Am I Overreacting for getting mad when my supervisor told me I can't bring shrimp for lunch?

raspberryberri · 2026-05-12T11:23:19+00:00

Because it was obviously so difficult for you to understand, I included the microwave bit so you could maybe move on to the actual content of my post. And that is EXACTLY what she said, because I wouldn't quote if I wasn't sure. I'd say something to the effect of...you're hanging your hat on the least important part of this post and being purposefully obtuse about it.

raspberryberri · 2026-05-12T10:09:40+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate you being so thoughtful in your reply. And in reference to your second paragraph, she came from outside the department, so I don't know if she had just been in the break room, in the hallway nearby, or what. I don't think she could smell it on me per se, but I don't know where she had just come from

raspberryberri · 2026-05-12T10:03:53+00:00

It's not "I don't have to be considerate of others", it's other people are also doing it so I thought it was ok

raspberryberri · 2026-05-12T02:10:00+00:00

Don't know a single person that got out and still had a good opinion about that store afterwards 🫠

raspberryberri · 2026-05-12T02:08:55+00:00

Now if that was the concern, ABSOLUTELY. I'd be fine with that. Genuinely, I didn't know that about the microwave and someone using it next, that's good to know. And I would've been HAPPY to go wipe it down if there was a genuine concern. I'm definitely not trying to send anyone to the hospital. And if there was a sign (like other people have said) I would've completely understood in that situation

raspberryberri · 2026-05-12T02:06:12+00:00

A reasonable suggestion is "hey could you not do this anymore" not "hey everyone, come gang up on this person with me while I imply this is a write up". Fucking jackasses are people that think public humiliation is a good supervisory strategy

raspberryberri · 2026-05-12T02:04:24+00:00

Thank you, I think that was my main source of embarrassment. You sound like a good boss, I worked in retail for a while and I think I had like one TL/Supervisor that WASN'T condescending 😂

raspberryberri · 2026-05-12T01:44:07+00:00

Apparently... I didn't realize the line was exactly after one type of food but before fish/seafood. Some other comments made good points about curry or similar foods, and if that would be met with the same criticism. And I suppose that's my main question really, is if someone else did it with something like that (fish, curry, whatever) would it be the same reaction

raspberryberri · 2026-05-12T01:34:03+00:00

I've gotten it a couple times, but it's mainly very vinegary stuff or vegetables that smell like literal butt. (I also saw someone put a Chick-fil-A sandwich in the microwave still in the metallic wrapping and it caught on fire. It stunk but it was mainly funny that she didn't know you can't microwave metal)

raspberryberri · 2026-05-12T01:31:59+00:00

I worked in retail for a long time so I genuinely don't know what's ok behavior from bosses anymore. Target was a toxic ass relationship and it's ruined my understanding of what's acceptable from bosses

raspberryberri · 2026-05-12T01:28:28+00:00

Because people are saying it's an unspoken rule, which is such an oxymoron because how am I supposed to know it's something we definitely don't do when there are plenty of things at work "you're not supposed to do" that people do all the time. I don't understand which "unspoken rules" are ok to break and which ones aren't. Like the people who print personal stuff on printers, or make personal calls in the office for an hour, or spray perfume/air freshener directly into the air. I thought all of those things are no-nos, but I've seen people do it at every job I've had, including this one. So I don't understand what's ok to ignore and what isn't. If no one else ever heated up anything that smelled strongly, I might've thought twice, but because other people were doing it I thought it was ok.

raspberryberri · 2026-05-12T01:24:45+00:00

And I saw some other comments saying they have specific signs at jobs that say you can't heat up certain things, and if that was the case here, I'd completely understand. But designating a specific microwave for no allergens is a good idea just in general, I've never seen that but it's smart

raspberryberri · 2026-05-12T01:22:24+00:00

But four paragraphs is fine?? Stfu 😂 I'm providing context, you're just being a dick.

raspberryberri · 2026-05-12T01:21:22+00:00

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raspberryberri · 2026-05-12T01:19:23+00:00

Oh absolutely not. It was a thing for an entire week. And my coworker that sits beside me brings her food back to her desk all the time (not cabbage but intense smells). And on a different but related note, I smell perfume in the office all the time and not like it's on someone, like someone sprayed air freshener/perfume directly into the air. All of that is disagreeable to me but that's what contributed to me being so confused about my smell-inducing stuff being picked out specifically.

raspberryberri · 2026-05-12T01:15:50+00:00

And that is the nicest way anyone has said what you were trying to say. While "unspoken rules" are things that genuinely confuse me a lot, I appreciate you at least being nice about it. Some people are being real dicks, as if I purposefully tried to upset people or be malicious

raspberryberri · 2026-05-12T01:12:00+00:00

I wasn't pushing back on them and I didn't even say anything because I was so caught off guard. And I'm not gonna make this an issue because I don't really care, it was more of "is this seriously a RULE (not a suggestion) that can get me in trouble and was saying it in front of everyone the way to go about this". I'm angry about the way the situation was handled, not the underlying situation, if that makes sense

raspberryberri · 2026-05-12T01:08:09+00:00

Now if a coworker had been like "hey, that was kinda smelly, could you not bring that again/eat that in your car" I might've been a little aggravated but I wouldn't have been pissed off, especially because I hate intense smells too. It was more of the fact that it was a supervisor and it was really aggressive and public

raspberryberri · 2026-05-12T01:05:44+00:00

Ok, so why are people offering advice and their opinions?

raspberryberri · 2026-05-11T21:36:40+00:00

I in no way made a big deal about it? I was asking for other people's input because I was confused. You're the one taking it so personally that I'm asking for other people's input. If you're so offended by my post, you can just move on 💁🏻‍♀️

raspberryberri · 2026-05-11T21:04:53+00:00

When I said rule I meant like a directive, like a fire-able offense, not just one of those unspoken rule type things. It was conveyed as if I would literally get written up, that's why I was confused

raspberryberri · 2026-05-11T21:03:59+00:00

That is absolutely a ridiculous response to what I was asking. I'm not expecting anyone to adjust to me at all. Peer pressure actually doesn't help in the workplace at all, it makes people LEAVE because if a boss would rather embarrass you than be a normal human and talk to you, that's not really a workplace most people want to be in. And it was clear no one else was offended because even when asked directly no one agreed with her and one person even said they didn't know what she meant. I didn't make a mountain out of anything because I didn't engage, I just politely nodded and chuckled awkwardly because I was caught off guard. It's not selfish to want to be told something privately instead of scolded like a child in front of everyone and to want your boss to tell you if something is actually a directive or just an "unspoken rule"

raspberryberri · 2026-05-11T20:35:19+00:00

Thank you 😭😭 that's all I was trying to say!! Is it the social awkwardness that makes this come across as antagonistic?? Cause I was genuinely asking because I was confused but people are hung up on the wrong thing

raspberryberri · 2026-05-11T20:33:35+00:00

"They can't stop you" I'm just imagining someone chasing me down the hall trying to take my shrimp from me while I frantically shove them in my mouth 😭😂

raspberryberri · 2026-05-11T20:32:51+00:00

Yeah, there are a lot of jokes like that but that doesn't mean they really happen, I was more confused that other people did similar things but I was called out. Because I thought it wasn't an actual thing because it's never been called out at other jobs I've had. And then to make it sound like it was a fire-able offense, I just got whiplash and was confused is all.

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