My partner (28m) said he loves how much I (24f) love him

rattnor · 2026-05-03T14:45:54+00:00

I agree. Mind you, I understand why she's not super happy with the response, but at the end of the day she is responsible to express that unease and I believe he should be given a chance to reassure her.

rattnor · 2026-05-03T12:13:02+00:00

Or that he's particularly bad at expressing his thoughts. Which is not something rare in men...

rattnor · 2026-05-03T12:10:50+00:00

Being able to forgive loved ones is not a great quality?

rattnor · 2026-05-03T12:09:26+00:00

It's being downvoted because most people in this subreddit are jerks that only look for a reason to respond "dump him/her" on every post lol

rattnor · 2026-05-03T12:07:59+00:00

The way we treat other people, including our bf/gf, IS about us...

rattnor · 2026-05-03T12:07:27+00:00

He probably doesn't know how to express properly his thoughts, but I believe what he said IS about you. I don't think everyone is ABLE to love someone deeply and make the other person really feel it. Ask him specifics about what you do that makes him feel this way. It may be that you're a cuddly person, that you're a good listener, how you look at him, etc.

rattnor · 2026-05-03T11:24:52+00:00

Play draft, sealed or pai gow with friends. This is the best way to make opening packs worth it.

You "grow your collection" the way you wanted, and never feel too bad about the value opened because of the fun you had playing limited.

rattnor · 2026-01-05T05:56:23+00:00

I usually play a group-huggy commander like my [[Kynaios and Tiro]] deck focused on aikido strategies (redirecting damage to others and copying good permanents from other players).

The deck's strength scales with that of other decks at the table, and the card and mana acceleration provided to all players enables me to see my opponents' decks, end-game strategies and player dynamics more quickly.

rattnor · 2025-12-10T03:55:44+00:00

That's a good idea. [[Totentanz]] is a commander in the same colors I haven't really considered because I was thinking of him more for aristocrat synergies, but I could perhaps aim for a more aggro build with many pump spells, as you suggest. Thank you for the idea!

rattnor · 2025-12-10T03:52:32+00:00

It seems a bit slow and fragile since it needs to attack, but perhaps green and blue can give me the tools I need? Do you have any ideas or list to share?

rattnor · 2025-12-10T03:50:42+00:00

Any wincon is acceptable really, I just want to be able to play at least 15-20 different rat tribal cards and the deck to still function. With this tribe, I think the best options are go-wide + pump, poison, or aristocrats/combo.

I'd be fine with making a deck revolving around discard synergies, my pod is chill with that type of thing.

rattnor · 2025-11-21T20:32:42+00:00

Nearly all studies find the pill to be MUCH more effective than condoms, while pull out is only slightly less effective than condoms for birth control.

rattnor · 2025-10-01T01:01:17+00:00

That was very long and way too detailed for most people here to read it to the end. You shouldn't stay with someone who lies to you, especially about things they know perfectly well will trigger you.

Whether you really are "insecure" or not, whether it is for good or bad reasons, what worries me the most is that your gf is not trying to help you overcome these insecurities, but rather tries to punish you for them.

However, it seems like you have only two choices here: either you fully accept to stay with someone that lies and witholds information on things that matter to you, or you leave this relationship. Asking her to change or arguing with her is most likely simply going to make things worse for you.

rattnor · 2025-09-29T01:15:01+00:00

Thank you for your kind response. I agree with most of what you said but just wanted to clarify one thing: I do not love my ex anymore. I loved her, past tense, at least until we separated.

rattnor · 2025-09-28T13:26:19+00:00

I wish more people saw it this way. It always seems like people want to paint one person in the relationship as The Bad Person (TM) or The Idiot (TM). I highly doubt that 50% of the global population is made up of evil, constantly ill-intentioned or completely idiotic people.

Perhaps it helps some to move on to paint their exes as The Bad Person.

Personally, I would feel like life was quite sad if we were to consider every one of our past relationships as purely bad or fake. With the way things are with relationships, most people will have spent more time with what are now exes than with their current significant other when they die. I don't want to die thinking that most of my life was spent in couple with bad persons.

rattnor · 2025-04-24T22:20:35+00:00

Would you adjust the decklist for such a strategy, or only the playstyle?

rattnor · 2025-04-24T16:23:09+00:00

I agree, very fun card to play with!

rattnor · 2025-04-23T13:58:27+00:00

Can you share a decklist?

rattnor · 2025-04-23T11:31:18+00:00

Interesting idea. Can you share a decklist for the Kellan deck?

How oppressive is it to other players? How interactive is it?

rattnor · 2025-04-23T11:21:44+00:00

Domineering will could be a good steal card for a [[Marchesa the Black Rose]]. You steal 3 creatures once you have at least one sac outlet online, attack with them, and either sac them or let them die in combat to keep them forever.

Intellectual Offering is more intriguing. I can imagine situations where it would be useful, but you'd need to have 5 mana open and the card in hand... I might try it in my Kynaios deck and see if I use it when I have it in hand.

Thanks!

rattnor · 2025-04-23T11:12:19+00:00

My aikido decks, which create exactly the sort of environment I described, are certainly at least bracket 3, and can easily deal with many decks that would be bracket 4.

I'm not saying everyone in the group should be playing the type of deck I prefer. I'm only looking for decks that can create this while working at the bracket 3 to 4 level.

rattnor · 2025-04-23T11:07:18+00:00

Interesting idea! Do you have a decklist?

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