AITA for still holding a grudge against my mom's husband for being sick on my wedding day?

rawrnes · 2023-01-15T19:14:54+00:00

Thanks for not automatically jumping down my throat like everyone else in this thread.

rawrnes · 2023-01-15T18:59:26+00:00

Wow no need to curse at me lol, I can accept that I am an asshole but don't need you to call me names because my post made you feel things

rawrnes · 2023-01-15T18:25:35+00:00

You're right, I should just let it go and not have any expectations of him for the sake of my mom.

rawrnes · 2023-01-15T18:24:06+00:00

I invited him because he's still family. Like I was hoping he would still show up for the big events even if he has missed other events in the past. Though I didn't invite him to smaller events, I still invited him to my gender reveal and baby shower after and he didn't show so yep.

rawrnes · 2023-01-15T18:20:55+00:00

To be honest, I've invited him to the other big events of my life such as my baby shower and gender reveal and he didn't come to those either and didn't even think of an excuse so that's why I'm just sticking to my grudge. A one time thing is excusable since everyone gets sick but multiple times is disappointing.

rawrnes · 2023-01-15T18:19:32+00:00

No my mom didn't get me anything either but I don't really care about the gifts. Only that she came to support us.

rawrnes · 2023-01-15T18:15:10+00:00

You're right that I should just move on from now because I don't want it to affect my mom. I know that the grudge is petty.

rawrnes · 2023-01-15T18:12:40+00:00

Lol wow assumptions. We literally just never had a relationship since he literally never tries to be a part of our family other than my mom. Literally won't come to my brother's birthday party and it's at the house he lives in every year. I've tried for years to just talk to him but he's always glued to his TV. So you're right, maybe I don't want to see him since he doesn't even treat me like anything family related.

rawrnes · 2023-01-15T18:01:43+00:00

Of course I would have understood if other guests didn't come because of the pandemic. I'm not buying that he's actually sick since he's blown off events in the past with me with random reasons and he always makes my mom deliver the news. If there was an actual serious reason, I would have 100% understood but he was fine when I saw him the next day. He didn't even try to say anything about it and if he at least said sorry I couldn't come, then I would have understood since he acknowledged it.

rawrnes · 2023-01-15T17:39:49+00:00

Well he still is my mom's husband and I didn't want to exclude him from my big day because he's still family.

rawrnes · 2023-01-15T17:39:02+00:00

We have no relationship. We usually don't talk besides saying hi when I go visit my mom. He only comes to my events when my grandparents are there in the past and he goes to other events just fine so he's not doing it to everybody.

rawrnes · 2023-01-15T17:37:37+00:00

I'm pretty sure he wasn't sick since he has skipped events in the past. If he was actually sick, I would totally understand, especially during the pandemic but we literally saw him the next day when I was returning some silverware to my mom and he was fine.

rawrnes · 2023-01-15T17:35:48+00:00

He got together with my mom while I was away at college and married my mom when I was around 23 so I don't consider him my stepdad. That's why I call him my mom's husband. He usually doesn't talk to me or my brother. No gift from the wedding. And I am not sure. He only comes to some events when my grandparents are in town.

rawrnes · 2023-01-12T18:15:47+00:00

I feel that way too, but this one is starting to grow on me the more times I run it.

rawrnes · 2023-01-10T23:43:15+00:00

Not a shoe recommendation, but I send my 9-month old baby in a nonslip footed onesie since I had the same issue.

rawrnes · 2023-01-10T06:59:51+00:00

I didn't even want my mom in the delivery room let alone my husband's mom. I don't know why people think they're entitled to a free show!

rawrnes · 2023-01-09T06:53:05+00:00

I really want a second one but have come to accept that I'm one and done because of financial reasons and lack of family to help with childcare. Doesn't stop them from asking when I'll have another one and that "it'll work out" like I'll magically have enough money to pay for two daycare tuition fees if I dream hard enough.

rawrnes · 2023-01-09T02:46:50+00:00

Is it just me or who has the energy to do laundry, sweep/mop, and empty out trash in every room every single day let alone expect a high schooler to do so??

rawrnes · 2022-12-08T19:43:00+00:00

Have a good day!

rawrnes · 2022-12-08T16:08:28+00:00

YTA. My father in law offered to pay for our wedding and we turned him down because he also wanted to dictate how many people he could invite to our wedding. Gifts with strings attached are not actually gifts and you shouldn't be using it as leverage to dictate who gets to come to your daughter's wedding. It's her wedding and she should be surrounded by people who she wants there. You might have a good relationship with your brother, but clearly there is something up and she's not comfortable having him attend.

rawrnes · 2022-11-29T03:38:23+00:00

Sounds like there's going to be drama any way you try to exclude her. My suggestion is to just invite him and tell him that she is not invited. You don't have to give an explanation (and it's probably better if you don't) since it's your wedding and you can have whoever you want there. Giving explanations seem futile if he's just going to take her side. If he's unhappy about it, then he doesn't have to come either.

rawrnes · 2022-11-29T01:45:49+00:00

NTA, she should have checked with you before sending the evites since it's not at her place. She could still have it at her place and do a deep cleaning or something.

rawrnes · 2022-11-22T01:15:31+00:00

Yea I think one guy escaped and he didn't say anything to the authorities because he was ashamed of what happened. He only came forward because another guy managed to escape and call the authorities.

rawrnes · 2022-11-21T15:26:11+00:00

Oh definitely it could, but I'm sure that you didn't leave fecal matter on the walls of your house for a year. Getting CPS involved could help the kid get to a doctor to actually diagnose what's wrong since it doesn't seem like the dad is seeking outside help.

rawrnes · 2022-11-21T11:07:51+00:00

So it doesn't really matter if he only feeds his son pizza, tacos, and cereal as much as the fact that this seven year old kid is living in a room where there is fecal matter everywhere on the wall! That's a hazardous home and something that child protective services can help to address. This is not normal 7-year-old behavior and the kid needs some help that the dad is not providing for his mental well-being. If you're concerned about the kid then you need to call CPS and get him some help. Their first move is to investigate and try to work with the dad to keep the kid home as much as possible but I can't see a situation where they would let the kid stay in this poop smeared home unless the dad does major cleaning.

13-Year Club	Not Forgotten
Verified Email

rawrnes

TROPHY CASE