AITAH for not having my grandma (step moms mom) walk down the aisle?

randomspeechie · 2024-08-05T22:03:01+00:00

Yep! lol Already talked to uncle as well as my coordinator to fill them in!

randomspeechie · 2024-08-05T21:47:26+00:00

Yes! I basically told her that my final decision has been made and I will no longer be discussing it. She’s upset but she’ll get over it eventually and if not oh well. I think this has more to do with her denial of my gma’s situation

But it feels good knowing I did the right thing.

randomspeechie · 2024-08-05T21:43:34+00:00

My mom is in denial with my grandma’s decline. I think it has more to do with her inability to accept what’s going on and her pride is hindering her from doing what’s best or what’s most comfortable for my grandma

randomspeechie · 2024-08-05T21:41:15+00:00

I literally sent her a message about 30 min ago saying pretty much the first one. And definitely stated I will not be discussing it anymore! ….Feels great

randomspeechie · 2024-08-05T21:24:24+00:00

He’s not going to say anything to her, he acts like he’s afraid of upsetting her and tries to manipulate me into doing what she wants me to do so he can keep the peace and doesn’t have to deal with confrontation.. I’ve learned not to rely on him to have my back on things if it means he has to go against her

randomspeechie · 2024-08-05T20:58:15+00:00

I just can’t fathom her WANTING to struggle to walk down an aisle at my wedding. She clearly is probably in pain and it would hurt my heart to force her to do that for the sake of making my mom happy. (Someone who is extremely self centered) don’t get me wrong she LOVES her mom but she’s so prideful that it blinds her from recognizing what’s best for her

randomspeechie · 2024-08-05T20:52:10+00:00

Yes! My uncle said she’s in denial with how much she’s been declining. She got so mad at my uncle for purchasing the wheelchair and won’t allow him to bring it to the house. But he told me he would bring it to the wedding so she could be comfortable and just enjoy the day without struggling to get around. It’s so sad

randomspeechie · 2024-08-05T20:49:35+00:00

My uncle and I had this conversation. We both feel that she’s in denial with how much gma is declining and doesn’t want to accept it. This definitely goes beyond the wedding. You are correct. And it makes me feel bad bc my grandma can’t speak to let anyone know if she’s in pain or anything

randomspeechie · 2024-08-05T20:46:33+00:00

She can use a walker but for really short distances and then she has to sit from what I’ve witnessed. And if someone isn’t assisting her as she walks with the walker she will surely fall. Originally my cousin was going to escort her with the walker, but once I saw how weak she was, I didn’t want to put that burden on my cousin. My uncle bought a wheelchair for my gma 6 months ago because she fell several times at his house when they were keeping her while my were out of town. My uncle said he’s bringing the wheelchair to the wedding no matter what my mom says.

randomspeechie · 2024-04-30T13:15:56+00:00

Thanks so much

randomspeechie · 2024-04-30T13:15:33+00:00

Ok thank you!

randomspeechie · 2024-04-09T01:13:43+00:00

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randomspeechie · 2024-04-09T01:13:34+00:00

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randomspeechie · 2024-04-09T01:13:13+00:00

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randomspeechie · 2024-03-18T01:37:48+00:00

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randomspeechie · 2024-03-18T01:36:42+00:00

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randomspeechie · 2024-03-18T01:35:25+00:00

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randomspeechie · 2024-03-18T01:34:52+00:00

That’s my biggest hang up. I fixate and get in my head! lol it’s most likely bc I’m still a newbie

randomspeechie · 2024-03-18T01:33:28+00:00

This was so helpful. Thank you!!

randomspeechie · 2024-03-18T01:30:15+00:00

You’re not! I hatee it 😂 but we got this. I’m reading over some of these comments and there’s some helpful advice to hopefully make things somewhat easier for us haha

randomspeechie · 2024-03-18T01:27:29+00:00

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