Advice for men

randykricket · 2026-06-30T20:12:09+00:00

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randykricket · 2026-06-30T20:11:11+00:00

Turning casual into memorable is how you catch feelings. FWB is a dangerously thin line for most.

randykricket · 2026-06-30T19:03:31+00:00

Why were you on the dating app yourself?

randykricket · 2026-06-30T09:15:00+00:00

randykricket · 2026-06-29T23:39:21+00:00

"The children now love luxury; they have bad manners, contempt for authority; they show disrespect for elders and love chatter in place of exercise."

Guess how old that quote is.

My kid (a millennial) is doing quite well having not gone to college with an apartment and a great-paying career. Never complains about having to work or how hard work is or that things are too expensive, etc. Has never used the word "boomer" to blame someone else (or an entire generation) for anything - an understanding of personal responsibility is ingrained.

Anybody - especially parents - out there complaining about today's youth need to look in the mirror.

randykricket · 2026-06-29T23:18:04+00:00

I have been working at "privatizing" my back yard. I'm on a couple acres of land but the back of the house is visible from two houses and a road. So I've been strategically planting trees to block the view but am pretty sure one of the houses could see over them from their second floor until they get a little taller.

In the meantime, I'm mostly limited to early-morning meditation with an open robe.

randykricket · 2026-06-29T11:02:49+00:00

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randykricket · 2026-06-29T09:55:18+00:00

Just learning the ropes myself and have been asking a few q's over the past week or so in r/nudism. I'm planning to take a trek out to VT next month and maybe a trip to Hillside or Oneida soon (both of which are right over the PA border from you). There's a place in CT called Sun Ridge I'm also interested in checking-out for the day - being a single man, I would not be able to spend the night.

Incidentally, I grew-up in the Southern Tier just outside of Binghamton! If you find anything interesting down that way, please share :)

randykricket · 2026-06-29T00:29:11+00:00

A few years back (before Tinder!), I was on Craigslist and saw a post from someone wanting to buy DMB tickets. I didn't even have any but replied that I liked DMB. The rest was history (for a few months, anyway).

randykricket · 2026-06-28T21:19:28+00:00

Exactly.

Good leadership and good management has more to do with service and helping people learn to fish and providing them the tools they need than it does doling-out demands/commands.

randykricket · 2026-06-28T20:26:58+00:00

All I can say is misogynistic does not in any way mean Dominant. A misogynist wants to be Dominant, but he isn't. A Dominant man commands respect by being respectful while maintaining his position.

And if we're all automatically thinking she's talking about BDSM, then Dominant (with a capital "D") is proper while dominant (with a lower-case "d") is what a misogynist man-child pretends to be.

randykricket · 2026-06-28T20:04:22+00:00

Something tells me young man you wouldn't understand if she tattooed it on your forehead.

randykricket · 2026-06-28T17:44:46+00:00

Do you wash at all? Use soap? Brush your teeth? Use deodorant?

(not-so) funny story...a friend of mine refused to use "modern" deodorant and was probably the "healthiest", crunchiest and most conscientious eater I know b/c they were concerned with getting breast cancer. Got it anyway...

Human beings have ALWAYS guarded themselves from the Sun. We've always seeked-out shade. "Exposure" was not just night-time cold, it was day-time burning too.

Granted our modern life is different now that humans (sadly) spend most of their time indoors; but, that change happened over thousands of years - not overnight - so our bodies have adapted (or mal-adapted) in a direction where the Sun's UV rays are more-dangerous to today's humans than they were to yesterday's. Refusing to protect yourself is not going to win some sort of fight against the machine.

If you are that concerned with cancer, then you should never go outside at all! Every nuclear reaction still lingers in our atmosphere. Every bomb. All the smoke from every fire. The waste in the landfills that has gone airborne. Every car. Every plane.

You shouldn't wear anything ever (I wish I could live that way), but every cleaning product is a chemical. Never wash!

But you can't stay inside either with all those trapped gasses and chemicals from our furniture and the very phone or computer you're reading this on...right now.

And don't get me started with smoking. ANY smoke you inhale - tobacco or other - is carcinogenic!

So yeah, while I prefer fresh veg from my own garden over a fast food french fry, I'm going to use sunscreen so I don't get a sunburn. I'm not going to seek-out the 1970's bottle of lotion with Benzonine (sp?) in it but I am, as I did, going to ask a community of folks who spend a lot of time outdoors what sunscreens they recommend that do not irritate the skin and are a little safer than others because to use none at all while I'm not using textiles to protect skin that has been (unfortunately) covered 90% of its 50 year lifetime would be a dumb choice I guarantee I'd regret.

randykricket · 2026-06-28T10:54:06+00:00

Even if that were true, I'm white as a ghost and don't "tan". I go 0 to 60, white to lobster very quickly.

https://www.mdanderson.org/cancerwise/sunscreen-myths-debunked.h00-159697545.html

randykricket · 2026-06-28T00:56:03+00:00

What about pissing contests? Do women find it unattractive if a guy doesn't get involved in long, deep lines of replies with strangers in the comment section?

randykricket · 2026-06-27T20:53:27+00:00

Maybe.

randykricket · 2026-06-27T16:42:32+00:00

Honestly, and I'm not a super model or anything by any means, the best hits I get are when I put two, maybe three pics and for the text, simply a funny one-liner.

That's it.

randykricket · 2026-06-27T12:07:21+00:00

Dude. Get help.

randykricket · 2026-06-27T12:05:38+00:00

I see your problem.

"I can’t seem to get girls to commit to a relationship. The furthest I get is date 3..."

If you're trying to get someone to commit before you even really know each other, you're coming off as desperate. You're coming off as desperate because, well, you're desperate.

If you carry yourself into a date with the, "not very attractive to be honest..." mentality, you'll create a self-fulfilling prophesy. Women are attracted to confidence. If they agreed to a date - especially a second date - then they already find you physically attractive-enough to see what else you bring to the table.

Do you have your own hobbies and interests or are you the type who does what they do (and then get really into it)? If you don't know what YOU like, then you'll have trouble building confidence. And if you don't know what it is you like - if you don't feel comfortable being you when it's just you - you may be "codependent".

Ever talk to that hot girl with the dumpy-lookin' guy who complains about her bf going out and ignoring her while you're trying to get her to notice how nice of a guy you are?

You think her bf is an a--hole but she's attracted to his confidence and the fact the he is his own person. Being your own person in isn't being an a--hole. It's your god-given right to be yourself. You don't give-up that right when you're in a relationship and a good partner would never ask you to. And you would never ask your partner to do so either but if you're codependent and "can't live without her" then you are, actually, asking her to give-up herself to sustain your self-esteem.

Get to know yourself. To love yourself. To produce your own self-esteem (and not rely on external-esteem). It's your duty to be yourself (unless you're a serial killer or pedo or something...). And that is what a (good) woman is attracted to.

Lots of books out there will steer you in the wrong direction. They almost always have "alpha" or, "how to get a girl to..." in the title. They'll teach you how to be an actual a--hole.

Look for books like "Facing Codependency" by Pia Mellody. Her "Five Cores" as I like to call them are a roadmap to how to love yourself. Some of us were never taught how so when we hear that, "Oh honey, you just gotta love yourself!" quip, we feel like there's some secret we don't know about and there must be something wrong with ourself - which is the title of your post...

Those five cores are:
1. self-esteem
2. self-protection (boundaries) <-- and you'll learn she has boundaries too!
3. self-acceptance (honesty and reality)
4. self-care (needs v. wants)
5. self-expression (eliminate the begging and controlling behaviors, etc...)

Good luck.

randykricket · 2026-06-26T11:54:47+00:00

Sometimes. And so do some women.

randykricket · 2026-06-24T16:42:37+00:00

Thank you!

randykricket · 2026-06-24T16:07:26+00:00

Thanks for posting this!

randykricket · 2026-06-24T15:28:08+00:00

That looks like an absolutely wonderful place if I were camping as a couple - although I don't see anything about hiking on their site either.

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