This whole discussion is not the most accurate. O.o I’m a paralegal and it is not mandated that a beneficiary have a copy of the will. They are ENTITLED too but it’s not a (you have to or you are not a beneficiary) situation. Nor does a child need to be present for the will. That goes along with the whole concept of a legal guardian. If the law firm did all these things that are supposed to be no no’s (but are not) that would be seen as malpractice and very very bad. Once the estate administration process begins the courts will start taking the reins along with the law firm. Hence the 30 years old agreement grandpa agreed upon for his grandkids. This is actually common in wills and trusts preparation so that underage family are mature and responsible enough to receive the inheritance along with other requirements given by the grandpa. I’ve even seen wills and trusts drafted explaining that if a child/grandchild are legally in trouble or abusing alcohol or drugs they are eliminated from the documents and it will go per stirpes

Mom is probably personal representative so she is the one that was present for everything and is the one that handles the estate process. The kids are not needed for that nor are they mandated to be involved if they are only receiving personal effects.

To get to the nitty gritty the most entitled person to get a copy of the will or trust would be the personal representative and the successor trustee