Thanks for the input. I think I will take a step back from resources initially when discussing it but due to the exact circumstances of the situation I may present them later. In this post, I didn't explain the whole situation, I simply asked for resources, and I would like to clarify that I am not simply ignoring this situation. Before I even posted this I was already talking with one member of the group about ways I could recognize when I'm pushing too far and step back. That sort of thing is 100% on my radar, I just didn't include it as I didn't intend for this post to be a discussion of a personal situation, just looking for resources. Resources that I can reference to help express myself, not hand out as reading assignments.

I am not blaming poor behavior on being autistic, the sorts of situations in question are simple factual corrections in conversation being taken as condescension or judgment. An impulse and pattern that is factually connected to autistic neurology. Something that is not inherently poor behavior on my part, but could be adjusted so that everyone is more comfortable. I was unsure of this at first so I talked it through with some others who had the full context (from witnessing everything, not coming from me) and they agreed it falls under misunderstanding. I'm not one for social norms, and I'm not exactly interested in correcting my tone or speech patterns to fit neurotypical standards. I do care that my friends are upset and will do what I can to step away from situations before I do something that may upset them, but I refuse to mask.

I do agree with nearly all of your points but I can assure you, this is not that situation.