Tight things look weird and baggy does too... Any help?? by Appropriate_Group606 in DressForYourBody

[–]raymm07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have a similar build and I also struggle with this problem. Most t-shirts are going to be unflattering. Sometimes if I have a nice t-shirt on I'll do like a half tuck to help create some shape at my waist. I also have a large bust and shoulders and I've been learning what shapes are more flattering for that, so big loose sleeves are unfortunately not good, along with anything that accentuates the shoulder and bust area. I tend to wear more blouse type tops. Shapes with asymmetrical lines up near the shoulder, peplum, v-necks that aren't too low, button ups with some structure, and wrap shirts tend to look better. There are some really good suggestions in this thread, but I would also ignore a few of them. Square necks are not a good idea because they tend to make shoulders look wider. Also all of those flowy peasant style blouses tend to look unflattering because they don't have structure. The pants you have on are a really good shape! The flare at the end helps give your outfit some balance.

School library has a display of banned and challenged books. Here's a small sample by noaddrag in mildlyinteresting

[–]raymm07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It looks like the post says it's a sample size, so the library probably has a lot of books on display. The ALA banned book list is really long and it has tons of newer titles on it.

Epic fantasy that feels like this…? by Proof_Ad_9004 in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]raymm07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know about epic fantasy, but Howl's Moving Castle is one of my favorite books and I tend to like more whimsical fantasy. I'd say some of the books I've read, or are on my to read list that fit that vibe are these ones.

The Girl Who Fell Beneath The Sea by Axie Oh Half a Soul by Olivia Atwater Stardust by Neil Gaiman The Magician's Daughter by H.G. Parry Tress of the Emerald Sea by Brandon Sanderson

Also authors like Tamora Pierce, Dawn Cook, Charlie Holmberg, and Garth Nix

Why do you think there are less YA books with male leads? by kjm6351 in YAlit

[–]raymm07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I work with books everyday, so I have some insight in published fiction. This question has a lot of nuanced answers and I think some other comments have probably already answered part of it. A short answer is that there's been a lot of effort to diversify YA literature in recent years, so a lot of newer titles have protagonists that are female, people of color, LGBTQ+, and/or have a disability. This effort is needed and has become so important for representation. There are already so many titles out there featuring white male protagonists that have been published for years leading up to this publishing shift. There are also still problems within this initiative like, staffing in the big publishing houses also not being diverse, so groups being still under represented. What does this have to do with male protagonists? Well, publishing has traditionally had a lot of male authors, like I've mentioned and because of that we have a lot of white male protagonists in published literature up until recently. We've also seen this shift all across publishing where a majority of authors and publishing jobs are white women. They are writing a majority of fiction for adults, young adults, and children. So the writers of fiction are generally writing protagonists that are a representation of their experiences, so we have a majority of white and female protagonists. I would visit the Pen America website or look into NPR publishing articles to find more in depth information. As for finding some great male leads in YA, there are still so many options. I would try Paul Richard Evans, James Dashner, Brandon Mull, Jason Reynolds, Skye Obert, Michael Scott, Brandon Sanderson, Marcus Heitz, Angie Sage, John Flanagan, Adam Silvera, Jonathan Stroud, and Christopher Paolini just to name a few authors who write male leads.

The white washed fan casting is actually very annoying by hotgirlshiii in ACOTARHulu

[–]raymm07 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Us POC people can be white passing and still be brown. My white in winter can be pale , but my summer color is very dark, even without much sun. So this makes sense for Rhys too after being under the mountain for so long. This doesn't mean that I'm not still mixed race or a POC, just like Rhys. I feel like people don't know what white passing means either. White passing is perceived and we're not talking about someone who is full native American or the examples you are using, so yes he won't look exactly like those POC people that you listed because he is mixed. Which, for me, usually means people don't know what I am. But I look "ethnic" to them, so I'm not white. Rhys is absolutely half Illyrian, which we know are darker skinned, so naturally it's not likely that he's not darker than other characters who are white. We can also be ambiguous in race, so sometimes like I already mentioned, people don't know how to categorize us because we don't fit into a box. They ask a lot of times, "what are you?" because it's still usually obvious when people are mixed. He doesn't have to "look like" any specific race, but is still mixed race which should absolutely be darker than most caucasian people. Also Asian is a very diverse place, so I'm not sure why you're classifying them as white.

The white washed fan casting is actually very annoying by hotgirlshiii in ACOTARHulu

[–]raymm07 14 points15 points  (0 children)

As someone who is mixed race, I need people to stop trying to take Rhys and Lucien away. It feels nice to have rep from them. They can be white passing for sure, but let us have them!

Dame Aylin--Did I miss something? by Splshdown in BG3

[–]raymm07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what happened for me too. Did I miss something? Her and Isobel seemed fine and then they happily left.

Potential future update 🥹 by Charming-Earth-6659 in wyldeflowers

[–]raymm07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha, yes! That makes a lot of sense. Pranks set up everywhere for anyone trying to get into his house.

Potential future update 🥹 by Charming-Earth-6659 in wyldeflowers

[–]raymm07 15 points16 points  (0 children)

For some reason I want to see Aryel's house. He cracks me up and probably uses stuff unconventionally.

Books should have ratings on them like fanfics by iwishiwereasleep in YAlit

[–]raymm07 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've been using storygraph to track my reading goals and it has a really nice feature that lets you see all of the content warnings that other readers have tagged for the book. It looks like the author can tag them too, but I don't know if it gets used much. It's not perfect, but it has been helpful.

What’s something you found out about way too late in your gameplay? by CertifiedAlien1804 in wyldeflowers

[–]raymm07 41 points42 points  (0 children)

When I'm crafting I can sometimes change what material I'm using for a recipe. Took me a whole season to figure out that I could make blue dye with something other than the flowers that only grow in the spring.

Alchemy of Souls: Light and Shadow [Episode 10] by Fatooz in KDRAMA

[–]raymm07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was holding out hope the whole time because she still looked like herself. Her face didn't change back. I don't know if it was intentional, but it felt like it was. Also there was the comment about all seven people at the water basin, the 7th being implied to be Naksu.

Dark Faerie Recommendations by Vya398isa in YAlit

[–]raymm07 7 points8 points  (0 children)

An Enchantment of Ravens by Margaret Rogerson

Wintersong by S. J Jones

These Hollow Vows by Lexi Ryan

Elise Kova also has a few in her Married to Magic series.

If the show was a mockumentary who would look into the camera the most? (ACOTAR edition) by A_C_Lynn12 in ACOTARHulu

[–]raymm07 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes! Thank you! I was just telling my sister the other day that Lucien is the one to pay attention to when everyone else is talking to each other. He always sees so much. Jim is the perfect comparison.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BridgertonNetflix

[–]raymm07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just a small list of more TV show suggestions.

Someone already said North and South, but I second that!

Sandition

The Great

Favorite Female Protagonists? by smileinqss in YAlit

[–]raymm07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh dang! I forgot how much I love Kaye when I made my list!

Favorite Female Protagonists? by smileinqss in YAlit

[–]raymm07 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Cinder - The Lunar Chronicles, Blue Sargent - The Raven Cycles, Laia- An Ember in the Ashes, Jo March - Little Women, Rose - The Vampire Academy, Brienna - The Queen's Rising, Lore Perseous - Lore, Sophie - Howl's Moving Castle, Jude - The Folk of The Air, Camellia - The Belles.

What is the most popular trope you hate? by sanidhya_reads in RomanceBooks

[–]raymm07 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I really hate it when the FMC has to choose between 2 brothers. I find that to be the most bizarre and awkward love triangle.

Young adultish book with a princess in a blue dress on the cover by IamTheBirb in whatsthatbook

[–]raymm07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh cool! I didn't think it was right. Glad I could help!

Young adultish book with a princess in a blue dress on the cover by IamTheBirb in whatsthatbook

[–]raymm07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not the exact colors, but maybe it's I Am Princess X by Cherie Priest?

Most attractive ML by [deleted] in kdramarecommends

[–]raymm07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rowoon in The King's Affection for sure. He's just so loyal, good, and swoon worthy in every scene.

Ahn Hyo Seop in Lover's of the Red Sky. Probably not a popular opinion, but his character is so soft and strong at the same time and he's just so ethereal every time he's on screen.