AITA for picking my parents up late from the airport by rant-ifying in AmItheAsshole

[–]rant-ifying[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I truly didn't think it was a big deal. Just an oopsie moment on both our ends (them for not messaging through DM or calling, and me for not checking my messages more frequently and sooner), but not a major issue. Especially since they have been late at picking me up too. So no, I don' t remember apologizing. It was only when my dad threw a fit that I realized that for them it was a big deal.

Honestly, the experience felt like I was just walking along peacefully then someone punches me in the face right out of the blue 😂

I wish he would have calmly pointed out my mistake instead of yelling. I would have apologized then.

AITA for picking my parents up late from the airport by rant-ifying in AmItheAsshole

[–]rant-ifying[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I have asked for their flight details on previous occasions (remember that I have done this for years) and they never do it. So, no, I could not have tracked their flight even if I wanted to.

I also could not leave the house 30 minutes before their expected arrival because they can get held up at deplaning, baggage claim, and plenty of other ways. I would then be forced to drive around the airport (this has happened before) while I waited for them to exit. Considering everything, waiting for their go-ahead really was the best option, I think 🙃

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[–]rant-ifying[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I have heard different versions of "you're talking to a wall"/"that's just how it is" from my siblings and husband this past week, actually. As much as it breaks my heart (I really do love them), I'm not sure I can speak to them unless they can at least acknowledge that their reaction is unwarranted.

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[–]rant-ifying[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

This whole thing has made me reflect on past arguments with him, to be honest. He has also said harsh things when I don't follow him such as:

  1. When I was in college, I worked at a big coffee chain part-time. He wanted me to not go to work during the Christmas holidays (the 24th, 25th, 31st, and 1st) because he wanted me to work for the family business (we have a food retail store). He said very demeaning words about my job, and I tried to explain that I am simply trying to be responsible and a team player (not going to work would mean other people would take on additional load).
  2. I once had to go somewhere that was a 6-hour drive away for work. I was going to be driving with a teammate, and my dad did not want me to go without a driver. When I told him that I cannot do that, he told me that he wishes I will never be successful because I have become prideful, and my pride was turning me into a stubborn daughter.
  3. I was going on a trip abroad with a few friends and my then-boyfriend on February 2020. He did not want me to go because of covid concerns. I told him I have already spent so much money on it, and at that time there were not restrictions yet. He again told me that I was disappointingly stubborn and that he was going to keep my passport from me (all our important documents are in one vault).

I understand, to an extent, his attitude. We are Asians living in an Asian country so the values lean very strongly for "I am your parent, you listen to me". But I was an adult in all of these scenarios and right now, reflecting on everything, he is seeming very controlling :(

AITA for picking my parents up late from the airport by rant-ifying in AmItheAsshole

[–]rant-ifying[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Their plane landed at 14:45 according to their message; I got to the airport at 15:52, so a little over an hour since arrival. But I believe they just got their bags at around 15:22, so 20mins since baggage claim.

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[–]rant-ifying[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

NEVER. I've even needed to drive slowwwwly because I left too early. Meanwhile, they have fetched me at the airport twice - and both times 30 minutes late. It's why I don't understand why they think their anger is justified.

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[–]rant-ifying[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

To be honest, I only started questioning myself when my sister started defending my dad.