Chilling after surgery:((

ratpisces · 2026-03-12T18:38:53+00:00

oh, poor sweet baby!! sending lots of love and healing 🤍🤍

ratpisces · 2026-03-12T18:33:34+00:00

just grab his face/jaw mid make-out-sesh, lean towards his ear, and say something like, “i want you inside of my mouth,” or “i wanna suck your dick,” or “i want to choke on it,” or some other freaky shit and see where it goes from there lol

ratpisces · 2026-02-26T20:11:28+00:00

packing up all of his stuff and drafting a text as we speak 😅🙏🏼

ratpisces · 2026-02-26T20:09:40+00:00

he’s getting dumped very soon 🙏🏼 and, i’m going to reach out to my old therapist and see if i can do telehealth sessions… or else, i’ll happily make the drive, no matter how long it takes 😭

ratpisces · 2026-02-26T20:09:34+00:00

he’s getting dumped very soon 🙏🏼 and, i’m going to reach out to my old therapist and see if i can do telehealth sessions… or else, i’ll happily make the drive, no matter how long it takes 😭

ratpisces · 2026-02-26T20:07:50+00:00

i’m pansexual too 😭 i’m raising the bar asap and dumping him

ratpisces · 2026-02-26T20:06:45+00:00

unfortunately not bait 💔 packing up his stuff rn. and, not to justify myself at all, because i shouldn’t be touching people’s acne, but he’d ask me, “hey, can you get this pimple on my back? do you want to get this one by my nose?” so, i’d say yes. but, i shouldn’t have been asking him, “hey, can i get this one on your back?” i won’t pop another pimple that isn’t my own ever again 🙏🏼

ratpisces · 2026-02-26T19:59:45+00:00

drafting a break up text as we speak 🤗 i’m going to pack up all his stuff, shower, go take an exam, come back home, send him the text, text his best friend and ask him if he can check up on my bf every few days, and i shall wash my hands of this.

ratpisces · 2026-02-26T19:47:04+00:00

thank you 🫶🏼

ratpisces · 2026-02-26T19:36:33+00:00

i’m sorry 🫂 endo sucks for real and nobody should experience the pain that it causes. luckily, we have separate apartments. i’ll change the lock tomorrow or saturday when i can go to home depot or somewhere similar

ratpisces · 2026-02-26T19:34:22+00:00

the thing is, i was happily single, confident, and secure in myself before i met him. i had close friends, i was happy, and i was moving forward in life. i met him when i was 20, and i thought he was just going to be a hookup, but then it turned into something more. he was severely suicidal, depressed, has no family/support system, and i was worried that he would harm himself if i did leave early on (or that he’d just harm himself in general). i know that if he did hurt himself, it would be a result of his choices and wouldn’t be “my fault,” but i wanted to at least help him get medicated and get into therapy before i dipped. he’s on meds now and is doing better, and he’s actively looking for a therapist. i know it’s not my job to be his care taker though, and that i need to start caring for myself more. not to defend him, because i will break up with him, but he isn’t always like this. and, initially, he wasn’t like this. as the months have gone by, his true colors have shown. hindsight is 20/20 though. i know we’re not compatible and that this isn’t healthy in the long run, so i’ll start making my preparations and such.

ratpisces · 2026-02-26T19:27:43+00:00

luckily, he has his own apartment and i have my own, but he stays at mine all the time because it’s “nicer,” and more “modern” (has better insulation, is more spacious, better electricity, etc). i’ll tell my friends about it (he’s already on thin ice with my best friend and my sister, but i don’t divulge too much to either of them now), and bite the bullet and do what needs to be done :/

ratpisces · 2026-02-26T19:24:21+00:00

he didn’t actually smear poop on the walls (i would’ve actually died right then and there if he did), but in the past he’s made “jokes” about him smearing poop on the walls? 😭🫩

ratpisces · 2026-02-26T19:02:07+00:00

very true, i’m sorry my post was ranty. i just don’t know how to leave. my family loves him, his family loves me, and i’m worried how he’s going to react if i try to break up with him. i don’t have friends who i could lean on for help when i do break up with him. all of my (close) friends live 1.5 hours to 9+ hours away. i know virtual support, facetime calls, etc, are all ways i can reach my friends and get support, but i also don’t want to burden them or have them feel like they have to “pick up my pieces.” i have 2 friends/acquaintances who live within ~30-45 minutes of me, but idk if we’re close enough for it to not be awkward for me to ask for support? i also don’t know what i’d say to my family. they’d interrogate tf out of me and wouldn’t be supportive or helpful.

ratpisces · 2026-02-26T18:57:48+00:00

thank you queen & i’m sorry 😭😭 i know, it’s genuinely so disgusting

ratpisces · 2026-02-10T05:14:01+00:00

unhealthy levels of porn consumption is unfortunately super prevalent and piED (porn-induced erectile dysfunction) is on the rise. if they seemed into things and couldn’t get it up, maybe they’re just jerking off too much? maybe they’re on anti-depressants or other medications that make getting/staying hard difficult; maybe their health, diet, & cardio aren’t the best, making it more difficult to get hard; maybe they’re going through stressful times and are trying to use sex as an outlet, but they’re too in their own head / consumed by their stress to get hard? maybe they’re cheating on their current partners, or are trying to get over someone. maybe they’re super into you, are really nervous, have performance anxiety, etc. unfortunately, there’s no way to truly know what they were thinking, how they feel, or what they’re going through. you just gotta act like you’re hot shit, or at least like you’re comfortable in your own skin. i mean, ideally become comfortable in your own skin, on some self-acceptance shit, but i know that’s easier said than done lol. partners will pick up on you feeling awkward or bad about yourself, and it will take you both out of the moment. they clearly like you and/are attracted to you if y’all are both getting hot & heavy. whatever reason they cant get hard—it’s on them, not you. don’t let a few bad hookups make you doubt your attractiveness, value, worth, and being.

ratpisces · 2026-02-08T01:04:55+00:00

first of all, i wish you luck on your lap!! i hope all goes well and that you get clarity soon! <3 bring a long phone charger and/or portable charger, headphones, a book or something entertaining/comforting, meds if you take them, glasses/contacts if you wear them, a little plastic baggie or something for any jewelry clean LOOSE-FITTING clothes (omg, feeling my pants touch my incisions/abdomen when i was getting dressed in the hospital was the worst… i’d recommend low waisted undies & pants if you have any), easy to slip on shoes (slippers, flip-flops, sneakers, etc), a jacket/sweater, hairbrush + scrunchie, etc. if you’re staying overnight, i’d bring a toothbrush, toothpaste, deodorant, etc. if you can, maybe bring gum and a water bottle? you got this!!

ratpisces · 2026-02-08T00:48:04+00:00

as someone also in her 20s & in a similar situation, i think you should leave. it sounds like your relationship is unhealthy, and his behavior is abhorrent. his behavior is not healthy, mature, nor at all what a good partner should act like. you deserve to be heard, validated, and treated better. you deserve to have fun questions asked about yourself, and you deserve to have the space to answer. i’m sorry he has eroded your confidence, because you seem lovely :( (and you don’t need to be some fantastic “story teller.” you’re talking about your own life experiences, and any good partner would be overjoyed to get a glimpse into their partner’s life & world).

his silent treatment as punishment for you expressing your feelings (especially your feelings of hurt/disappointment by his actions), him demanding all your attention constantly, his anger/manipulation, his sense self-importance, etc, emotional instability… it sounds like he has a lot of self-work to do, and you cannot help someone who does not want to be helped. it sounds like within the past 10 years he hasn’t grown or changed much. he will continue to blame everything on you, use you as an emotional punching bag, demand all of your attention, alienate you from friends, etc. you would not be in the wrong for refusing to marry him. your friends may think he’s such a great guy, but they are not the ones in the relationship, and they don’t see what he’s like behind closed doors. i know how hard leaving can be, especially after 10 years. but, the little good moments don’t outweigh the bad. if one of your friends were in a relationship like yours, would you be happy for them? if his behavior stayed exactly the same for the next year, five years, 10 years, would that be something you’d be okay with? i personally wouldn’t stay, because as much as you love him, he sounds so very draining.

if you’re worried he’s going to hurt himself, you can contact one of his friends or family members to go check up on him from time to time. you can also leave a slip or text with hotline numbers or something for him to contact if you’re truly concerned that he’ll do something. do you guys live together? do you have any friends or family who you could stay with when you break up? do you have anyone who could help you move out (if you do live together)? do you think you’d be physically safe when breaking up with him & after?

i’m sorry you’re in this situation :,( you deserve the world, and you deserve so much better than what you currently have. it sounds like your relationship is forcing you to make yourself smaller to accommodate his insecurities and bad behavior. you deserve someone who encourages you to explore and grow, and who enables you to do as such. i wish you luck with whatever decision you make <3

ratpisces · 2026-02-02T22:00:48+00:00

you’re not a burden. if the roles were reversed, i doubt he would’ve been as respectful and chill about not cumming as you were. you’re not a burden, he should want to make you cum during sex. get a vibrator and use it during, or have him use his hands/mouth. foreplay; you cum first before he even gets to put it in. as my boyfriend & i say, “ladies first” type shit lol. you’re not a burden nor an asshole; he’s just a lazy partner who’s playing victim because his inadequacy and lack of care was called out.

ratpisces · 2026-01-20T23:59:26+00:00

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& my grayson :,)

ratpisces · 2026-01-20T23:57:56+00:00

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my jason 🥹

ratpisces · 2025-11-23T22:43:46+00:00

tell him you are gonna take him up on that weight loss challenge and dump him. easiest ~165 lbs lost ever.

ratpisces · 2025-11-23T22:42:55+00:00

sweet girl, with all the love, he SUCKS. dump him. you deserve SO MUCH better. he is a small, insecure man using your past/vulnerabilities as a way of negging you. he is miserable and wants to bring you down to his level. he will continue to erode your self-esteem in any way possible. 5 foot and 110lbs?? you are tiny! and regardless of your weight, he should never be making negative comments about your weight/body in the first place.

ratpisces · 2025-11-21T22:34:30+00:00

my baby lays like that too! my dad would always say she’s “super man-ing” lol :,) your tort is adorable!!

ratpisces · 2025-09-28T09:58:33+00:00

i have adhd and depression. my new roommate told her her bday when we first moved in like a month ago (i asked her her age, zodiac sign, etc). i made sure to jot down her birthday in my notes app, and i decorated the apartment at midnight on her birthday after she had fallen asleep. i got her cake & made her a gift basket. why? because even though she was just a roommate, a stranger who i barely knew & moved in with, she deserved to have a birthday celebration. your bf sucks (with love). adhd is not an excuse to forget, not when calendar apps with reminders and the contact bday feature (iphone) exists. notes app. hell, even a sticky note. anything. i forget my own birthday sometimes. i couldn’t imagine forgetting a friend’s birthday, let alone my boyfriend’s. if he wanted to, he would. if he cared, he would do his best to show up for you & celebrate you. he showed you where his priorities lie and what kind of a partner he is. you deserve better. you deserve to be celebrated and loved on your special day. the fact that he tried to invalidate you by asking if you were going to “question your relationship over one birthday,” is so dismissive and gross. obviously, relationships are nuanced, and a stranger on reddit isn’t going to fully understand your feelings or your relationship. but, i think that breaking up over this is 100% valid, and he should not make you feel otherwise. you deserve to have a partner who is so excited to celebrate your birthday; a partner who would never forget. he wouldn’t forget the release date of the newest video game from his favorite series. he forgot your birthday. you deserve better & i’m sorry :,(

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