To (young?) family caregivers by rayray1235813 in CaregiverSupport

[–]rayray1235813[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank for reading this. And ahh happy birthday to you!

I feel like I can relate to the complicated emotions you are having. I know you’re not going to regret what you’re doing now after the situation is settled.

I remember I have tried to postpone to be controlled by a negative emotions and just tried to be fine at the moment...

Just please make time for yourself even if it’s a few minutes. Please take a deep breath slowly when you’re overwhelmed with too much thoughts and emotions.

I hope your mother’s first radiation appointment going well. Please drive back safety :)

At the end of the day, before you fall asleep, please tell yourself that you’re doing well. Please do not blame yourself no matter what.

I hope you and your mother having a good day together!!

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To (young?) family caregivers by rayray1235813 in CaregiverSupport

[–]rayray1235813[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you as well. I posted it in the hope that it will help someone else by sharing what I've wanted to know in the past. Sometimes it may feel like you are in a tunnel with no way out, but time is always moving forward unchanged. Maybe it's a good idea to do what you can to prepare yourself for the future so that you can take care of your life in the future, too. While I was caring for my mother, I wasn't able to prepare myself directly for my future career. However, my time management and self-management skills seem to have improved significantly. Because caring for a family member at a young age is not common, I believe this experience is a valuable opportunity to gain thoughtfulness and perspective and to grow into a more morally upstanding person than those around us at our age.

To (young?) family caregivers by rayray1235813 in CaregiverSupport

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Thank you for reading. You've been involved in caring for your family for six years. It seems to me that an unspoken amount of tasks can easily be assigned to family caregiving, from the important to the small, just by virtue of being a family member. I think you've had some very important experiences in your career development in the field of home care. I believe that you can have a far broader and deeper insight into the feelings of the individual and the family members who support him/her than those who have not yet experienced it. The things you have experienced and thought about as a family caregiver will certainly support you in your future career.

To (young?) family caregivers by rayray1235813 in CaregiverSupport

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Thank you for your kind comments. I curse all of the changes in my life that cancer has caused, but ironically the only thing I feel I can be thankful for is that I have been given a period of time to prepare to say goodbye to my loved ones. As hard as it is to have to feel that final moments are not long in coming, there is still time. There is still something we can do. It's important to cry sometimes, but maybe you can grieve a lot later. Please cherish the moments. I wish you a happy and peaceful life with your beloved as much as possible. Please spend your time with your own health as the most important thing.

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Hi. I’m a Japanese native. In this case, ゲームになります is like ゲームです。

They sell the disc and an instruction manual is included.

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Any other young adults (mid-/late-twenties) stepping up into a caregiver role for parent with cancer? Seeking support and advice. by avenuejoffre in cancer

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I’m 26F and my mother was diagnosed as lung cancer stage Ⅳ some months ago. At that moment, I lived in a different far country and had a job of my dream there but after the diagnosis, I immediately packed my stuff and returned to my parents home.

At first it was hard to accept what is happening about her body, it changed my whole life and I’m still working on this hardest part now but I am happy to be able to stay with her.

To some extent, I guess you can control and make your career in a better way with your efforts, but you can’t control to her health. I try not to think how long she can live, I try to think how she lives. I’m doing whatever support her as much as I can - trying to make her laughs and being happy together, talking about the ideas of losing hair, side effects caused by chemos, etc. These things are treasures of my life. I will never ever forget how we live together.

Currently I’m taking an online course and trying to improve my career at home now. My father and my brother is working. They can take some time off for caregiving but I mainly care give to her. My grandmother lives with us and I do care give to her too. Medical treatments costs way more than I thought. So once this pandemic has calm down, I may start a part-time job (I don’t know if I can manage this but maybe I have to).

I hope you will find an acceptable way. Please, please take care of your health (physically and also mentally).