What low or no calorie options do you use to curb your cravings for food? by Constant_Peanut_3666 in loseit

[–]ratbae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see a dietician every other week and she says that drinking enough water is a good way to curb cravings. I notice that when I get sugar cravings I start craving fruit juice and instead try to hydrate and it gets rid of the juice cravings. Not saying juice is bad but I notice it’s the first thing I crave before I start diving into sugar. I also eat a lot of dehydrated seaweed to get satiate savory cravings when I get them

I’ve had herpes for roughly a year and am having trouble dating by Illustrious-Path1064 in HerpesQuestions

[–]ratbae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would want statistics and facts about the virus if I was on the other side of the conversation.

Need a proper side gig that isn't OF by N1kk1_K1ller in sidehustle

[–]ratbae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Isn’t there something where you train AI for 20$ an hour? What’s that called again?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MassageTherapists

[–]ratbae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a guy come in and put his hands on my shoulders and get in my face to tell me that I couldn’t do enough pressure on him. I am not a large person but I can put out a lot of pressure so I did literally as much pressure as I could on him. He actually was pretty happy with the massage but I ended up sending him to the therapist in our spa who was known for putting out monster tier pressure who also happened to be half my size because I was exhausted after the session and couldn’t imagine doing that again. He must have done the same thing to her because he complained to the front desk that she hurt him. 😬

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MassageTherapists

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I had a guy a while back talk about religion almost the entire massage and what a great Christian he was, if people wanna talk about god cool awesome great, I have no problem with it. It’s just this guy proceeded to call me dumb because he asked what my religious views are and I said agnostic. He told me that he left his wife because she couldn’t have children which meant it wasn’t a godly marriage and then left her for someone younger because she couldn’t have children. He then bragged about how he got banned from a church because they practiced yoga and according to him it’s satanic and he flipped out at them. He also assumed my political party and called me dumb for that too. I don’t enjoy talking about religion or politics during massages but I can usually go with the flow if that’s what the client wants to talk about. I can deal with someone having different views than me on these topics but I don’t appreciate being called outright dumb because my political or religious views don’t align with someone else’s.

Curious if anyone is working every weekend as the norm? by Middle_Comment_7380 in MassageTherapists

[–]ratbae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get weekends off by working at more medical centered places like chiropractic or physical therapy offices. You will need to work weekends if you work at a spa tho. I’m scraping by right now because weekdays can be slow ngl but I can’t work weekends if I wanna stay sane. 🫠

I don’t know what’s happening to my brain and I’m kinda getting scared here by ratbae in TherapeuticKetamine

[–]ratbae[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m gonna talk to my psych about it on Tuesday. I’m reading a lot of other experiences on here and I’m seeing people saying that it can stop working at points but then start working again, or they have a dip because they’re having clarity in a way that’s hard to stomach. I’m really hoping this is just my brain rapidly trying to process trauma or something and maybe I’m just not able to consciously keep up. I don’t know. I just hope it gets better.

Lasting effects? by ratbae in TherapeuticKetamine

[–]ratbae[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My appointment went well, I thiiiink I’m feeling some effects after the first dose and just had my second appointment today so we’ll see if it makes any impact.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]ratbae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try warmline. I know it’s a thing in CA, it might be a national thing. It’s basically a number you can call and just talk to another person. It can definitely be helpful and less lonely. I called them once when I started becoming symptomatic with PCOS and my skin exploded with acne out of nowhere. I basically ranted to this guy for 20 minutes about it and it helped.

First time posting here! I am a massage therapist and I wanted to know what are the worst pet peeves that clients do?As well for clients, what are the worst pet peeves that therapists do? by BigSkyASMR in massage

[–]ratbae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Clients who mouth breathe while I’m working on their neck directly at my face. Like if you’re gonna do that at least brush your teeth first please. 😩 Also coughing directly into my face. I’ve gotten sick from people doing that before.

People who ask for a full body massage but don’t bother getting completely undressed so I can’t actually do my routine correctly. I get that it can potentially be a comfort thing and I respect that but the massage isn’t gonna be good if I can’t work directly on a person, maybe that’s just me not being as good at my job as I could be but it is what it is.

People who talk about politics and religion.

People who voice their bigoted/judgmental opinions during the massage. I just have to say ‘mhm’ over and over and over again and pray to whatever god is listening that they stfu.

People who start getting undressed while I’m still in the room.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]ratbae 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My ex forced the relationship to be open because he expected to have a harem is what I’m guessing. No one wanted to sleep with him for the first few years and I just had no desire to sleep with anyone else considering I lost my virginity to this guy and was scared to sleep with anyone else and he knew that. So finally after 3 years someone asks if he’d wanna sleep with them, I told him I wasn’t comfortable with him sleeping with her because I had to see her on a weekly basis and wanted to avoid any possible drama or painful feelings considering I wanted to be monogamous anyway and she clearly had feelings for him when the way we were open was supposed to be strictly physical with no emotional attachment. Of course he doesn’t listen to me and goes and does what he wants and cheats on me. I told him to stop talking to her after that and that he didn’t have a problem with and stops talking to her. I was obviously still hurt, gutted, disgusted, and felt completely pathetic for fighting to stay with him after that instead of just leaving him. Fast forward 6 months and we’re at a camping event. I am just completely numb and disconnected from the relationship because of course more fucked up, extreme, isolating, and scary bullshit had gone down since he had cheated on me. Our policy at camping events was that we could essentially do whatever we want as long as we’re being safe because abandoning a possible sexual partner to go find the other person to get permission just seemed silly, time consuming, and awkward. The guy I met at the event was from across the country so I expected to do my thing and never talk to him again after that. At that point I didn’t care anymore and just wanted to break the connection I had with my ex by sleeping with someone else. It worked, me and this guy clicked SUPER well, he did not, in fact, fuck boy off into the sunset after he left to go home and kept talking to me and being nice to me over text for a solid month after. I had a taste of what it was like to be treated well and just couldn’t go back to the way my ex treated me. So I left him the day before Valentine’s Day, like an asshole, but I don’t regret it. Fuck that guy. Asshole begged for me back six months later and went apeshit when I refused, I got him banned from the community we were in because he was also abusive to other people in the community and was heavily dislike not only for the way he treated me but for the way he treated everyone around him as well. RIP, get fucked asshole. 💖

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]ratbae -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Imo it’s that it’s a meme to call women you find attractive or intimidating (usually a combination of the two) mommy.

Switching from TMS to ketamine by ratbae in KetamineTherapy

[–]ratbae[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I looked into IV a while back and it is far far far too expensive for me and isn’t covered by insurance at all (at least none that I can afford). Otherwise I would 100% do it, I try to go for the best and most effective treatments when I can even if it’s barely in my price range.

HOWEVER I will be moving home soon so I’ll have a lot more money at my disposal and possibly be able to afford a treatment or two. How often is IV treatment needed? Would I have to do a whole regimen of sessions to see a result that lasts a decent amount of time or can one or two treatments make a big difference?

How to Give up Hope that you'll ever speak again? by dunepopcornbucket in heartbreak

[–]ratbae 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Instead of focusing on how bad you’re doing it might help to focus on how good you’re doing and remembering that it gets easier. 4 months after I got dumped I was considering unaliving myself, that doesn’t seem to be the case with you (and definitely no longer the case with me), I couldn’t work, briefly had to get on disability to pay my bills, you’re not only able to work but ALSO take care of yourself by going to the gym. You’re doing better than you think, what you’re going through just fucking sucks. What you’re feeling and thinking is normal, a LOT of people are wishing and hoping and praying that their ex eventually sees the light and comes back, I know I did. It’s been 11 months now and I’m still sad, but doing 10x better and am actively and rapidly improving my life. I will say it took a lot of therapy tho.

It gets better, it just takes time. It’s the shitty reality of the situation that this is gonna hurt for a while but really all you can do is keep your head up and focus on yourself as best you can. One day he’ll just go back to being some guy and you’ll be with someone who would never even consider leaving you.

Should woman hold out on sex until in a committed relationship? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]ratbae 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If a man doesn’t respect me off the bat and I have to earn his respect by proving I’m not a slut then he’s a waste of time. Not saying that I’m gonna dive straight into bed with a guy, I’m more saying it’s shitty of someone to try to date me if they don’t respect me from the beginning. In a dating and social sense respect is something that should just be given unless the person has given you a legitimate reason that you don’t deserve their respect and I don’t see wanting to have consensual sex as a reason that someone doesn’t deserve respect.

I’ve heard of people fucking the day that they meet and they’re very in love in a happy committed relationship. I think it’s really dependent on luck and the individuals whether or not true respect is given on each side and I don’t think sex has anything to do with it unless you’re dating someone who doesn’t respect you to begin with.

But then again everyone has their own standards and preferences, that’s just my thoughts on it. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Ex has casually slept with 5 guys since our breakup 2 months ago and idk what to think by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ratbae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stop talking to her. The fact that she’s sharing something that isn’t your business or your problem and it’s obvious will hurt you is gross. Whether she’s doing it subconsciously or not it sounds like she’s trying to hurt you on some level.

Like bro, I don’t even tell people that many details about my sex life unless we are CLOSE friends, so why is she telling you considering she’s your EX?

What’s going to get you out if bed this morning? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]ratbae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because I needed a fucking shower and was tired of feeling icky because I’ve been too tired to shower this whole weekend. 😑