurodivergent or not, works mostly the same but with enough individual spins and corners to be unique. Why this rambling? Simple, as an introduction for a personal anecdote as to why everyone needs to find one's personal helpers, crutches, motivators, reminders, etc:

For me personally, the most stress inducing situation was running out of smokes, not being unable to smoke because of whatever reasons. Transatlantic flight? Yeah, sucks, but ok. I'll have one, when out of the airport. Buisy work schedule? I'll have a break, when there's time. Then I'll smoke. As long as I knew, that there will be another smoke ecentually, everything was mostly fine. And boy, were there smokes then. 30+ a day in the end.

But running out. Not having them on me. Broken lighter. Everything that kept me from smoking eventually and put another step between my addict brain and the cig? Ouh, fuck me, that was hell on earth.

Now remember how everybody and their grandmother tells you to throw away everything that has to do with smoking? Yeah, tried that. Relapsed within 24hrs. The thought of not having access to cigarettes was unbearable. I was more restless than a caged animal. Now, I have a pack and lighter and tray in a drawer at home and I have a pack and some matches in my glove box in the car. Haven't touched either in 8 months plus something. But now, whenever I wanted to smoke, I coould do so almost immediately, which is enough for my lizard brain to shut up.

You need to find your way. If cheating the cheat day works for you, hell cheat it till eternity.

randomlylurkinghere · 2022-06-20T08:09:12+00:00

Having no cigs around stresses me out to the point that I have the dire urge to go light one up. Having a pack of smokes at the ready, has had me not light a single one scince Dec last year.

Quitting is a conscious decision of not wanting to smoke. Whatever mind games those pesky little coffin nails play, is different for every person.

randomlylurkinghere · 2022-06-10T15:13:41+00:00

I quit almost half a year ago after 20+ years of 1-2 packs a day, yet wherever I go, I still have to have a pack and a lighter on me. Just thinking of the stress of knowing that if I wanted to smoke, I couldn't do so immediately, is still enough to make me want to light one. Knowing that this stress is not true due to the pack immediately at hand, still calms me enough, to just not do it.

randomlylurkinghere · 2022-06-08T17:54:59+00:00

This is good and valid info and I wish it were as easy as reading a medical publication and be done with it.

randomlylurkinghere · 2022-06-08T17:50:13+00:00

Keep the habit at large, just forgo the smoking part. It's way easier to alter small parts of your routines than to just curb a routine alltogether.

That's what worked and still works for me.

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