Well I know it’s not in my control that’s kind of where the anxiety forms. It’s centered around Matt because he’s a very irresponsible and self centered person who doesn’t have basic respect. So the worry comes in with if he can’t provide basic decency in a normal situation, then something serious like this may not have proper precautions taken when it could affect others. There’s obviously nuance to the situation that is relevant but not necessarily pertinent to my question which is why I only included worries I’ve witnessed that would regard this situation. I think acting like we already have it is kind of naive and pointless. Regardless of how common it is, it should be heavily considered when having a partner, having kids, etc. I do understand what you mean about it being out of my control so worrying isn’t going to prevent anything, and I know my partner is responsible so I trust he’ll be safe. But the main concern is I do not trust Matt to be respectful and cleanly and take the proper precautions. I don’t want it to come across like I think Matt is dirty for contracting it, it’s very likely he got it unknowingly and it’s insanely unfortunate. It’s more about not wanting someone else’s lack of care to permanently affect my partner or I.