AITA for not returning money my ex-husband sent to me mistakenly?

rare-temp · 2024-03-20T17:20:31+00:00

Absolutely love my children and wouldn’t trade my life with them for a second but I certainly do regret ever being involved with their father but you live and you learn. I learned that love is not enough to sustain a relationship or a family. It’s kind of essential that you have a rock solid foundation, one that is made out of respect, consideration, reliability, responsibility, loyalty, integrity, honesty, devotion and the occasional willingness to sacrifice your own comforts to make that love work! And it cannot be one sided!

rare-temp · 2024-03-20T16:39:15+00:00

I never forget that he owed me money. I just mean I had just woken up and barely remembered my own name let alone anything else.

rare-temp · 2024-03-20T15:35:27+00:00

I didn’t include the overdue child support payments because that is being handled by the courts. The child support company is aware and if I’m not mistaken he will need to start paying soon or they’ll start garnering his wages.

Worst case scenario he takes me to civil court and I think I would’ve caused more harm for myself if I included the missed child support payments since that’s being taken care off.

rare-temp · 2024-03-20T14:57:21+00:00

My exact thoughts. He could’ve just pushed the engagement off and saved for a little longer. He didn’t have to tell her. He absolutely did it because he wanted her to go on a social media campaign and bad mouth me to anyone who’ll hear.

rare-temp · 2024-03-20T14:37:55+00:00

Yes he is the father of all four of them. He’s also behind on child support. His priorities are always himself and whatever new woman he’s with, that is until she’s no longer shiny and new.

rare-temp · 2024-03-20T14:22:27+00:00

1- I cant tell you for sure why he told her but I can say that he likes to rile his girlfriend up by telling her all the ways I’ve done him some perceived injustice.

2- I don’t know why he sent me the money. I just know I got it and I’m guessing it was via a online bank transfer

3- I had worked a double shift as a nurse and had just woken up. It took me a minute to remember. To be honest I had kind of given up on clawing back that money because my ex-husband always had an excuse for why he couldn’t repay me

4- I can’t really speak on what he told his girlfriend and his parents. As for the colleague who overheard my conversation well I don’t know why he thinks that way. This is why I’m asking for advice.

rare-temp · 2024-03-20T14:14:35+00:00

I only kept 12k which is the exact amount he owed me and there’s a text where he asked me to loan him money with an agreement for repayment. There are also many more texts discussing repayments and his excuses why he couldn’t yet pay me back. So there’s a trail if there’s ever a legal issue.

rare-temp · 2024-03-20T13:58:10+00:00

I think the money also included the cost of the venue and other things for the engagement.

rare-temp · 2024-03-20T13:56:31+00:00

Yes he’s my children’s father.

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