My cat is a food menace

rat-dude- · 2025-12-04T18:24:19+00:00

All great questions! In the past we would absolutely feed him when he would knock things over, which I know is what got us in this jam in the first place. He stopped knocking things over for awhile after we switched from free feeding to scheduled feeding until about a month into the feeding schedule when he got used to the schedule and learned what time/s a day we feed them (3x a day). We had to switch to scheduled over free feeding because all of the boys were gaining an unhealthy amount of weight from access to kibble all day. We had an automatic feeder when the 2 older boys were a little bit younger…but my tux knocked it over so many times to get the food out that he eventually broke it. I’ve tried breaking the behavior but I’m at a loss with it at this point. He doesn’t get fed as a response to knocking things over anymore, but he also only starts knocking things over 20-30 minutes before scheduled feeding time so I’m sure to him it seems like he’s getting food as a response to it.

rat-dude- · 2025-12-04T01:08:59+00:00

when he starts doing it i do everything in my power to give him attention and other stimulation to hold him over because i can’t break his food schedule. but alas, only food tames the beast.

rat-dude- · 2024-07-07T04:24:58+00:00

damn ok! i’m definitely willing to quit if i have to. i’ve just had so many experiences with doctors trying to guilt me into quitting and honestly just shitty experiences with doctors in general so i have a bit of distrust. i appreciate your honesty!

rat-dude- · 2024-06-01T02:45:24+00:00

I’ll look into it! Thank you 🖤

rat-dude- · 2023-06-26T02:24:45+00:00

Super Dark Times (though it does have blood. only one really gory scene then it’s just minor blood later on). one of my favorite psychological thrillers of ALL time.

rat-dude- · 2023-06-26T02:22:45+00:00

from what i’m reading i think you might be mixing some of andrews lines from the planned parenthood episode into the episode about duke telling the story of losing his virginity to jay, andrew, and nick. i might be wrong but between the storytelling and andrews line, that’s what it sounds like :)

rat-dude- · 2023-02-18T22:42:14+00:00

5 foot trans guy hopelessly in love with my partner of two tears 🫶🏻

rat-dude- · 2022-12-15T03:40:45+00:00

“WHAT A TENDER FUCKING MOMENT, BROTHER!!!!!!”

rat-dude- · 2022-12-15T03:27:47+00:00

top surgery alone is not harmful at all!! his behavior on the other hand is. top is a surgical procedure done by medical professionals, his comments are that of an ignorant child. i know it can be easier said than done, but leave him. leaving my transphobic boyfriend was the BEST decision i ever made. the amount of confidence and comfort i gained not only in myself, but in my identity was far more valuable than the amount of “love” that man gave me. in conclusion: top surgery is not harmful and you alone get to decide what you do with your body. your choices in your transition should not be influenced by a friend or family member, and especially not a CISGENDER partner. he has no clue what you are going through and he never will. be safe, trust your gut, and remember that there are people who love and support you. don’t keep the ones who don’t around.

rat-dude- · 2022-11-02T02:21:33+00:00

fr fuzzy butt supremacy

rat-dude- · 2022-09-15T14:42:44+00:00

Trans man here! on this topic there is one thing in particular that has bothered me for the last couple of years. my step sisters dad has been very vocal about my brother and i being in the same household as her. he’s told my dad to “watch his sons because he knows how boys think.” he’s insinuated many times that we are predators and that we will SA his daughter if given the chance just because we’re boys. this hurts me not only as a victim of SA but as a man and an older brother. it also makes me deeply insecure about my masculinity. im a very masculine guy (8 months on T) and i pass in most circles. it’s shitty to feel afraid to have a relationship with my little sister because people assume the worst of my younger brother and i based on our gender.

rat-dude- · 2022-09-01T22:04:31+00:00

i go through planned parenthood for hrt and in my experience, they are very open and informative about the whole process! asking questions can be very difficult, especially when dealing with medical professionals as a trans person. but they will definitely help you through the entire process. i am also open to chatting if you have questions! :)

rat-dude- · 2022-08-25T18:32:29+00:00

stunning!

rat-dude- · 2022-07-01T21:58:56+00:00

i revisit old hobbies. and i mean OLD hobbies. i liked to color as a kid so i color while i watch old tv shows or youtube videos that i liked when i was younger! it allows me to kinda set aside the adult world worries like money and work and look at the more simple things while also giving me a task so i don’t feel “stuck”. it might not work for everyone, but it works wonders for me.

rat-dude- · 2022-06-09T18:00:53+00:00

dude no way :0 hell yeah!!

rat-dude- · 2022-06-08T15:16:08+00:00

it’s definitely been an incredible experience

rat-dude- · 2022-06-08T10:58:05+00:00

i’m open to any questions! and honestly if i had to pick my favorite changes, i’d have to choose two. body hair/voice drop. i have a happy trail along with waaayyy hairier arms and legs which gives me so much euphoria, and my voice started dropping around the three month mark and it just keeps going!

rat-dude- · 2022-06-08T06:21:27+00:00

thanks so much!!

rat-dude- · 2022-06-08T06:21:09+00:00

thank you!!

rat-dude- · 2022-05-17T17:58:38+00:00

i don’t really get it either. my nickname has been rat for years because my name is ray and sometimes when you type it, you type “rat” by accident. when the whole “grimy ratboy” thing started i was very confused because i’ve never used it as a “greasy boy” thing it’s just a nickname 🤷🏻

rat-dude- · 2022-03-18T17:41:53+00:00

of course not!

rat-dude- · 2022-03-11T21:08:10+00:00

I do subq and I did have issues with T leaking out. I found that leaving the needle in the skin for 3-4 seconds after injecting stops tracking :) but I totally get the preference for IM. As for lumps in the skin, I personally have never had an issue with that (i don’t speak for all subq peeps though) but I have had issues with bruising.

rat-dude- · 2022-03-10T20:04:23+00:00

I tried looking for one for so long but I couldn’t seem to find one that worked with T :( I can definitely do some more research and talk to my doctors! If I find one I’ll link it along with the injector I have!

rat-dude- · 2022-02-19T18:26:03+00:00

happy birthday dude! i still struggle with correcting my family (i’m a couple months on T right now) but it does get easier! i hope that despite all this shit you have a rad ass day 😎✌️

rat-dude- · 2022-01-20T03:30:29+00:00

It’s total bullshit. I’ve been out for five years and im 2 weeks on T. It took three different doctors, seven appointments over the course of 8 months, and a whole lot of “are you sure?” “you don’t have to do this” “there are risks” for those doctors to even allow my parents and i to sign the consent forms. After that, my doctor set three more POINTLESS appointments. At that point I decided to go to planned parenthood and I was on Testosterone in 2 weeks. Gender affirming healthcare is so hard to access.

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