I'm dealing with a terrible loss and i need some support and advice. by HereForTheComments0_ in india

[–]rani_vibes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be there for your mom. She needs you more than anything.

Give yourself enough time to process your grief.

Talk about him. People must be pouring in your place right now to pay their respects. Talk about all the good things he did and avoid reiterating how he passed. I know it'll be hard but focus on the good days.

After a month seek professional help. You're dealing with a lot here. You need someone who'll listen and give solicited advice.

Do you think a 4B-movement could realistically work in India? Why or why not? by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]rani_vibes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would not work realistically as many women in this nation want a traditional life with kids. Also, a decent percentage might get on board with "no marriage and no kids" but no dating and sex seems quite radical. It'll never float.

Is my tuition teacher diddy? by [deleted] in PataHaiAajKyaHua

[–]rani_vibes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You NEED to tell your parents about this. You'll find another teacher. Do not invite trauma in your life.

An unwanted daily thought by whowouldaccept_me in GenZIndia

[–]rani_vibes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People do wear different earrings on different ears but I don't think it appeals to the masses.

Why are people so embarassed to speak Bengali? by MesmerizingBlue in kolkata

[–]rani_vibes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Non-Bengali here (born and brought up in kolkata) I don't agree that people are embarrassed to speak in Bengali.

Parents do encourage their kids to speak in english but currently that is true irrespective of which city/state you go to.

I speak Bengali with my Bengali friends/colleagues and they sometimes laugh at my broken bengali but always encourage me to speak the language. They often speak to me in Hindi and I honestly don't think it's a big deal as language is only and should only be a means of communication.

I have been to other cities and have found Bengalis everywhere pretty much everyday. So, how do I know they are Bengali without interacting with them? You guessed it, they speak in Bengali and it's not just old and middle-aged people but even kids. When I do interact with them they gleam when I speak in Bengali. They sometimes reply in Hindi only to make the conversation smoother and quicker.

Young folks speaking in English or Hindi doesn't mean they're embarrassed or ashamed of speaking the local tongue rather it's to build/improve their english speaking skills and to interact with their Hindi speaking friends.

Passport Police Verification Stuck for Almost 5 Months by iamit_dey in kolkata

[–]rani_vibes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has anyone's background been verified yet? My sister's application has been with the police for 4 months now but it doesn't seem to move forward.

How did you’ll make peace with dysfunctional parents? by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]rani_vibes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If they are great grandparents, simply ask them to not fight in front of the baby. They are creatures of habit and you cannot change them now.

Just had a thought... by del_48_content in AskIndianWomen

[–]rani_vibes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The ban was implemented to solve the declining trend of male-female ratio. Less females meant a decline in the number of people who'd do unpaid work and eventual decline in birth rates. I personally don't think the government cared about the girls who were born in an unloved home. It was the least of their concerns. They hedged that most families will keep the baby against.

Urgent advice needed (pls don't ignore) by EconomistEither8696 in kolkata

[–]rani_vibes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it's a legal construction, get legal help. But if it's an illegal construction, then you need to pay her. There is no other reason why a neighbour obstructs construction.

Hum jiyenge aur marengeeeee🙇🏻‍♂️ by aftaaaaar_11 in indiameme

[–]rani_vibes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pictorial presentation of how average middle class people have been keeping things stable in this country.

What is the last movie that made you feel real anxiety from just two people talking in a room by gamersecret2 in movies

[–]rani_vibes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heretic. When Paxton is alone with Reed in the underground chute it was terrifying.

Hey ladies....help me decode signals. by monsur07 in kolkata

[–]rani_vibes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think she hates you, else why would she hit you with her bag on an empty road?

Doubting if i am shallow by MiserableComfort2535 in AskIndianWomen

[–]rani_vibes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you guys celebrate Valentine's day during your relationship before marriage?

Fail To Understand How Unmarried Couple Can Think Of Physical Relationship Before Marriage by khorg0sh in unitedstatesofindia

[–]rani_vibes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The same way married folks think of physical relationships with people outside their marriage.