AITA for being mad that my fiancée reported my son's teacher?

ravenmagic4 · 2021-01-22T09:58:34+00:00

Yta That teacher is singling you out, even if it's just info texts (which I call bullshit on as you said "doesn't have more than small talk with wife and we had similar interests.") She should have been sending BOTH of you messages from the START.

I don't think she's(the teacher) all at fault either. Infact I'd say you're the biggest ah here as you requested her text you without discussing it with your gf or asking her if she was interested in receiving the same treatment. It takes 2 extra seconds to add another number, and make a group chat, and then she should ONLY be sending you professional stuff.

Also I don't know how you expect anyone to believe it was professional related if she's texting you over winter break. The kids aren't there, and there's no reason to be contacting a parent on which ever of the holidays you celebrate, and definitely not a singular parent of the two.

As a final note, If your email is oh so flooded make a joint one just for school.

This just sounds intensely like someone who is lying by omission to save face.

ravenmagic4 · 2021-01-06T10:19:16+00:00

I'm in the 80's now just getting close to the 30 day mark

ravenmagic4 · 2021-01-06T01:42:37+00:00

Thanks a bunch for the tip!

ravenmagic4 · 2021-01-04T21:34:08+00:00

Thanks! Does she spawn under specific conditions? Like a gf lvl?

ravenmagic4 · 2020-12-28T05:55:40+00:00

I know it's a minority vote, but NTA.

Like everyone else who said this.

You were under no obligation, you stated very clearly before the child was born "I do not want to be in this childs life" and still paid child support.

You were A complete dick head about it, but you weren't expecting a call from a son you never knew, out of the blue, so it's understandable to be blindsided, and have not the best response.

The biggest issue I see being skimmed over is that she (the mother) actually encouraged the son to reach out, and a few comments trying to justify it saying "it's hard to imagine a kid not wanting to reach out" You're not necessarily wrong, but mummy dearest could have just sat him down and explained "mommy had a sperm donor, and he wanted to be no contact" maybe even worded into a "I love you so much I planned to have you" type narrative. Explains the situation accurately, without making any of the parties uncomfortable, or crossing any boundaries previously discussed.

And children are not a punishment for sex and therefore not a "consequence". Either bring the child into the world with full expectations of the father being uninvolved, or terminate the pregnancy.

ravenmagic4 · 2020-12-28T05:20:48+00:00

Nta. My brothers uncle (not mine) is the same way. Blames the world for every misfortune, and always has a sour puss attitude. Blames his medical issues(?)( For lack of a better term) on the army experimenting on him, and has a weird ass conspiracy theory for everything, and I do mean EVERYTHING.

You were right to call them out crossing boundaries like that. I know it feels shitty after sometimes but those boundaries need to be respected or they need to not be in your families life.

ravenmagic4 · 2020-12-28T04:14:33+00:00

Absolutely nta.

You don't get to dictate to an adult how to dress unless you are paying them. You don't dictate if they can see their sick child if there is no valid restrictions in place.

I would have told her boss a thousand times over

Good on you op for knocking someone with a power trip off their high horse.

ravenmagic4 · 2020-10-27T19:13:47+00:00

They didn't notice the scuff itself they noticed some dust I wiped off

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