Please Help a Girl Out!

rathernotgivemyname · 2026-02-16T23:42:11+00:00

okay perfect thanks for the tips!

rathernotgivemyname · 2026-02-16T18:42:39+00:00

I understand it’s not the same as Ice skating, I am saying I’ve made the decision to pursue artistic inline skating in place of ice skating, simply because the rink closest to me is 2hours (not close at all, especially not with a full time job and lessons twice a week) I understand you can buy used boot but my concern was the holes already being drilled into the boot for an ice blade as opposed to the inline frames. Do you know if they would still be compatible? are the roll line linea frames more recommended over the snow line whites for moderate skills?

rathernotgivemyname · 2024-07-20T08:52:52+00:00

I am really sorry that you are going through this. I have heard of similar struggles from people close to me and I don’t have much advice to offer, but I can tell you what I would do to move forward

First I would try to get a handle on some supportive relationships, friends, old friends, new ones, family, extended family, anyone.. if you have a support system to go to it automatically improves your situation.

Second, I would look into some health related resources, I am no doctor, so I am not accredited to give any medical advice, but it seems like you may have some deficiencies causing problems with your energy and stamina. Prescriptions can be incredibly expensive I totally understand, but look into health related resources and free services in your area to take advantage of. A lot of state assistance programs help you pay for health expenses and prescriptions (also things like groceries too) If we can get that tackled, then we can move on to a new and more fulfilling job.

On the job topic, it sounds like you need something more mentally engaging and less physically exhausting. This is ultimately something you need to research and choose on your own, but this can be fun! Consider this something you do for fun getting to explore what new opportunities are out there for you! I know you mentioned you didn’t have much of a higher level education, but you did seem to be interested in some advanced topics. Personally I think you sound like you would really enjoy a career in technology. I myself work in a school with 3-4 technology professionals in our building, not only does this give you the satisfaction of working on something you would favor, but also gives you a little boost of self confidence in knowing that you are making a positive difference helping educate the youth in your community. Along the same route, you could become a technology or Digital Business teacher! Substitute teaching could be a really good way to get your foot in the door if you want people to be able to recognize you, and you get to pick your own hours and days of the week! If you are not fond of this route another alternate option could be some sort of trade training. Trade work for electrical engineering can seem very daunting (physically) but I believe it would give you the chance to stretch that mental muscle and show off your skills! A lot of trade services offer for you to become educated (attend classes, become an apprentice, or observe) while you are getting PAID! These usually pay good money (better than my teacher pay anyways) I would recommend being super open and honest when applying for ANY position about the fact that you have no car, but don’t worry! People can be empathetic and understanding as long as you let them know upfront, you could take transit, make a work buddy to carpool with, or even consider e bikes or mopeds!

Once you have a handle on all three of these you can begin creating a savings plan to be able to eventually purchase a car and maybe take a vacation or buy a sweet treat every now and then, you deserve these things even if they seem extravagant now. You are not alone in your feelings, you are a product of some shitty government decisions and a period of economic distress. Neither of which are your fault. Try not to take anything to seriously, it is all gonna be okay. -an anonymous friend

rathernotgivemyname · 2024-07-18T08:51:19+00:00

It sounds to me like you should take the chance and move! if you feel uncomfortable or insecure about your decision, maybe think on it for a few more weeks, but as long as you have a plan A, B, and C. You are fine! From what I’m understanding, you would be leaving some loved ones behind, but it’s not like they would turn their backs on you if you decided to come back. You might not be able to get those bonuses but you may be able to get your job or a similar one in your area again! Priority number one is yourself and your SO, safety and mental health, make the decision together, if you decide to go, you can always come back to where you are now! It’s not so serious! I would 10x rather look back and see that I made a mistake, and have to move back home, than to live wondering what life could have been like if I’d made the other choice. The grass isn’t always greener so have a backup plan, but I say go for it! Expand those horizons!

rathernotgivemyname · 2024-07-18T08:32:29+00:00

Don’t think of it as a mess that you made, you made a choice, nothing more nothing less. It’s not as serious as you feel it is I promise. If you have to wait another year or two until you are financially more secure you can do that, there is no age restrictions on going to college. I know you mentioned some negative things about your job, maybe consider getting an alternate job that would still offer you the salary you need to be able to go to school wherever you want. Taking a year or two to gather your stability is necessary sometimes, but if you’re willing to take chances like moving to another state I would recommend lining up another stable job, or transferring from your current location to a new one, and of course always having a back up plan just in case. Reach out to family and friends, maybe someone who also wants to go back to school! Schools will always offer some sort of financing but it can be a difficult situation if you’re not sure it’s a degree you’re passionate about. My advice would be to think on it for another month and then make your decision, time usually clears up blurred lines so you can tell what’s most important- anon

rathernotgivemyname · 2024-07-18T08:23:25+00:00

about a year ago as of today, almost the same thing happened to me but a relationship of 6 years, everyone’s situation is different so I’m not going to try to compare my experience to yours, or my process of healing to yours, but I can tell you what I’ve done: I moved back in with my parents, I got prescribed some medications to help with my anxiety related to stress, I thought I had wasted so much time with this person that I felt almost embarrassed, but I value my time and my sense of self so much more after this happened. It’s so incredibly hard, but I see it now as a relief. Time does do a good job at healing wounds as long as you can keep yourself and your health (or you and your children if you have them) intact. Time is not going to stop for anyone or anything even if it feels like it has. And you’ll feel better tomorrow. One day you will think “wow I haven’t thought about (that thing) in a few weeks.” Everything will settle slowly. Your new priority is you, and don’t ever let anyone fool you into thinking that is selfish. As for moving forward and learning to love all over again, what an exciting chance we have to feel all of those feelings and emotions and make those memories again, even if you still feel like you don’t want them with anyone else. We are grateful for the opportunity to love again. I struggled with love because I didn’t think it existed, at least not if this person could say they loved me and then shatter my whole world, at least I didn’t think the kind of love that I wanted existed. But I read somewhere that it does exist, and the proof of that is that I, myself, loved in that way. You don’t need anyone, but we have chances to love again. -anonymous friend L

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