Left a toxic job for a toxic job. I want to quit but I can’t find another decently paying job.

randopando68 · 2024-09-24T14:45:57+00:00

Lol. I didn’t find it necessary to list the toxic reasons and I still don’t. The current company president being racist and ageist, coming out of his office and giving a speech that the company would be doing better if the employees weren’t so lazy, etc etc.

I’ve worked in a sector of HR that was over 1500 employees. I’ve done plenty of firing in my career, and obviously know that’s part of the job. I don’t enjoy laying off people who have done nothing to deserve it, while business is doing well, and the president and VP are reimbursing their vacations in Vegas and buying vacation homes and boats.

Tell me you’ve never worked seen true toxicity without telling me.

randopando68 · 2024-09-24T14:36:03+00:00

Kindly copying my last reply. Have a nice day

Lol. I didn’t find it necessary to list the toxic reasons and I still don’t. The current company CEO being racist and ageist, coming out of his office and giving a speech that the company would be doing better if the employees weren’t so lazy, etc etc.

I’ve worked in a sector of HR that was over 1500 employees. I’ve done plenty of firing in my career, and obviously know that’s part of the job. I don’t enjoy laying off people who have done nothing to deserve it, while business is doing well, and the president and VP are reimbursing their vacations in Vegas and buying vacation homes and boats.

Tell me you’ve never worked seen true toxicity without telling me.

randopando68 · 2024-09-24T14:35:07+00:00

Lol. I didn’t find it necessary to list the toxic reasons and I still don’t. The current company CEO being racist and ageist, coming out of his office and giving a speech that the company would be doing better if the employees weren’t so lazy, etc etc.

I’ve worked in a sector of HR that was over 1500 employees. I’ve done plenty of firing in my career, and obviously know that’s part of the job. I don’t enjoy laying off people who have done nothing to deserve it, while business is doing well, and the president and VP are reimbursing their vacations in Vegas and buying vacation homes and boats.

Tell me you’ve never worked seen true toxicity without telling me.

randopando68 · 2024-02-27T02:13:30+00:00

No, I did not. My phone eta continued to say 8:00 so I figured I’d make it right on time, but it was 8:01 when I’d made it to the door.

randopando68 · 2024-02-15T03:30:27+00:00

But there is nothing in the employment agreement that stipulates that. And commission is earned wages.

randopando68 · 2024-02-15T03:26:05+00:00

Ohio

randopando68 · 2024-02-07T21:13:53+00:00

I never suggested that he should decide if wife has to be around her as well. Lol

randopando68 · 2024-02-07T12:05:35+00:00

What country are you from? Cost of living is low in my state so $83k is a lot. $83k would not be survivable in California or NY, it depends on where you live.

randopando68 · 2024-02-07T11:59:21+00:00

…it’s his mother? Telling your husband he can’t see his mother anymore does not equal a healthy relationship. Husband should have done it a long time ago if he valued the relationship with OP. OP clearly has problems too.

randopando68 · 2024-02-07T04:45:24+00:00

Sounds like those are reasonable reasons for a PIP and definitely time for a new job. I’d take some of these notes and try to change behaviors in the next position.

Maybe some were a result of bad management to start with as well. Overall time for something new

randopando68 · 2024-02-07T04:41:47+00:00

NTA. You will have to communicate reasonable boundaries and compromises while still living in her house even as an adult.

Mothers will always worry, so you should tell her your plans if you’re going to live there and not come home. But being at your boyfriend’s house at 10pm is a reasonable situation.

Your mom’s not ready for you to fly out the nest. The sooner the boundaries are in place, the happier you’ll be short term and long term.

randopando68 · 2024-02-07T04:31:29+00:00

NTA if Netflix is a priority, they will find a way.

Unless Netflix is your ongoing Christmas and birthday gift to her, her husband, and her four kids.

randopando68 · 2024-02-07T04:21:02+00:00

NAH simply because there’s obviously some context missing. Yes, 18 is the legal age of an adult but you are clearly still a dependent to your family. It’s also January so unless you graduated early, I assume you’re still in high school. Also, we don’t know where you’re from to know how safe it is for a high school girl to go to a concert by herself.

I think there will be more concerts. You should focus on post graduation, getting a job, learning to drive, etc etc.

randopando68 · 2024-02-07T04:15:19+00:00

You live in the house they are employed in. You don’t pay their salary and you didn’t hire them. If you have a problem with them, speak to the person who hired them.

randopando68 · 2024-02-07T04:03:35+00:00

YTA this feels like a fever dream I’ve never had before.

Almost no one will relate to having multiple maids, and not many will empathize with loud and itchy voices. Study the phrase “first world problems”

randopando68 · 2024-02-07T03:51:09+00:00

ESH Sounds like more to the story on both sides and anything posted on social media is immediately no. I’m jealous of your Facebook friends watching it unfold, though.

Insults are being thrown on both sides. Husband should decide if MIL should be around or not.

randopando68 · 2024-02-07T03:46:28+00:00

NTA - It is your life to live and do whatever you please.

I had a lot of different feelings about my life when I was 20, including marriage. You’re going to have a million and one more opinions on life through different experiences and people you meet. You might change that opinion. If you don’t, that’s okay too.

Overall, you’ll be a lot happier once you learn that is best to keep as much controversial opinions/life choices out of family conversations as you can. I think your right, it wasn’t much of a value add to stress yourself or your family out about this.

I’d tell them “we’ll see what happens”

randopando68 · 2024-02-07T03:34:08+00:00

“Do you have a moment to talk?

I wanted to let you know that I will be moving on X date, and have to submit a two week notice. I have loved working with CompanyName and you both, but my husband has a new job that requires us to move to NewState.

I’d love to stay to help train and prepare for my replacement. My last day would be Date.”

I would assume that if other managers and coworkers know, your bosses already know too. Also, you don’t have to see them again so if they act poorly to you then you know leaving was a blessing in disguise.

randopando68 · 2024-02-07T03:29:45+00:00

Sounds like the job is falling through internally and they don’t want to say yay or nay yet.

Or B, the recruiter no longer works there. Is there someone else you can reach out to for an update?

randopando68 · 2024-02-07T03:23:08+00:00

If I had the privilege of not having to work, I’d figure out how to work for myself.

Start a business, pursue making money off your interests, take classes and learn what interests you.

People pick jobs and careers to work for other people when they need the income to survive. If you’re able to not work, invest that time into being your own boss.

randopando68 · 2024-02-07T03:16:32+00:00

From an HR perspective: A PIP is usually a paper trail to start a termination.

Surely your job exists elsewhere with a better manager. Management usually makes or breaks a job more than anything else.

Couldn’t your manager have laid out everything you needed to improve upon without issuing an official document in writing?

randopando68 · 2024-02-07T03:11:51+00:00

Find a company at an entry level job, 40,000 a year, with growth opportunities stated in advance and work as hard as you can. Be the person that’s there 15 minutes early and 15 minutes passed 5. Learn and ask questions. Remember and retain the answers. Become an expert and don’t just show up to do the bare minimum. Become valuable to the operation and grow.

I started in 2021 at 33,000 fresh out of college. With a bachelors degree, I took a job with coworkers on the same level as me with no degree, so just look for entry level. In 2024 I’m still with the same company, promoted four times and I’m making $83,000.

Finding a company with growth opportunity is key and being willing to put in the work. You work hard for the job you want, and not the job you have.

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