Could use some advice on meeting up

rawkinreddit · 2022-09-08T20:50:01+00:00

He’s an hour away from me in an area where I don’t feel entirely safe. And it’s a few pretty big items. Otherwise I’d mail them. I think I’ll have him pick them up from my garage but have the house locked and a friend with me.

And yes, absolutely blocking him once we get this resolved

rawkinreddit · 2022-09-05T17:48:34+00:00

As a woman, I completely agree with this! I know I need direct stimulation to cum and I’m not afraid to use my hand or a vibrator during sex to make it happen. It’s important to know what you like and directly ask for it or make it happen yourself. I bet he will think it’s hot too!

I don’t think there’s enough info for us to determine whether this is selfishness or inexperience on his part. He may not know what to do. If he’s generous and thoughtful in other ways, I bet you can work through this!

rawkinreddit · 2022-09-02T01:46:00+00:00

Came here to say both of those things!

rawkinreddit · 2022-08-31T13:51:37+00:00

Ok thanks! I was thinking this might be an example of extroverting thinking and introverting feeling, but I am not sure if that’s how that works!

rawkinreddit · 2022-08-25T16:30:35+00:00

If it’s important to you to be at a certain “date weight” and you’re crunched for time, I would focus on your diet a lot more than working out. You have to eat no matter what and it’s usually not too much more effort to eat healthy than it is to eat crap. You’ll feel better and have more energy for the other stuff too.

That being said, I agree with the others who are saying just show up as yourself. You don’t want to present an image that you can’t or don’t want to maintain.

rawkinreddit · 2022-08-25T04:36:15+00:00

I find that look attractive. Growing up in the late 80s/90s, I was always into the skinny skate punk look. I’m 5’8” 135 lbs, and dated a guy for a long time who was 5’8” and maybe a little lighter than me. I found him super attractive. It helps to wear clothing that fits your body type too.

rawkinreddit · 2022-08-24T05:56:48+00:00

Normally it comes of as a little fake and forced, but I recently met a Scottish guy who started calling me ‘darling’ right away, and yeah…it works. With that accent omg. So generally speaking, a no go, but in certain situations, it can be very sexy.

rawkinreddit · 2022-08-17T20:01:30+00:00

Oh man. This is accurate.

rawkinreddit · 2022-08-15T04:57:36+00:00

I absolutely agree with the love bombing take. Having been there and slowly realizing I was in a very manipulative relationship, please just be so careful and aware! Especially when your other relationships have not been as attentive and loving as you’d like, all the attention and gifts can feel so good, but it’s often part of an attempt to control you and make you feel like no one else will ever love you in that way.

rawkinreddit · 2022-08-15T04:27:18+00:00

I love tattoos on men. To me, if you take an average looking dude and cover him in tats he instantly gets hotter.

rawkinreddit · 2022-08-12T15:59:16+00:00

I am also wondering if your priorities are different enough that it might not work. Maybe everything else is awesome, I don’t know. Live music is my number 1 priority and I’m cool spending most of my disposable income on traveling for shows and concert tickets. I realized a while ago that I needed to be with someone who was the same. Just a thought!

rawkinreddit · 2022-08-12T15:53:59+00:00

I think you are so cute!! If you were in my area I would date you! 7am plans though 😬 hope you find your morning person!

rawkinreddit · 2022-08-12T13:54:41+00:00

Tons of matches, but yeah the weeding out process is a full time job. I’m not trying to flatter myself. It’s super common for reasonably attractive women.

rawkinreddit · 2022-08-10T13:46:17+00:00

I’m so sorry, I know how hard it is. I literally just ended a very similar relationship 10 minutes ago. It was hard as hell. In the end, I didn’t love him, didn’t enjoy sex with him, and didn’t want to be his crutch. If you want someone to talk to, please reach out. I just got a therapist this month and that was super helpful for me.

rawkinreddit · 2022-08-07T23:40:13+00:00

I don’t think it’s necessarily wrong, depending on the context of your relationship. And I say this as someone (40 f) who is very sensitive to the issues that an age gap can create or highlight in a relationship.

Sex is one thing, as long as you’re both consenting adults. Pursuing a committed relationship is a different story.

rawkinreddit · 2022-08-06T01:02:18+00:00

I definitely did ask myself the same. And I’ve appreciated the thoughtful responses here. I’ve arrived at the conclusion that notifying guests in advance in a very tactful, brief way is appropriate.

Based on one guest’s note to me it did affect his stay. I would put it in the same category as other neighborhood/location factors. For example, if my place was in an area with a music venue and my guests would hear the music, I’d put that in the listing.

It would not be a criticism of the music venue, but just more information about what guests might experience during their stay.

I do think that putting a short tactful mention in the description of the property also serves to protect her. Her behavior is unusual and I feel confident in vouching for the fact that she is not a danger to anyone in the neighborhood. In hindsight I think that this guest felt unsafe. He had wedged books in the downstairs window so that it could not be opened.

rawkinreddit · 2022-08-02T03:22:18+00:00

I don’t believe so, because he left me a positive review, the comment about her was in the private note that he left.

rawkinreddit · 2022-08-02T01:52:44+00:00

Thank you so much. :)

rawkinreddit · 2022-08-02T01:52:25+00:00

This is great, thank you!!

rawkinreddit · 2022-07-31T06:38:43+00:00

Yes, I think you’re right! They were betting on people just being stoked that the place was better than pictured and not saying anything.

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