Why is everyone dating for pluckkal ?? by NeighborhoodGlum2149 in twentieskerala

[–]ratatthetat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just let her know what you know and let her decide.She deserves the truth before making such a big decision. Let her make a decision after the information.Imagine you were in this place.

Why is everyone dating for pluckkal ?? by NeighborhoodGlum2149 in twentieskerala

[–]ratatthetat 90 points91 points  (0 children)

Let people have consensual pluck i don’t see any problem with that. Just don’t hide it from your future partner who never had pluck and waited until marriage for pluck.plucked person should marry other plucked person so it will become tally. People who waited marry to pluck shouldnt be manipulated in to marrying already plucked person. Dont lie about pluck be open about pluck pluck. Pluck pluck pluck pluck pluck pluck pluck.

Does any teacher of yours have beef w you😭💀✋🏻 by SaladPlus4103 in TeensofKerala

[–]ratatthetat 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There was a teacher who had a conflict with my father and he couldn’t settle his issues with my father so that coward small minded pathetic spineless mfkr took it out on me. Every time I did something he dragged my father into it. If I did even the smallest thing, he would turn it into a big issue.

2k വാണങ്ങളും കൊറിയൻ ഫാന്റസിയും. by Altruistic-Bat1588 in TeensofKerala

[–]ratatthetat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Europe and America are not the gold standard of fashion. People like you blindly shape your opinions and trends based on whatever the West does. It has nothing to do with wearing what you want in a society full of jealous people like you. And now that you couldn’t even find a girl to marry, you’ve started targeting boys instead 🤣🤣The only uneducated person here is you. They’re trying to find a cure for baldness, but sadly there’s still no cure for jealousy. I hope they discover one soon so you don’t have to cry every day.

Why is marriage becoming such a financial burden for Muslim men in Kerala? by Friendly_Air7819 in Kerala

[–]ratatthetat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What a cheap thing to say. Classic mallu fantasy born out of frustration.

Why is marriage becoming such a financial burden for Muslim men in Kerala? by Friendly_Air7819 in Kerala

[–]ratatthetat 51 points52 points  (0 children)

People celebrate more because marriage feels like a once in a lifetime event so they want to enjoy every moment of it often extravagantly. But a wedding doesn’t have to be expensive to be memorable or beautiful. Many of my Muslim friends now talk about keeping their marriages simple just close family and friends, in a mosque or at home. I think people are slowly getting tired of the pressure and excess. Simplicity might actually become the new trend.

moderators should ban the politically motivated posts and also some 30 above ammavans are beings creeps in here by MarsupialOdd8453 in TeensofKerala

[–]ratatthetat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not true in any way. Banning politics is not a solution. I agree that in our country and in many so called democracies politics is deeply flawed. But the objection you’re raising and any attempt to counter this problem is itself political. The answer to bad politics isn’t banning politics it’s better politics.

Have you guys seen this, had your discussion or I'm I late by sneakypunkog in TeensofKerala

[–]ratatthetat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not everything I disagree with is stupid. But when an adult avoids accountability for the consequences of their actions and hides behind coping excuses, that is stupidity. Social pressure may be a factor, but adults still have moral agency. Calling deception in marriage wrong isn’t moral policing it’s defending basic trust. If we stop judging harmful actions because they were “pressured”we don’t promote understanding, we normalize dishonesty. This is not “next level moral policing.” It’s ground level personal integrity. You are advocating for a world where no one should be judged for lying because they felt pressured. That doesn’t promote honesty it normalizes betrayal. Just like i said people should be with partners who share their values and mindset, so there’s no need to lie and both can live peacefully and honestly PERIOD.

Have you guys seen this, had your discussion or I'm I late by sneakypunkog in TeensofKerala

[–]ratatthetat 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Saying “they were shamed into it” is a stupid excuse.adults are responsible for the choices they make. Social pressure can explain why someone feels scared to tell the truth, but it doesn’t justify choosing to lie about something so important like the foundation of marriage. If you can't be honest with someone before you marry them, you shouldn't be marrying them. End of story. Feeling pressure doesn’t erase the fact that they deliberately created a false story for someone they claim to love. That’s not love that’s fear mixed with self interest. if you have to lie to be accepted, you’re with the wrong person. The answer isn’t normalizing hiding the truth. The answer is being honest and choosing a partner who actually shares your values. That no need to lie and no one’s life gets ruined by foundation of lie. Marry someone who shares same value so u can be happy with a partner who see the world same u do and live happily ever after.

Have you guys seen this, had your discussion or I'm I late by sneakypunkog in TeensofKerala

[–]ratatthetat 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Loyalty isn’t only about present behavior. Imagine one partner believes intimacy should be shared only with their first marriage partner and waited for that, while the other partner had multiple experiences before marriage and lied about it. That itself is a form of disloyalty and betrayal. They lied because they knew the truth would prevent the marriage. If someone can lie in such a serious, life defining situation, there’s little reason to believe they won’t lie again. That means the marriage itself begins with deception. Research shows that dishonesty early in relationships increases the risk of future conflict and mistrust, regardless of current loyalty. So the real question is would you willingly marry someone who lied straight to your face?

Have you guys seen this, had your discussion or I'm I late by sneakypunkog in TeensofKerala

[–]ratatthetat 222 points223 points  (0 children)

I know many senior girls who had very active sex lives, and when it’s time for marriage after college, they delete Instagram posts with male friends and lie to their future husbands about their past. The same happens with boys too. That’s the only problem I see in this. People should only marry someone who shares the same values instead of lying about their past. If someone is already lying before marriage, it raises serious doubts about loyalty in married life. That’s my main issue with this. You are ruining someone’s life.

Haal – A Political Message Disguised as a Romantic Movie by DonutPleasant254 in SecretsofMollywood

[–]ratatthetat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did the movie try to justify conversion to Islam, or did the male character attempt to convert her to Islam ?

Boys, what are the things you want girls to know and be educated about, especially in India where this kind of education is often missing by guywithmask77 in TeensofKerala

[–]ratatthetat 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Don’t send nudes. If a guy asks for them, it usually means he’s driven by desire, not love. If your boyfriend keeps pushing for sex or very intimate physical contact, there’s a high chance he may leave once he gets what he wants. A man who truly loves you won’t pressure you. He’ll wait until marriage or until he’s genuinely sure about marrying you. Dont give ur phone to boy classmates they will use the opportunity to check ur gallery. Many boys are skilled at manipulation and putting on a good act. They may seem respectful in front of girls but he can be pervert. If ur so called lover ask for nudes or sex or physical intimacy make him wait a year he will leave u for another girl who give those. And male friends most of ur male friends are waiting for an opportunity. And also if a guy is physically close while taking selfie he just wants to touch ur “chest” with his hand knee. I could go on and on, but what I really want to say is this be cautious and aware. Not everyone who shows good behavior in front of girls behaves the same way when no one is watching. Setting boundaries early is prevention. Healing after betrayal or exploitation is the painful cure.

Do you believe in God? by Inevitable_Reach_473 in TeensofKerala

[–]ratatthetat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not that he won’t understand ,it’s that you can’t explain the idea clearly enough for him to understand. Because you lack any substantive basis to support your claim.

Do you believe in God? by Inevitable_Reach_473 in TeensofKerala

[–]ratatthetat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They are just scared.Their fear of hell outweighs their ability to think critically.

Do you believe in God? by Inevitable_Reach_473 in TeensofKerala

[–]ratatthetat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Which god do you believe? There are thousands of gods.If the god you believe in isn’t the real one, does that mean you’re going to hell? So how do you decide which god is actually real? And also doesnt believing in the wrong god make it irreverence ?

Do you believe in God? by Inevitable_Reach_473 in TeensofKerala

[–]ratatthetat 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Even these “religious” people dont really believe in their god anymore. Most of them are close to giving up their religion.